Strange dream

[hope]

I just want to share my strange dream with everyone here.

On thursday night I went to bed as usual and dreamt of my deceased maternal grandmother looking for food because she was hungry. Since there was no food in the kitchen I offered to cook her some. Then I woke up. Sounds pretty normal huh?

Now, I've not been in contact with my maternal grandmother for ages as I've gone overseas to work and even when she passed away a few years back I did not even return home to attend her funeral (I know I felt rather guilty there).

Here comes the strange part but first let me explain a little bit of my culture so you guys can have a better picture.

Now every 3rd lunar calendar month we celebrate
'Qing Ming' which meant 'Tomb Sweeping Day' or month, that is paying a visit to our deceased loved ones graves and clean up, offer prayers and foods as offering.

Ok next morning after I woke up I went over my dream and felt kinda odd as I've mention I wasn't close to my grandma and yet to dream of her.

Then the whole day I was rather bothered with the dream and by late afternoon I messaged my youngest brother simply telling him, 'Grandma said she was hungry and looking for food.'

Immediately my brother called me back on the line and tell me something which freaked me out. He said about a week ago his own family together with my mom and my grandma's other children went to clear her tomb BUT NONE of them brought any decent food as offering except a couple of plain flour buns!

My brother was just as freak as I was with my dream which coincide so closely to their action. Now, wasn't that really strange?

In a way I was glad my grandma had came to tell me about her hunger and yet I couldn't get over the fact why she chose me of all person when I wasn't even close to her. And during her twilight years before she passed away she mostly couldn't remember anyone anymore yet she chose to manifest in my dream.

I guess I have an affinity link with her?

[hester]

That's really cool Hope! Maybe you do have an affinity link with her and you were not aware of! That is just such a cool dream. Maybe too, now, you dont feel so guilty anymore, about not being able to be there, after she passed. Maybe now she is connecting you to your home, no matter what. Heck, I dont know, but it is really nice to hear your story.

I read once about a Taoist therapist, who instead of working on the individuals problems, would help the querant to make offerings to everyone in the family, deceased and so forth, and how many of these people who went for help really had problems clear up in their lives.

[jte]

Hi, Hope -

What you describe is a classic dream-synchronicity. It could be straight out of Jung. Not sure what it means (to you) or what, if anything, you should do about it (other than treasure it as an experience in it's own right).

If you really wanted to further explore what the dream means, you might look for a Jungian (aka depth) psychotherapist to discuss it with. Don't know if it really warrants that much follow up - up to you to decide... You should know, though, that many, many people have similar experiences.

- Jeff

[cassius_clay]

Hi Hope. Did you put some food on her grave yet?