help! i'm a little afraid of this one!

[rosalind]

I have been working towards reconciling with me ex husband, and when we split, he thought i'd never come back. he started seeing a girl from work. we've been talking and are very friendly and i am being patient, because he says he needs time and counceling and is afraid of me hurting him. I have gotten a pretty positive reading on our relationship recently from i ching (thanks to you guys who helped me with interpreting). he has said that he can't stay this way for long, it's obviously hurting people.

I have had a feeling the last two weeks that he will or has cut off the other relationship. he started counselling, which he was resisitant to, and tells me we have a possibility of reconciling after some time.
I sent an email to him this morning, explaining how i am having a hard time knowing if i move on or wait for him but that I will try.
I asked the I ching "How will X respond to my email?' I asked because i thought he'd possibly tell me he's broken off the other thing. I got 41 chg lines 1 3 6 to 46.
line three has me in a fit. a third party gets cut. it might be me.but they are not serious at all. Any indication by the reading how this looks for me? i'm kinda losing it a little.

[rosalind]

i just read someone elses old post about 41.3. Maybe it's telling me to cut myself out of the equation. and believe me, i already considered it. it seems a risky move for me given my goal. I'm not a sucker, we have a son and we agree it would be best for him if we were together. that's why haven't just told him "i'm out".

[willowfox]

"How will X respond to my email?' I asked because i thought he'd possibly tell me he's broken off the other thing. I got 41 chg lines 1 3 6 to 46.

The first line suggests that he will think about his behaviour and how he can help you, the next line suggests that if he has cut the other relationship like you said then he will come looking for you, anyway, not to worry as the line says if there are 3 of you then the other woman will get jealous and leave, so hang in there, don't you leave. Line 6 is good as it suggests that he will stir himself into action which will benefit you and goes on to say that he will no longer be separated from you.
Hex 46 says that he will be successful in trying to get it all together again, growth is indicated.

[rosalind]

willowfox, thank you for your insight. I am so nervous but it seems like things will improve. i hope you're right. i believe that it is no coincidence that i drew that reading as i was thinking about the possibility of him cutting off the other relationship.

[Tony_L]

I have been working towards reconciling with me ex husband ...he started seeing a girl from work. we've been talking and are very friendly...he says he needs time and counceling and is afraid of me hurting him...
I sent an email to him this morning, explaining how i am having a hard time knowing if i move on or wait for him but that I will try.
I asked the I ching "How will X respond to my email?' ...
I got 41 chg lines 1 3 6 to 46.
line three has me in a fit. a third party gets cut. ...

Hi Rosalind,

Your question was about your X's reaction to your email.
41 > 46: Decrease, loss, diminished involvement > Ascending, climbing step by step.
To climb out of the situation, he realizes that he must reduce his involvement (it's not clear with who).

41.1 He realizes he must leave something behind.
41.3 He realizes he must make a choice and reduce the triangle to a couple.
41.6 He does not want to hurt you. He needs more help from his counselor to sort things out (he acquires servants or ministers).
46 He realizes he must bring order to his life and rise above the chaos.

In summary, his reaction to your email is to reazlize that he needs to clarify what he wants to do with the help of his counselor so that he can make a decision and move onward and upward in his life.

[rosalind]

I think updates are good, so we can see when our interpretations are accurate. in this situation, it turns out that he did actually cut off the other relationship. line three was correct, he's walking alone. time for himself to figure things out.
I don't expect him around here anytime soon, but just thought i'd update!