Feeling good about the situation

[plupp]

Hello,

After having had hex 28 as an answer of my current situation, I am suddenly feeling that the wind is blowing toward more fruitful circumstances even if I don't know what they are yet. So I asked:

1. Give me a picture of a's relationship with b. Answer 32 moving line 1 = 34
2. What are a's feeling towards me? Answer 20 no moving lines.
3. What are my true feelings towards a? Answer 15 with moving lines 5 and 6 = 53.

My interpretation:
1. a is thinking of getting married but is running into it too quickly.
2. a is contemplating how he is feeling about me, trying to understand what it's all about, trying to get the big picture.
3. My feelings are true and sincere and if I continue to be humble and "15ish" I will see a gradual development (of what I am not sure…of my feelings to a? leading to what?)

Any of your wise insights would be appreciated.
Thanks as always.

[dobro]

Any of your wise insights would be appreciated.

I apologize for coming across as a grumpy bugger, but the wisest insight I've got for you is that none of the three questions you asked are particularly useful.

Even if you knew what a's relationship with b was, you're assuming you'd know what to do about it or be able to handle the situation skillfully with that knowledge. Not true.

Even if you knew what a's feelings are toward you, you're assuming you'd know what to do about it or be able to handle the situation skillfully with that knowledge. Not true.

Even if the Yi told you what your real feelings for a are (What? You mean, you don't KNOW how you feel about a? Yikes!), you're assuming that would help you find those feelings. Not true.

Your three questions are imposing YOUR agenda of what you want to know on the Yi. It's my not-so-humble opinion lol that you get much better results from the Yi when you lay down your own agenda and ask it, as humbly and patiently as possible: "Okay, help me here. What do I need to know about this situation with a?" When I say 'patiently' I mean that when you get the Yi's answer to your question, you live with it and think about it and talk about it for at least a few weeks before you ask the next question. The dynamics of your relationship with a aren't going to change any more quickly than that. So, you don't need more than the one answer to the one question for about a month.

IMHO

[plupp]

thansk dobro. I didn't mean to force my agenda on the Yi so I apologize if I did. The answer did resonate in me but it's possible that the Yi just answered me rubbish as the questions, according to you, are rubbish or useless. I am open for all possibilities:). I don't think the situation between me and a will change quickly, I doubt it will ever change but I don't depend on that to feel good about life. I know what I know and feel what I feel and for the moment I am happy with that and to me that make sense. And compared to some other questions I read on this forum I don't think my questions were that useless at least not to me but we all think and feel differently so all opinions are welcome as long as they are not mean.

[dobro]

it's possible that the Yi just answered me rubbish as the questions, according to you, are rubbish or useless

No, I didn't say they were rubbish questions, and I didn't say they were useless. I said they were 'not particularly useful'. And I added another question that I thought was more useful.

[willowfox]

2. What are a's feeling towards me? Answer 20 no moving lines.

I see A's feelings about you as being very neutral, it appears that he is trying to understand what makes you tick, why you do the things that you do, studying you with dispassion.

Also, it would appear that you would very much like something to happen between you and A.

[plupp]

2. What are a's feeling towards me? Answer 20 no moving lines.

I see A's feelings about you as being very neutral, it appears that he is trying to understand what makes you tick, why you do the things that you do, studying you with dispassion.

Also, it would appear that you would very much like something to happen between you and A.

Thanks Willofox. Yes, I guess A is studying me with dispassion and I also guess his feelings for me are neutral and I don't think he is spending too much time in his "studies" over me. As for me, to like something to happen between someone you like and yourself I think is more than normal and I think I am free to do that, if I, at the same time, am realistic about it = that it will 99.9% never happen (not to say 100%).

It's a very slow process of letting go. There is always a reason behind doing something and I think I know my reasons.

Btw, why did you only commented on the question re hex 20?

[plupp]

No, I didn't say they were rubbish questions, and I didn't say they were useless. I said they were 'not particularly useful'. And I added another question that I thought was more useful.

Ok, not particular useful. I asked the question you suggested, thanks, and the answer was not at all in line with how I would like the situation to be, in fact it was very clear so I don't even need help with the interpretation. But I am ok with that, still feeling good so everything is fine...for the moment.

[willowfox]

Btw, why did you only commented on the question re hex 20?

I thought your interpretation of the first question was probably well on target so no need to comment, and I answered your third question by saying that you would like to be much closer to A.

[plupp]

thanks willofox for these clarifications.