Sirix - connected with 31 unchanging - new toss for clarification.

[sirix]

I gave some fresh up to date explanation of things that happend when I contacted him in the previous thread Will he contact me? So, all of you that were participating that discussion and are interested in some feedback you can look at it in my previous thread.
I personaly wanted some clarification for mine peace of mind so asked two other questions about that situation that's been bothering me - and they are more concrete ones, going to the bottom of things:

1. question:
How is he seeing our friendship? 22 , changing line 3 , resulting hex 27

2. question.
In wich extent (im my language direct translation would be measure) does he wants me in his life?
I got 32, changing line 4, resulting hex 46


If you have toughts on this readings I got, conected with mine previous tread , it would be great.

Sorry for posting so much questions in such a sort period of time - I think that I am worrying myself too much over this.
Now what my common sens is telling me witout I
ching: Don't contact him - if he really wants to hear you he will make a call.

[sirix]

When I red explanations of these readings I thought that they were adressed at me directly telling me to back off. (32 to 46) That I am on the wrong place in the wrong time.
That this friendship is not so important to him (22, 27), that it is just a small ornament in his life that makes him feel better and a warning to me to ask myself what is he really like? Like be aware of who is superior and who is inferior person. Look the way they lead their lifes and be careful, because grace is something of short duration.

I have no idea what they mean if they say about his toughts, and are not warning to me?

This is definitely the last time I will torure you with this situation of mine, I promise.
I've made decision as I said - I will not contact him anymore, let him make the first move, if he doesn't I will forget our friendship.

[void]

I think I more or less agree with your views on these answers. In a sense you are making life easy for him by calling him, he never has to take any responsibility for whether the relationship continues or not and perhaps gives him a certain kind of laziness in his attitude to you, 22,3. Could be he is gaining a certain amount of nourishment, 27 from this, afterall its very gratifying to be wanted.

I think its clear he likes you still, and doubtless is still attracted to you as he seems keen to keep up contact when you initiate it. But what is he offering you if he cannot even ever initiate a call ? 32,4 ! FWIW if I were in your shoes I would not call but wait till he calls you. If he doesn't then you've more room for other friends.

If you don't call then he has to think about whether he wants to lose you entirely or not.

[rosada]

It might give some useful information to ask, "What am I getting out of this relationship?"

[peace]

You might also ask yourself -
"What do you want?"

Maybe right now you don't want a long-term commitment and as anxious as you feel about it, it still may be easier to obsess about it on your own and not have to deal with someone right now.

My experience is - we do get what we want (though it may not be conscious).

[peace]

Well, this sounds a little tough - if so, sorry about that. I'm just tired.

[sirix]

What do I want from him? 42, resulting hex 52
I agree with Void, not only because of I ching but based on common sense.
Thanks everyone.