Hexagram 3 -No changing lines-relationship question

[tacap]

I asked the question" what do i need to know about my husband regarding our relationship". I got the hexagram 3 with no changing lines. We have been married for six years and have a child. We have been having difficulties in our relationship. My husband is very unemotional and I am the oppposite. We do not have a good sex life, he hardly touches me. I am working, very independent and good looking too. I can say the same for him also. He does not understand me and is very cut and dry to me bordering to rude. I do think on divorce, sometimes I think maybe he is not loyal...the positive is that he has helped me if i need anything done..logistics wise and supported me in my career....so I asked this question for insight...please help.

[willowfox]

" what do i need to know about my husband regarding our relationship". I got the hexagram 3

This indicates that your husband is going through some changes, something new is going on in his life and he is slowly adjusting to it, some new adventure. Does he have a new job, or a new business? Or is he seeing someone else? This hex suggests you will need outside help with this problem.

[rosada]

Although you have been together for 6 years, I read Difficulty at the Beginning as refering to the hard time the two of you have had in co-ordinating your very different natures. Perhaps it is also commenting that your husband himself does not have a clear vision of what a happy partnership looks like? Was his family life growing up rather cool? Hex.3 specifically recommends getting some help.

[fallada]

I remember the same question in a very similar context with the same unmoving hex as an answer many years ago…...

His actions were often irrational and hard to understand. The bits and pieces of his actions and the contradicting traits of his personality didn’t seem to add up. I couldn’t weave them into a consistent fabric of meaning. Looking back, he was an emotionally immature and very insecure person, still a child…. and just as manipulative and provocative as children can be when they want to know how far they can push the limits ….

In hex 4 we are being educated, in hex 3 it’s trial and error, chaotic and wild growth, without a teacher. Maybe he grew up without a parent that would teach him ‘emotions’ and how to handle them.

[tabitha]

I hope it is ok to say--- sometimes it is better to talk to the person than the i ching

[rickmatz]

I've been married for nearly 25 years. At around that time, six or seven years into it, we hit a rough spot.

It's normal. You grind through it. The adversity tells you (both of you) what you're made of.

Relationships are work.