masami
October 9th, 2008, 06:41 PM
a man and me. we had five month together. it was a long distance relationship. at the end he told me not to be ready for a new relationship again and left me. (he was married for 15 years before.)
thats 2 and a half month ago.
for me it was very hard, for him maybe easing. i let him go.
since then every two or three weeks he has been writing a short message to me.
seems he trys to keep contact. i was very carefuly and behaved neutral, cause i was very bruised.
a few days ago he sent a birthday present to me and the wish to have a coffee and likes to hug me.
i`m not over it, still thinking on him too, but i am not sure if someone can be healed in 2 month.
and maybe we dont have the same ambitions in life. i`m not a mother yet and wish to be one (not so much time anymore) he already has a child and does not know if he likes to have one more. (the child discussion was always made by him, much to early, but a debate on principles)
but to make a longe story short:
i asked:
"how would it be for me to see him?"
18.1.:
is the yi telling me: stop speculations?
say good bye to your "unborn" child or to him. you cant have both!
18.2.:
maybe my mistakes cause the breakup, maybe i was to fast in this relatinoship.
but i was in love and had strong feelings... its not easy for me to make small steps then.
maybe you can tell me:
no chance for you both and love, thats friendship or try it again but more slowly.
i am confused.
thanks for you help.
thats 2 and a half month ago.
for me it was very hard, for him maybe easing. i let him go.
since then every two or three weeks he has been writing a short message to me.
seems he trys to keep contact. i was very carefuly and behaved neutral, cause i was very bruised.
a few days ago he sent a birthday present to me and the wish to have a coffee and likes to hug me.
i`m not over it, still thinking on him too, but i am not sure if someone can be healed in 2 month.
and maybe we dont have the same ambitions in life. i`m not a mother yet and wish to be one (not so much time anymore) he already has a child and does not know if he likes to have one more. (the child discussion was always made by him, much to early, but a debate on principles)
but to make a longe story short:
i asked:
"how would it be for me to see him?"
18.1.:
is the yi telling me: stop speculations?
say good bye to your "unborn" child or to him. you cant have both!
18.2.:
maybe my mistakes cause the breakup, maybe i was to fast in this relatinoship.
but i was in love and had strong feelings... its not easy for me to make small steps then.
maybe you can tell me:
no chance for you both and love, thats friendship or try it again but more slowly.
i am confused.
thanks for you help.