Asking questions about others?

[benjiman]

Hey everyone, my first post here on this community!

I just got my the I Ching and some Yarrow Stalks and still trying to learn as much as possible (it never seems to stop). And this site serves me well, alot of good posts on these forums and information about the I Ching and its uses.

But there is one question I cant find the answer for, and thats if its possible to ask the I Ching about another person. A simple example would be if I could ask the I Ching "Does this person X hate/love/like/spite/envy me", that means if I can ask a question about someone elses feelings? I have alot more questions but one at the time :rolleyes:

//Benji

[miakoda]

There is a lot of room for debate about whether you can find out another person's feelings using the Yi Jing. In my experience it is possible, but only if you are doing it for the good of the relationship or to benefit the other person. I would suggest that you make your question less directive, though. Try: "What do I need to be aware of about X's feelings for me?" I recall Hilary suggesting something along the lines of: "How does X feel when he/she thinks of me."

Best,

Miakoda

[soshin]

Second that.

I would only add that my experience tells me that there is an impediment in the form of some sort of cosmic privacy protection in the answers of the Yi, if I would not meant or allowed to know her/his feelings or intentions.

Namaste,

Soshin

[benjiman]

Thanks for the replys, thats what I was thinking aswell, in the sense of "cosmic privacy", that sometimes you might just not be allowed to know what someone else is feeling. But in my case it would be what another person feels about me, but that might still be out of line in some sense. Hmm maybe it depends on the question aswell?

//Benji

[hilary]

Yes - depends on all kinds of things.

I also think there's 'cosmic privacy protection'. And there's also the mundane question of how well it'll work, even if the oracle's answer does contain a complete insight into another person's inner state. That is - what are your chances of understanding it? Sometimes asking about another person's state or likely response helps you to understand them and adds real depth and clarity to communication. Sometimes it gets you enmeshed in all kinds of fantasy, wishful-thinking interpretation, and total confusion. Sometimes you'd save yourself a whole lot of muddle and heartache by just talking to the other person in the first place.

[benjiman]

Yes - depends on all kinds of things.

I also think there's 'cosmic privacy protection'. And there's also the mundane question of how well it'll work, even if the oracle's answer does contain a complete insight into another person's inner state. That is - what are your chances of understanding it? Sometimes asking about another person's state or likely response helps you to understand them and adds real depth and clarity to communication. Sometimes it gets you enmeshed in all kinds of fantasy, wishful-thinking interpretation, and total confusion. Sometimes you'd save yourself a whole lot of muddle and heartache by just talking to the other person in the first place.

Thanks alot, its nice to have someone elses point of view, even if its actually the same deep down.
To tell the truth I already know the answer to my question, problem is its one of those questions where you always try to convince yourself that you are wrong somehow.

//Benji