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October 27th, 2008, 06:47 PM
Following on from what I said in a post made by Beth about How do you know when you've met the right person (or at least someone who could make you happy) Where I wrote the following:
Quote "I guess in a nutshell this is saying there is no 'how' about it - you just will!
55 Abundance - perhaps that when it's the right person it will fill you up and you will just know - and changing to Peace perhaps that you will feel relaxed and know it's right when you meet him - so in theory it should be simple! You just have to wait for him to come along and presumably a good feeling will overwhelm you with no doubts undermining it... I wonder if that actually happens to people though?
I don't know what love is - I seem to be drawn to a person, but if they then show a real interest back - I shy away - or find myself more attracted to someone else who makes me nervous and feel butterflies but who I know deep down probably wouldn't go for me - even if they do seem to be charming! Or maybe it's just friendliness and because I like them I take it that way...
What I'm trying to say, inarticulately, is that it looks like the Yi is saying when you meet the right person you'll just know - everything will fall into place and be perfect on every level... sounds great - something to hope for, but does it really happen that way? Or does it build - or do you generally have to accept that they are perhaps not your ideal vision but you get on well and are attracted to the person and so you should realise that it's a good opportunity to be in a happy and equal relationship? As I said I seem to sabotage any chance of having a proper boyfriend, because I end up fantasising about the ones who are probably unavailable, eventhough I am attracted to the ones I feel more comfortable with and who give me something back - I still end up rejecting them, and someone (probably) out of reach will preoccupy my idealised romantic notions... usually the one that I can't make eye contact with ie am too shy to be myself with! So it all goes down the pan.. Does this suggest, my inability to make eye contact, that I know subconsiously that this person is not on my level emotionally?"
:rolleyes:
There are 2 guys that I have been considering recently, though I don't know them well at all only a couple of encounters so probs a bit hasty but still... I asked the Yi which one would be better for me/ who do I have more, if any, chance with.
Person A (who I like more, but perhaps for the wrong reasons (see above))
Hex 55 Unchanging
Or person B (who perhaps seems more interested but I'm less attracted too, which perhaps wouldn't be the case if person A didn't exist - lol)
Hex 17.3 Following to 49 Revolution.
Sigh - I don't know - What do you think?
I'm always wrong in matters of love - I think I am too idealistic ebout it sometimes... it's just I feel it would be nice to have a companion of some sort at the mo.. It's been a while...
Quote "I guess in a nutshell this is saying there is no 'how' about it - you just will!
55 Abundance - perhaps that when it's the right person it will fill you up and you will just know - and changing to Peace perhaps that you will feel relaxed and know it's right when you meet him - so in theory it should be simple! You just have to wait for him to come along and presumably a good feeling will overwhelm you with no doubts undermining it... I wonder if that actually happens to people though?
I don't know what love is - I seem to be drawn to a person, but if they then show a real interest back - I shy away - or find myself more attracted to someone else who makes me nervous and feel butterflies but who I know deep down probably wouldn't go for me - even if they do seem to be charming! Or maybe it's just friendliness and because I like them I take it that way...
What I'm trying to say, inarticulately, is that it looks like the Yi is saying when you meet the right person you'll just know - everything will fall into place and be perfect on every level... sounds great - something to hope for, but does it really happen that way? Or does it build - or do you generally have to accept that they are perhaps not your ideal vision but you get on well and are attracted to the person and so you should realise that it's a good opportunity to be in a happy and equal relationship? As I said I seem to sabotage any chance of having a proper boyfriend, because I end up fantasising about the ones who are probably unavailable, eventhough I am attracted to the ones I feel more comfortable with and who give me something back - I still end up rejecting them, and someone (probably) out of reach will preoccupy my idealised romantic notions... usually the one that I can't make eye contact with ie am too shy to be myself with! So it all goes down the pan.. Does this suggest, my inability to make eye contact, that I know subconsiously that this person is not on my level emotionally?"
:rolleyes:
There are 2 guys that I have been considering recently, though I don't know them well at all only a couple of encounters so probs a bit hasty but still... I asked the Yi which one would be better for me/ who do I have more, if any, chance with.
Person A (who I like more, but perhaps for the wrong reasons (see above))
Hex 55 Unchanging
Or person B (who perhaps seems more interested but I'm less attracted too, which perhaps wouldn't be the case if person A didn't exist - lol)
Hex 17.3 Following to 49 Revolution.
Sigh - I don't know - What do you think?
I'm always wrong in matters of love - I think I am too idealistic ebout it sometimes... it's just I feel it would be nice to have a companion of some sort at the mo.. It's been a while...