33.6 to 31 Relationship Retreat

[openheartsf]

Hi all, a week or so ago I posted about a relationship that wasn't moving. Not ending...not beginning...just in limbo. The lines seemed positive. I received subsequent guidance from the yi to pull back...give it time, be patient, which I have done.I haven't spoken to him in over a week

This space from the relationship has been good for me and given me much needed time for inner reflection. I've become less attached to the situation, although I do indeed care deeply for him and wonder if there is a future for us.

Today I asked:

"What do I need to know about X?"

33.6) Retreat

31.) Wooing

I see that 33.6 is about a cheerful retreat. A "withdrawal with potential". I'm wondering if the Yi is just giving me a picture of the current situation...or should this be a permanent retreat.

Despite my attempt at total detachment, I still hope I that things might get moving.

And how does 31 play in to this...if at all...

I asked about him, but maybe this is just about me.

Thanks!

[dobro]

Probably the time frame for the 33.6 draw is similar to the one week timeframe you've just experienced since the last consultation - that's how your mind's working right now - the Yi says 'give it some time' and you give it a week. So when the Yi says (33.6) 'pull out', your mind's probably got a one-week timeframe assumption. Can you think of any reason why it would be longer?

[openheartsf]

Hi Dobro,

I’m not sure I understand your question.

Basically I want to give him time to decide what to do and to not smother him, because the last time I saw him he told me that he’s not looking for a serious relationship right now. And truthfully, at this moment in time I’m not either, but I’m not opposed to dating and getting to know him more. I’m not sure why he assumes I want something serious…I never said that, and I’ve never pressured him for anything.

This transition from good friends to “lovers” has been slippery to say the least.
I’ve heard from him twice over the past week (one email and one phone call). They have been “just thinking of you” type messages, which I haven’t returned.

To be honest I don’t even know what I want from this. I think we are aligned in that we both want to keep it light, but I think HE thinks I’ve planned the wedding and named the children already…men and their ego’s! (jk).

My thoughts are that there is some fear-based stuff going on with him. So, in my mind this retreat feels necessary to avoid “talking” it into the ground and loosing the natural flow of things. I just feel like now is not the time for talking.

Last week I asked the yi “am I ready for a relationship with x?”

I received 13.1 (friendship, uncomplicated companionship, a union just beginning) changing to 33 (that was the first time I got 33).

That reading does seem to say similar things as this current one...guess I should stop pestering yi now :)

[steve]

33.6 to 31 Relationship Retreat
Hi
I see the line similar to yourself and yes it is a friendly retreat but 31 is wooing
so simply it says to retreat for the time being until maybe the time is right and if you feel the same as him thats what needs to come to the surface
then 31 may make more sense

The next reading seems to say a similar thing
it appears to be a simple lack of communication, perhaps not as serious as you may have first felt

Steve

[openheartsf]

Thanks, Steve. I have decided to continue my retreat. I am sure movement to this situation will come soon enough.