Relationship question

[northland]

I am wondering about the nature of a relationship. We've definitely clicked but it is too early to say what it could evolve into if anything at all. The I Ching response to my question "What is my relationship to C. all about?" gave me 19/27. Sounds to me like someone new comes and that we "chew" and consider the possibilites but then again isn't that hexagram 20? Sometimes these two hexagrams seem almost the same (27 is about "taking things in" and 20 is about "things coming into view"... they both seem to be coming at you from outside to be 'digested' in a way.) Can anyone clarify the differences between them and help me with the details of the changing lines for my question?

much appreciated. J.

[mick]

Northland,

Hx 19 changing lines 2 and 6 sounds like a green light to me :~)

But take your time. I think that your relationship has reached a crucial point and it's important to look after yourself and not to rush it too much.

Sit back a little and enjoy it.

Hx 27 is about nurturing I think. Again, let yourself be nurtured and nourished by this new relationship.

Hx 20 for me is very different. It's more about looking at a situation and assessing it but not getting involved.

Hx 27 is more direct. You're in it now.

I think this is a very auspicious reading!

Mick

[northland]

Thanks Mick for pointing out the difference between 27 and 20. The former is necessarily involved while the latter remains purposefully distant. That makes a lot more sense than what I was thinking before.
Although I appreciate your positivity I still wonder about the "nature" of this relationship. I know that it is all good because this is my experience but as I said it is still too early for me to know what it all means in the Long run. I'm afraid of reading too much into it, yet I don't want to miss the boat either.
I suppose that is why 27 came up with all the talk of nurture and nourishing. Proper nourishment will allow it to Become the best it can become. But what Is the best that it can become...that is my question really...I think my question was too vague and general for the answer to be that specific.
Rephrasing and trying again I get 2/8. Hmmm...sounds to me like this has the makings of more than just business or friendship...right?
Thanks Mick. J.

[mick]

Northland,

I'm glad some of what I said was helpful.

I think that the answer might still be "wait and see".

Can you handle that?

I think your second reading is also very auspicious.

The fact that hexagram 2 appears really confirms for me that you must wait and recognise that you can't force this issue.

Total Yin energy. Receptivity, understanding, support, nurturing.

It's a very positive reading that definitely points towards a successful blossoming of the relationship into something closer and more intimate.

Don't force it, but try to make sure that you don't miss the boat. Trust your feelings and your instincts more than your thoughts I'd say.

That way, maybe you'll be able to recognise the moment when things become clearer for you.

I hope this helps a bit more?

Mick

[louise]

Hi Northland, just wanted to say that on the 'divination,discussion, tips' part of this site there was recently some discussion about the meaning of 19 and what it meant by 'in the eighth month there will be evil'. The discussion comes under the heading 'hexagram 19, contradiction'. I thought it might be helpful for you to read that - it suggests I think that with this hexagram you still have some 'harvesting' to do.
On the face of it though it certainly looks like a positive answer you received.

[hilary]

Hello Northland,

I have to agree with Mick that this has all the marks of something very positive and of above-average importance. Hexagram 19 can means something like 'here it comes...'

Maybe it also suggests that one of you has more of a leading role, tending to care for and guide the other? If that's the case, then hexagram 27 might suggest ways to move that forward into more balanced reciprocity.

Hexagram 27 is also about very basic needs and how to meet them in a balanced way, while also providing what the other person needs. You need to be alert to what the world is 'feeding you' and what you really want to 'swallow'.

It does ressemble Hexagram 20, in that they're both hexagrams that invite you to look at yourself and your situation - 27 has the title of 20 in its Judgement text, after all. But #27 is specifically about looking at how you and she nourish one another - that includes all the verbal and non-verbal messages you send.

That Hexagram 19 page Louise mentioned is here (http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/cgi-bin/discus/show.cgi?48/399).

I hope it all goes wonderfully well for you...

[northland]

Mick, Louise and Hilary,

Thank you for your time, ideas and suggestions. Sorry it has taken me so long to reply but I am presently working a double shift in order to afford the expense of living alone until I find a suitable roommate who can carry the load with me. Only enough time to eat, sleep, work and interview people.

Looking around at the board I noticed that around the same time on another page (http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/I_Ching_community/messages/92/404.html?1031944397)
as I was asking about H 27 and Hilary made the connection between It and H 20, someone else (Willow) brought up the combination of these hexagrams in relation to two separate questions they had. Willow didn't really comment on it, other than saying that it was discerning, nor did anyone else. Although I am definitely starting to understand the distinct difference between these two hexagrams I was curious what someone with background and insight would say about these two responding to the same question but showing up in reverse each time.

Thanks for everything. J.

[hilary]

Thanks for reminding me about that one. I've gone over to the page you mentioned and invited Willow to drop the other boot...

Good luck with finding a roommate!