social setbacks?50.3.4

[imsonicaal]

I was in a frustrated stage where I felt everything against me.
Although it may not be real I felt people hated me, even if it's just one.
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me?

50.3.4. -->4

any insights would be good

[crystal_blue]

I was in a frustrated stage where I felt everything against me.
Although it may not be real I felt people hated me, even if it's just one.
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me?

You might want to examine your need for everyone to not hate you. Do you fear someone who hates you might cause you some kind of harm?

[trojan]

I was in a frustrated stage where I felt everything against me.
Although it may not be real I felt people hated me, even if it's just one.
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me?

50.3.4. -->4

any insights would be good

I see your answer as possibly referring to criticism from others that has perhaps harmed your self image/self esteem.(50.4) and also that perhaps its been hard for others to see or appreciate your good qualities (50.3). Its an area you can't really understand at the moment (hex 4) this feeling of being hated, but it might help to check out if you've been put down alot and kind of internalised that judgement so you believe the bad things some people once said about you or to you. Anyhow the way i see your answer is not that theres something wrong with you but that at some point others have made you believe there was, if that makes sense.

[ravenstar]

I was in a frustrated stage where I felt everything against me.
Although it may not be real I felt people hated me, even if it's just one.
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me?

50.3.4. -->4

any insights would be good

I wonder if 50.3.4., could just be that your eagerness was somehow misconstrued by others?

And 4, may just mean to look at and try to understand how your approach (communication, body language) may come across to others. Don't back away, try again and again.

ravenstar

[rosada]

Hex.4 suggests to me that you are somehow a new in your situation and that you may need to simply give people time to get used to you. It also suggests that it is very important you do not ask too many questions or demand special attention or try to force your ideas on others. Rather you must use whatever opportunities you have to show yourself as being a regular guy, especially someone who is reliable. who follows through.

Hexagram 50.3 sounds to me as if you are a decent enough fellow, that you are not disliked but perhaps have been ignored. Also, you may have come on a bit too strong in the past. Cultivate a gentle presentation of yourself and it is important you develope your thoughts and talents so you have something worth saying and sharing. Eventually you will connect with others on your own wave length.

50.4 warns that you must really focus on doing this. You have talents worth developing, but they are not worthy of great attention yet. If you take things one day at a time, set small doable goals and follow the lead that comes to you, you'll do just fine. But if you only fantasize about how fabulous you could be if people would only give you a chance, then you will not be ready when your turn comes.

Basically I think the I Ching is saying you feel you deserve more attention and since you haven't gotten it, you think people actively dislike you. They don't, but you need to do more to be on the same wave length as those whose attention you desire. Keep polishing your skills as eventually you will connect with the people who are on your same level and you want to be sure it's a good one.

[willowfox]

I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me?

50.3.4. -->4

This says that people don't hate you, they just don't see you, so don't become depressed over nothing because eventually the problem as you envisage it will be resolved. It would seem that you are not occupying yourself with something constructive, you are only worrying about what other people think and this will only mess up your head.

Hex 4 tells you that you need to listen to sound advice, to learn where you are going wrong.

[rosada]

the Image for hexagram 4:
The superior man nourishes his character by thoroughness in all that he does.

[imsonicaal]

Thank you all.
It's given me something to mull about.
All of you gave facets of the hexagram that I didn't know about, and they make sense.

Thanks again