Hex 5 again - what is the waiting about?

[openheartsf]

I really miss my friend. I asked the yi "why doesn't he call me?"

I received Hex 5.1,2 4 to 31

I'm truly confused and I've lost perspective on this. .

I know 5 is about waiting and 31 is Influence/Attraction but what do the moving lines mean in Hex 5 in relation to 31. I'm fairly new to the Yi and I struggle with multiple moving lines. I can read their meanings individually but how do I paint a story when they often don't make sense together?

Thanks!

[dobro]

5 is about waiting for something important to happen, and 31 is about being influenced by something. You asked: "Why doesn't he call me?" and the Yi answered: "He's waiting until he feels moved to do so."

[trojan]

I really miss my friend. I asked the yi "why doesn't he call me?"

I received Hex 5.1,2 4 to 31

I'm truly confused and I've lost perspective on this. .

I know 5 is about waiting and 31 is Influence/Attraction but what do the moving lines mean in Hex 5 in relation to 31. I'm fairly new to the Yi and I struggle with multiple moving lines. I can read their meanings individually but how do I paint a story when they often don't make sense together?

Thanks!

I think it advises to take care to reduce your anxiety levels. Line 4 i find is a pretty painful place to be - 'waiting in blood'. To be honest i don't think its a good place to go on waiting - move somehow or you get really caught in negative emotion. I haven't followed previous posts of yours so don't know the story. If you are holding out in any way maybe its costing you more than its worth. If not it seems line 1 indicates theres still some waiting time to go -if you can't relax in this time its going to cost you in terms of nervous energy and unpleasant tension.(line 4) Don't make waiting a nightmare for yourself by overthinking, speculation (line 2)

I find 5 generally indicates what is waited for is coming - in its own time - though of course i woouldn't like to say for sure the call is coming - don't know the situation. If for any reason you think the person won't call i feel line 4 would say not to hang around in painful anticipation - move yourself out of that phase one way or another. If you are certain the call will come then while you wait don't wait in painful anxiety. 31 indicates readiness and openess to approach - wonder if this person is waiting for you to call...ooh hang on just read your question is 'why doesn't he call' well if the yi is answeringhtat question direct and i have no way of knowing that - then maybe this person is waiting for you to call.

perhpas i confused you more - hmm anyway I do know 5.4 is no place to wait, it hurts, move out of that pit ! Call him or stop waiting or do something

[openheartsf]

Thanks Trojan I get so confused by the lines. I can handle interpreting one moving line but when there are multiple changing lines my mind can't weave any meaning out of it.

I don't think I can call now so I'd better get out of the pit. It's true this has been giving me some anxiety and even some lost sleep. Maybe he will call me eventually, but I can't be sure. I'm worried that this friendship is over and there really isn't much I can do about it unfortunately unless I can miraculously turn off my feelings for him. Not sure that I can and even if I did it would still be strained I'm afraid.

Thanks!

[diamanda]

Perhaps it all means,
5 - "you're waiting",
5:1 - "it would be ok if you were waiting in calmness",
5:2 - "things are not very calm, but try to remain calm",
5:4 - "you can't really do that, you're in anguish"...
...so try to not see it as 'waiting', but transform it in your mind into 31.

Don't try to switch off your feelings for him, don't try to wait in calmness,
because it's not feasible. Instead, concentrate yourself on becoming 31,
a calm receptive person, someone whole and self-contained, someone
who needs to do nothing else except be there, content, quietly influencing
and ready to receive whoever worthy comes along wooing. Think, for example,
the most alluring female you happen to know. Try that principle. Think of a
woman who is successful with men. Can you picture her sitting at home
waiting, biting her nails, for when just one particular man will call? Of course
she may well fancy him... but she pays attention to her own quiet influence
and quiet power of attracting. Not only him... but the best one of those who
are attracted. At least this is how the theory goes :-)

[willowfox]

"why doesn't he call me?"

I received Hex 5.1,2 4 to 31

The question was about your friend and the lines suggest that he is having problems of his own, the first line shows the problem getting closer and line 4 shows him now to be in the thick of it.

Then we come to Hex 31 which shows he will contact you in due course, so just be patient a while longer.

[applegirl]

I think it advises to take care to reduce your anxiety levels. Line 4 i find is a pretty painful place to be - 'waiting in blood'. To be honest i don't think its a good place to go on waiting - move somehow or you get really caught in negative emotion.

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hmm anyway I do know 5.4 is no place to wait, it hurts, move out of that pit ! Call him or stop waiting or do something
Having been going through a similar '5' experience (5 ->56) I just want to second those thoughts of Trojans, could they BE any more on the money? :) The waiting seems interminable, and yes, 5.4 seems to be the most intense time of it. It's a horrible place to be in - waiting in the blood, like the emotions are in the blood, you can't get away from them. Even if you know intellectually that it's not good for you to be like that, it seems like the emotions have got right in on you.

How best to get out of the pit then? I think that's something that you need to decide for yourself. I'm still going through this situation so it may be premature for me to advise you. However, for me, the breakthrough has started to slowly come through a combination of just being sick of the emotions being 'in the blood' and wanting them (and him) out of there. I think sometimes when emotional exhaustion happens, ones intellect can kick in and one can start looking at the facts of the situation. That's when realisations start to come through. You start seeing things in the cold light of day, without the colours of the affection and love.

I'm going through my 5.6 phase at the moment ... not sure who the 3 uninvited guests are but I'm being open to anything that happens and I'm holding on to anything positive in the situation. Not positive as in 'I think he's coming back', but positive in 'I'm feeling healthier about this, I think I'm letting go'.

I've also used the intense emotions to write some poetry and I'm going to put down a few tracks too, so if you can find some release for the 5.4 emotions, that could also help. At least you'll have something to show for that time :)

Oh and also, what Diamanda is saying is spot on, I believe this '5' time is for nourishing yourself, evolving into who you want to be.

I wish you the best of luck Openheart, the '5' experience speaks to me, so I have a sense of what you're going through - it will get better though and you're not alone.

Applegirl ;)

[openheartsf]

Thank you Diamanda, Willowfox and Applegirl!

I think I’m out of the pit! I still think of him from time to time but I’m certainly NOT sitting by the phone anxiously awaiting his call. Truth is I don’t want someone who doesn’t want to be with me. I love your advice Diamanda about being the “it” girl who goes about her business in a calm way not worried about HIM because she’s secure and confident in her femininity and receptivity…it’s a perfect description of where I want to be and I feel that I’m almost there!

Applegirl, I feel for you and thanks for your sisterly support. Take it from me, it DOES get easier to release these guys we pine for. It takes time but it will happen. I used to think of this guy 23 hours out of the day and now it’s down to maybe 2 hours! LOL! But in my experience with dating, the guys who “rejected” me were not the right one’s for me.
Hindsight is 20/20 but I ALWAYS see this so clearly later and so I can take solace in knowing the universe is looking out for me. So I’m sure your 5.6 experience will pass soon. And I always try to remember that hex 5 is active waiting, so we should not be sitting around twiddling our thumbs. Let’s keep our lives busy and remember that good things come to those who wait. And no guy should have the power to put us in the pit!

Willowfox your interpretation also rings true to me. While this man is a true friend he does have some issues to deal with and I do feel he’s in a place where his ego is still attracted to drama. I am wishing him well now in working out this problem whatever it is. When the time is right, he will call.

In the mean time I’m going out and having fun and doing what I love to do (and meeting other men in the process).

Blessings all!

OpenheartSF

[applegirl]

Openheart, I'm really happy for you that you're 'out of the pit'. You seem like you have great perspective on the situation. Thank you for your encouragement, I too see the benefit of hindsight, it's just in this situation there is none yet because he remains part of my working life. It just makes things harder, not impossible, and I know I'm a very strong woman and I'll be fine. Thanks again for the support and best of luck in the future

Applegirl ;)

[applegirl]

Just had to post again .... the title of your post reminds me of the 2nd line in a song by Calexico called 'Yours and Mine'. The mention of waiting, while everyone's blood going wild is so hex5, actually the whole song is really! Here are the lyrics:

Getting late for decision
What's that waiting about
Horses are chomping at the bit
The gate is nearly busted down
Moment before the calm of the storm
And everyone's blood goes wild
Except yours and mine

How many years has it taken
Your restless heart growing old
Horses running off on their own
And the stable's burnt to the ground
The longer you wait
Your decision will fade
And wind up wasting this time
Yours and mine

The freaky thing about it is, while I was going to find the lyrics, a banner ad on the website caught my eye:

Waiting (http://picasaweb.google.com/applegirliegirl/ForWebsites/photo#5227228911891430306)

http://picasaweb.google.com/applegirliegirl/ForWebsites/photo#5227228911891430306

Isn't that freaky!!!!

Applegirl ;)