48 Hexagram changing lines 2 and 6

[manitoba33]

Hi all...

I just drew this hexagram in response to the question.

"Does A actually love and respect me."

And I got hexagram 48 which symbolizes depth and union but the changing lines seem contradictory.

What can you tell me about this??

[kevin]

Hi Manitoba

First what were the changing lines please ? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/I_Ching_community/clipart/happy.gif

Second your question was twofold... love and respect are two different things. So it would be easy for the two to appear in the reading as a conflict.

Let us know the lines... see what folk here can do to help.

All the best

--Kevin

[kevin]

Oops - The lines were in the title - sorry

--K

[kevin]

The overall situation is 58 ? The Joyous market place ? communication.

Well that?s one description for being out there wondering if this is the one.

Line two is representation of a well which does not serve as a well? the jug is broken the water has fish in it and some folk passing by just shoot the fish? almost casually.

But it could be that the well of opportunity is not really there for them.

Were the well to be the deep love and commitment you might want to offer, then it is not being taken seriously - yet.

Line 6 - I am going to give the Crossline Omen here ? It might be worth pondering:

?(47.1 [58.1 : 57.6] 48.6): You have been hurt or punished, but do not retreat into melancholy darkness. The time is changing and an opening draws near. Go back and accept the challenge. Express yourself freely. Do not go any farther into the old drama, full of sexual intrigue and domestic struggle. Step outside the norms and re-imagine the situation. Co-operate with the ongoing process of change.?

Could it be that the other is not yet taking this seriously and line 6 is what might become of it were you to become a real well?

Hope I do not offend by my directness.

Wishing you well

--Kevin

[manitoba33]

This is interesting. The Crossline Omen is DEAD on... But if an opening draws near, what is my best way to reach this opening. By being resolute, strong, silent?

He said something so fundamentally hurtful to me that I feel I have no other choice than to not speak to him for a couple of weeks...just for my own self-preservation and to make a point. Maybe a well-timed retreat will make him more likely to bring the 6 changing line. Is this what you were saying? Isolate and nourish myself during this time and maybe he will appreciate/respect/love me more... ?

[jesed]

Hi Manitoba

Just in case the comment could be useful

I had find more help asking another question:
"General Diagnosis of the relationship between X and I"

You could find interest advices from that question.

Best wishes

[ewald]

While 48.2 is an indication of a relationship that is not been taken sufficient care of, 48.6 is saying something differently. I'm translating 48.6 as:
<blockquote>The well receives.
Do not cover it,
have trust.
It is a source of good fortune.</blockquote>
This indicates that the well, that one expects to only give, is now receiving, and that this is actually a good thing. Perhaps one person in the relationship has felt to only be expected to give, while giving should go both ways.

The hexagram is changing to #53, which is about a gradual development. The relationship needs to grow and develop. It's a good idea to focus on that.

[dobro]

48.2.6>53: Drawing on depth that advances gradually

"Does A actually love and respect me?"

The apparently contradictory lines (48.2 and 48.6) could indicate that A's love and respect are not simple and unmixed. (By the way, I once asked the Yi to what extent I could usefully think of the 'water' imaged in Hex 48 as love, and the Yi responded affirmatively. If that's the case, then A's love is mixed in some way.)

48 talks about drawing on depth, and that's a wonderful image to describe a close relationship. 53 talks about gradual but steady advance, but I'd like to point out that the imagery involved is conjugal. So in the context of your question about the heart sincerity of A in relation to you, the Yi seems to saying either:

"Go deep and draw on the depth to advance with this person" or

"A's feelings draw on the depth in a way that gradually advances both themselves and the relationship."

I know this doesn't make the situation any clearer - there's that apparent contradiction on the micro level while the macro picture looks pretty sweet. But again and again, I think the Yi gives an accurate image of the situation, and again and again I find that situation have elements of contradiction and complexity built into them.

[manitoba33]

Thank you all! This is very helpful...