ben_s
April 16th, 2008, 05:08 AM
Sorry that this runs a bit long, but it's one of a handful of heavy issues weighing me down until I get a resolution.
Someone else was hurt by other people, and put through a bad situation. I have given up too much of my life, at tremendous cost to me, to help the victim reclaim an ordinary life. The intention to help was good. But I did more than I really had to do, at the expense of taking care of my own basic needs. I asked the Yi for advice.
First question: I want to see this person get the help they need, but without their recovery consuming all of my life.
16.5 enthusiasm > 45 gathering together
Six in the fifth place means: Persistently ill, and still does not die. Here enthusiasm is obstructed. A man is under constant pressure, which prevents him from breathing freely.
The person will not die if I do not endlessly help them. The effort to always be there for them, carrying them or providing CPR so to speak, becomes a constant pressure that keeps me from my own life.
Gathering Together shows that both the other person and me can each find our right groups of people to help us. The other person does not have to desperately cling to me, nor do I have to always be there for them.
Follow-up question: How do I get free of the oppression of the constant pressure of 16.5.
2.5,6 receptive > 20 contemplation
My life has been made excessively yin - including giving up my powers to think for myself, see for myself, hear for myself, speak for myself. I've given up the protectively blocking Yang power to have healthy boundaries - to close my heart to destructive negativity that I can't solve. This is very bad news for a guy, even a sensitive one!
and now that has to change
which is a hell of a relief actually
Six in the fifth place... When anyone is called upon to work in a prominent but not independent position, true success depends on the utmost discretion. A man's genuineness and refinement should not reveal themselves directly; they should express themselves only indirectly as an effect from within.
That's fine, but being this person's servant is NOT my calling in life. I am not called upon to work in this kind of position, I fell or was pushed into it!
In the top place the dark element should yield to the light. If it attempts to maintain a position to which it is not entitled and to rule instead of serving, it draws down upon itself the anger of the strong. A struggle ensues in which it is overthrown, with injury, however, to both sides.
That's where we're at now.
20 My job is to get my head and heart straightened out by following my own inner light. My own conscience and spiritual life must be my guide, instead of being buffeted around by the emotional upheaval of others. Then my inspiration from inside myself is inspiring leadership to many. The life I should live is to share a unique perspective that helps many people (there's that consulting angle again). I am not to give up everything to be the humble servant of just one person who really should take more of my advice rather than my energy, time and money (2.6).
Third question: This person wants to be a principal in my new consulting venture. What is the outcome of letting them do that, instead of just hiring them as a subcontractor when I need their skills.
5.1,2,4 > 31
This seems like a great big red flag warning signal to me.
Final question: and what if this person is a subcontractor only, not a principal?
17.4 > 3
Flatterers no, helpers yes. It's OK to use this person as a hired hand, but not to give them an extra set of keys to my desk!
Someone else was hurt by other people, and put through a bad situation. I have given up too much of my life, at tremendous cost to me, to help the victim reclaim an ordinary life. The intention to help was good. But I did more than I really had to do, at the expense of taking care of my own basic needs. I asked the Yi for advice.
First question: I want to see this person get the help they need, but without their recovery consuming all of my life.
16.5 enthusiasm > 45 gathering together
Six in the fifth place means: Persistently ill, and still does not die. Here enthusiasm is obstructed. A man is under constant pressure, which prevents him from breathing freely.
The person will not die if I do not endlessly help them. The effort to always be there for them, carrying them or providing CPR so to speak, becomes a constant pressure that keeps me from my own life.
Gathering Together shows that both the other person and me can each find our right groups of people to help us. The other person does not have to desperately cling to me, nor do I have to always be there for them.
Follow-up question: How do I get free of the oppression of the constant pressure of 16.5.
2.5,6 receptive > 20 contemplation
My life has been made excessively yin - including giving up my powers to think for myself, see for myself, hear for myself, speak for myself. I've given up the protectively blocking Yang power to have healthy boundaries - to close my heart to destructive negativity that I can't solve. This is very bad news for a guy, even a sensitive one!
and now that has to change
which is a hell of a relief actually
Six in the fifth place... When anyone is called upon to work in a prominent but not independent position, true success depends on the utmost discretion. A man's genuineness and refinement should not reveal themselves directly; they should express themselves only indirectly as an effect from within.
That's fine, but being this person's servant is NOT my calling in life. I am not called upon to work in this kind of position, I fell or was pushed into it!
In the top place the dark element should yield to the light. If it attempts to maintain a position to which it is not entitled and to rule instead of serving, it draws down upon itself the anger of the strong. A struggle ensues in which it is overthrown, with injury, however, to both sides.
That's where we're at now.
20 My job is to get my head and heart straightened out by following my own inner light. My own conscience and spiritual life must be my guide, instead of being buffeted around by the emotional upheaval of others. Then my inspiration from inside myself is inspiring leadership to many. The life I should live is to share a unique perspective that helps many people (there's that consulting angle again). I am not to give up everything to be the humble servant of just one person who really should take more of my advice rather than my energy, time and money (2.6).
Third question: This person wants to be a principal in my new consulting venture. What is the outcome of letting them do that, instead of just hiring them as a subcontractor when I need their skills.
5.1,2,4 > 31
This seems like a great big red flag warning signal to me.
Final question: and what if this person is a subcontractor only, not a principal?
17.4 > 3
Flatterers no, helpers yes. It's OK to use this person as a hired hand, but not to give them an extra set of keys to my desk!