Deleting him - from my life

[sirix]

I've been with a guy for a short period of time (maybe 3 months)- and now when I look at it from distance my opinion is that he was using me back than, and that he's one of the most selfish persons I've ever met.
Well, I made a mistake trying to be friends with him before I realised that, or admitted it to myself.
He wanted us too to be friends and agreed that we could be, but the quality of friendship was poor, so I'm pretty much sick of him not seeing how selfish he is.
After not hearing a while from him (about 2 weeks)I tought that he realised that we will not contact each other anymore-because our last meeting was awfull-he was complaining all the time about his money situtation, work situtation, lack of time, lack of discipline to study for some exames....and at the same time he was sending sms on his mobile. I told him that it's not right to coplain all the time, and that sometimes you have to try to get the best of the circumstances. But he just continued to be negative.
Well, he called me again several days ago just because he needed a favor-hasn't called to ask me how I'm dooing (and he should because he knew that I am waiting for some very important doctor results for my father who has cancer!!!.)
At first I sent that fax massege he asked, but he had troubles receiving it (he was so stupid that he forgot to put the toner in it-even tough he knew that it's not really easy for me to do it because I had to send the fax from my job)He asked me to send it again - i never did. I said to him that he remembers me only when he needs something. He started complaining about how busy he is...but i said I don't care about it.
After that he tried to contact me but I wasn't home so he sent sms saying that he called me at home, but I wasn't there,so that I will say again that he never calls. Than I got really angry, called him and told him that he contacts me again just because he didn't received the fax he asked me for, and that I will not send it to him, because if he needs the information he can come and pick it up like all the normal people. (he asked public information that is published in local newspaper every month and that we have in our office for people to come to pick it up-we don't fax it.)Well I really don't want him to call me again. I am very angry at him and i can't stand him anymore.

So I asked I ching: How should I act in order that he doesn't contact me anymore? I got 57 unchanging.

Can I get some help with interpretation?

[rosada]

57 is Gentle Penetration. It suggests proceeding Gently in this situation. As you say you are feeling very angry right now perhaps it is telling you the first step is get calm and then you will be able to Gently Penetrate to the heart of the problem so you then know how to proceed.
It reads to me like you are frustrated here because you have tried to be a Nice Person, and you feel your accomodating nature has been taken advantage of, and so you are angry that you may be required to be harsher than you really feel comfortable. Like, you wish he'd just go away without you having to be a bitch. 57 doesn't talk about taking strong action so I don't think you're going to have to be nasty to get him out of your life., but it is the image of the Wind spreading information accross the land so you may have to - Gently - make your true feelings clearly known.
As 57 also refers to Gently Penetrating to discover true issues, I'm wondering if things going on in your own life are coloring this friendship? My father was dealing with similar health issues awhile back and during that time I don't think I could have tolerated anybody whining to me about anything. I pray for your father's speedy recovery.
Hey, maybe hexagram 57 Gentle Wind means you can just gently drift away!
Rosada

[dobro]

57's about gentle penetration of the foundation of the situation. The foundation of a romantic relationship is feelings and sex. If you *gently* let him know that the feelings, both emotional and sexual, aren't there for you anymore, he'll get the idea eventually.