Here's another learning opportunity...for me!

[firehorse]

A gentleman asked me out for this evening. Not someone I intend to have any lasting relationship with, so I'm not sure what to do...do I go out and enjoy the company (which I do) or turn him down and just stay in?

Background is I really liked him when I went out with him back in February (3 times), but then he disappeared for a few months. The last time I heard from him was two weeks ago. Clearly, this is a case of "he's just not that into you." But now it's mutual because of his disappearance, but I think we just enjoy each other's company (or maybe it's just to have company). Well, sort of. I noticed the last two times we went out that he whines quite a bit...kind of annoying. This is sort of a new place for me to be...after a long wrong marriage, and then another relationship failure, I kind of realized that my only criteria was that they like me, so I've been fixing that. p.s. there has not been any intimacy - I'm definitely not going there, and I think I made that clear the last time we went out...and then the 2 week silence, so I was surprised to hear from him.

What do I need to know about "him? 36
What do I need to do about him? 35.4>23

These two left me pretty confused. I searched the index for 35.4, and it's clear that other's get it, but I just don't. 23 says break away to me.

Again, because I'm not clear, I asked, "What if I turn him down? 10.3>1
I get bitten. This is saying to me, "don't turn him down." Maybe there's something to learn here?

What if I accept? 41

The only thing that I can clearly see is the 10.3...can someone help me figure this out? I guess I will know soon, because I think I will accept.

[firehorse]

So I asked about the dx of "us" 8.1.3>63 yep, can't be intimate if there is no sincerity...and I don't really trust him. line 3 just says it all.

What are the chances that deedeebird is right? 45


Thanks!

[lucia]

Hex 35.4 is the the five skilled rodent....

someone who cant quite look you in the eye, who is skulking about a bit - looking at the world from their limited viewpoint amongst the stubble - self-protecting out of fear - and that can be potentially dodgy but not always.

You knocked him back, he disappeared for a week or two and now he's back. 36 in these situations I have found can mean anything from depressed to downright dodgy but hiding it. Only you can figure out where he is on that little continuum.

So who is the squirrel/hamster? With the 10.3 I'd say - give him a miss because you don't have all the picture and therefore you are going to get bitten by the tiger.

All in all I have to ask if you are going out with him for company (because you feel a bit lonely) or because you hope it will be alright. Hex one can be a creative force that goes nowhere - it lacks receptivity. So personally I'd give him a miss because I dont see friendship potential here either but of course it's your shout.

good luck L

[lucia]

just saw your 8.1.3

8.3 - dont go there its either a bad thing in your head or a bad thing in him - either way give it a miss and rely on your own emotional independence - seems like you are in a transitioning phase - 56 and 63.

so

45 - get it together as in sort out your security issues then you will find friends....

good luck Lucia

[firehorse]

I opted out, not only on the readings, but based on the fact that I really had not even thought about him in the past two weeks, which is pretty telling. His response...oh well, I had some time to kill. I have some tomorrow night, too, are you available then?

Like a squirrelly rat that won't go away!

Thanks, getting other's takes really helps my understanding. A year ago I would have read what I wanted to, not what my gut told me...