19.1.4 The effects of my decision

[laylab]

Hello Everyone,

It's been a while since I have been on the boards. I hope everyone is doing well :)

Some things have changed in my life. I got back together with my ex, left my job and decided to go back to university and create an entirely new career (in Law)..I am in my mid-thirties so it's kind of a big deal to go back to school now!

I also had to make a decision about moving forward or not with my lover. The person who I have some inexplicable bond to. I decided that bringing joy to one man (the man I am now back together with) is more important to me than experiencing the passion and constant state of Hex 51 that my lover brought to my life.

We stopped being lovers about eight weeks ago but recently lunched together. In the end I saw that I just can not have ANY contact with him whatsoever. Not chatting, writing, talking, meeting for lunch...NOTHING.

So I told him to never contact me again period and made this very clear.

I feel great because of it. It's like a burden that both hurt me and pleased me has been lifted.

When I told him never to contact me I also made it clear that I did not even want a response and I blocked his email and other means of contacting me.

Things are peaceful.

I asked the IC how he feels/perceives/thinks about my decision and the end and it gave:

Hex 19.1.4

I read through the memorizing thread for 19 but couldn't make too much sense of it today.

any insights?

[laylab]

hmmm..no one has any idea about 19.1.4? Again, I read through the memorizing thread for 19 but couldn't make sense of what this combination means.

[topal]

hmmm..no one has any idea about 19.1.4? Again, I read through the memorizing thread for 19 but couldn't make sense of what this combination means.



Hi Laylab,

Thoughts of my own, but 19 has also given me lots of pondering time, so as ever, this is just some off the cuff stuff:

Sounds to me like the IC gave you an answer about you and the situation as it stands rather than how he feels. The energy is there, wise management of that energy has been achieved (i.e. addiction has been curbed) and now it's time to move forward. There's no point raking over what he thinks or feels as it's irrelevant. What did you learn about it? How are you different? If at all? The hooks are still in you, so best take advantage of the opportunity and make a clean break. Don't waste the energies (47).

Or others may interpret that it is describing directly how HE feels in which case, over to others as I have to go to work ;)

Topal

[laylab]

Topal,

thanks. I suspected that. That is probably why I got 27.1 when asking about him again. The IC is saying, "why are you so sad? let it go".

[bruce_g]

Spring is here. Why ponder winter? Winter will come soon enough.

[midaughter]

Please write your hexagram readings this way:
19: 1, 4, - 7


I would say with Approach, it simply means he approaches, the lower the line, the closer he is. By this time this has already occurred. That's all that means, there is no hidden significance.
the 4th line could mean you just go somewhere together and its good.

However, overall this is a situation of rising tension, likely to erupt.

[trojan]

Please write your hexagram readings this way:
19: 1, 4, - 7


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Hex 19 with lines 1 and 4 moving make hexagram 40 as far as i can see. Topal said 47, Mary says 7 - whats going on here !


Detail police at work -

[topal]

Hex 19 with lines 1 and 4 moving make hexagram 40 as far as i can see. Topal said 47, Mary says 7 - whats going on here !
Detail police at work -


:duh: I think that was a bit of projection from me as I'm very 47 at the moment - need a holiday. So it's 40 - makes even more sense. Good police work Ms. T.

Topal

[rosada]

"I asked how he feels."

19.1
Joint approach.
He agrees with you.
Perseverance brings good fortune.
He intends to hold to your mutual agreement and not try to contact you.

19.4
Complete approach.
He feels the separation was all your idea, but again he agrees with your decision.
No blame.
He does not blame you or himself that things have worked out as they have.

40. Deliverance.
The superior man pardons mistakes and forgives misdeeds.
Your friend bears you no ill will.

[midaughter]

sorry, I was very tired. 40 means you probably will be rid of him. It doesn't sound healthy anyway. Great indeed is the time of deliverance. Ni says cheer up, move out of the difficulty. No longer obstructed, move towards resolution of the problem with positive energy. all of this is very good fortune. Prepare, he does approach and this means quickly