What' ll relationship between he and me be?

[nan]

Hello everyone,
I' m a new one here. Please help me to clarify my answer about a guy whom I love but I' m not sure of his feeling and what' ll our relationship be. Because he hasn' t contacted me for a long time, I feel hurt so much, then I cann' t study and work effectively. Thank you in advance.
My result are :
Left Flame : 40 Hsieh/Deliverance. Changing line is the top line.
Right Flame : 64 Wei Chi/ Before Completion

[richardz]

Hello Nan,

I'm also fairly new here, I'll try to help you. Please excuse me for my English it it seems strange... I'm from The Netherlands you see.

I think what this line is trying to say firstly that it is time to act. Don't wait for this person to contact you, because he never might. You have to contact him. The text in Wilhelm is saying something like making your weapons ready... they are ready now.

Secondly you have to confront him with the feelings you wrote here. Tell him that he hasn't contacted you and because of that you feel hurt and it's affecting you in a bad manner. You have to watch carefully how he reacts... if he seems hardened in his behaviour... you might have to make the decision to free yourself from this man. But if he reacts in a manner that's to satisfaction of you it might be that you both have cleared something that was standing in the way of the relationship.

But firstly act and confront! That's what I'm sure about.

Resulting hexagram is 64... New beginnings, new roads to new goals... Looking good!

I hope I've helped you.

Kind regards,

Richard Zwart
The Netherlands
www.innertruth.net/itjing

[nan]

Thank you so much Richard. I' ll do that soon. I' ve tried to surf your web but I cann' t read that. Thank you again.

Nan

[richardz]

Hello Nan,

I'm sorry, yes my site is only in Dutch. I'm going to expand my site and eventually translate it in English... but I'm taking my time to accomplish this. So much to do...

Kind regards,

Richard Zwart

[hilary]

Hello Nan and Richard,

Just dropping by to say hello and welcome to both. There's not really much (anything?) to add to Richard's reading. (Thanks, Richard http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/i_ching_discussion/clipart/happy.gif ) Act decisively to release yourself from all this uncertainty and confusion, so you can get on with life. Or as the I Ching puts it, take careful aim at that great dark bird looming over your life, and shoot it down!

Hmm... as I thought, nothing to add!

It would be lovely if you could let us know how it goes, Nan.

[nan]

Hello Hilary,
It' s really hard for me to free my heart from him. Anyway, because he' s so busy and I don' t wanna disturb him in this period, I specify the due date that if he neither contact me back nor change the realtionship , I won' t contact him further. It' s really painful. You know?

Thank you for your welcome and carefulness.
Nan

[hilary]

Dear Nan,

Yes, I do know what you mean.

I think it might help to remember that Hexagram 40 is called Release: it's about untying knots and releasing tension. In relationships, it can mean disentangling from the 'net' of expectations - which translates into forgiveness - or sometimes being released from the connection itself. Part of the meaning of Release is being absolutely clear-sighted and decisive:

'With no place to go, coming back brings good fortune.
Having a direction to go, daybreak brings good fortune.'

All deceptively simple: if it isn't going anywhere, return to your own self; if your can see your way clearly to the goal, then set out with enthusiasm at daybreak.

The top line is at the extreme of Release. It's no longer just a matter of releasing your hold and seeing what comes, but the release of actually doing something decisive. The prince releases the tension in the bowstring to shoot down the hawk. That's why Richard was so emphatic about actively making contact.

Specifying a date sounds like a good start - clear and focussed. If you have to 'disturb him' to make sure he's awake to what's happening, then disturb him!

I hope this helps.

[nan]

Hello all,
thanks a lot. Now I' m waiting for that date that I can make a decision. Anyway, I' m what I' m and my life is going on. So, eventhough I feel so painful, I' ll do everything the best as I can.
I really appreciate your help so much.
Nan