Help with 54.5

[firehorse]

I have been having alot of difficulty lately, in the form of carrying much emotional baggage that I know that I seem to be stuck on at this time. It is about a relationship that is over, and has been over for a long time. I have held on to hope unrelentlessly, and foolishly.

I recently attended a holiday event, and he was there, with the woman he dumped me for over a year ago. I knew she existed, but having to see her, and see her with him....it openned alot of old wounds, because there never really was "closure" in this relationship. And because we frequently see each other at work, we sort of had to remain friends.

I made the decision in my head that I really needed to cut all ties with him, just so I could help myself move on. I feel like I am going through the stages of grief all over again, and feeling all the anger, hurt and pain...all the "what's wrong with me, etc." And I just can't believe that I am here all over again!!!!

And I asked the question "How do I best help myself to move on?"

54.5>58

I am somewhat confused, because this is a particularly auspicious reading, but it is about relationships, isn't it?

Or am I just being told to accept my fate?

I would love someone's insight into this. Accepting fate sounds so easy, but how do I get there?

[cguleff]

Firehorse,

To me, moving on looks encouraging. By coming back to yourself, you will be preparing yourself for a better relationship with someone else -- someone more appropriate and better for you. This is what I see, anyway.

Chris

[cguleff]

Firehorse,

Just a personal note, aside from the reading . . . I fully empathize with what you're going through. I've experienced a number of damaging relationships myself. I'm in the process of undoing the damage done to me and removing blocks that have prevented me from dating people to whom I am attracted, who are compatabible with me, and who are emotionally able to handle a healthy relationship. I'm setting this up as a project using intuitional tools and methods to heal myself so that I can move on.

Best wishes to you!

Chris

[learner]

Dear Firehorse

Some thoughts about your reading, the way I see it. You believe that you are at a disadvantage - the "secondary position" represented by the hexagram as a whole. You regret having lost someone that seemed to be very important in your life. However, you are not completely right in your assumptions. What I think that the Yi is trying to show you is that you are in a much better position than you can see at the moment - the fifth line express that.
Therefore, you have the resources within you to find true happiness and there are good opportunities now to re-build your personal life and meet someone better for you. Even though you cannot see clearly at the moment (because you believe that your best opportunity has been lost...) all the doors are open to you. All you have to do is take the step forward.

Hope it helps.

Mirian

[stuart]

I believe the sage is telling you that those who wait are better rewarded.I think in the future a good relationship is on its way.

[firehorse]

Thank you Chris, Mirian and Stuart. I complettely understand what you are saying, just wish that I could see it a little more clearly right now. The pain is so sharp that it all feels so fresh. I can't believe I am relieving this after all this time.

I particular like what you said, Mirian, about being in a better position than I can see - it actually brings me up a bit.

I'm sorry I took so long to thank you all - just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment.