Before I go crazy, what is I ching trying to tell me now?

[maria22]

Hello I casted a reading today.
I am in a really weird emotional state where I've been trying to be in a rather good relationship, although I kept rejecting men all this long. Not only men that where hitting on me but also potential male friends.Its not that there isn't someone I like,there is but I am too affraid to pursuit something...So I asked I ching today:
"What do I have to do in order to be with someone good for me?"
I got hexagram 14(Great Possessing: Great, Ta (TÂ YÛ))...With only one changing line.
But from what I am getting of this hexagram is that either I have met this "somebody" I am supposed to be with OR that I should...I don't know!
And of course lets not forget that hex 14 is changing to hex 50The Vessel/Holding, Ting (TING)
I just don't understand what I am supposed to do!

[willowfox]

Relationships can be quite tricky things to get off the ground and you must realize this, but in order to find someone good for you, all you can do is bring all the ingredients together and do a slow cook, when the meal has cooked sufficiently then you will know whether you have the right man or not.