bonnieta
November 1st, 2009, 04:02 PM
I asked:
How will my relationship with J evolve and deepen though this winter?
I received
Hex 17 Following Line 3 and Line 5
Changing to Hex 55 Abundance
My former partner and I have been seeing each other since the late spring in a platonic friendship, following a careful step-by-step process, with significant changes and improvement. We presently have a weekly date or activity together. We are moving slowly, letting go of our past form to see what emerges. We both had a lot of personal work to do, emotional baggage that created serious obstacles in our partnership. Lots of individual growth has occurred through the separation and we have both made significant changes.
At present the maintenance of an ongoing friendship, the elimination of many negative patterns, and the healing of past hurt and rebuilding trust is the good that has come from this process. We share good times as friends but maintain an emotional and physical distance. The time has not been right for more than that. We are not dating others at present. The healing has been worth the hard work. J is not seeking a new relationship, and is not ready for a commitment. He wants to see how we evolve over time. In some ways I feel we are now working together as adults, having cleaned up the past influences, but its been a slow process. My hope is that we are able to establish a renewed partnership. I know this may not happen.
My question stems from a desire to know if more intimacy and possible reestablishment a partnership is possible. I have been working with the I Ching though this transition and it has been very helpful in this process of re-establishiing trust and not letting fear or ego run the show. We are making slow, good progress but there are clear limitations.
I appreciate any feedback from the community regarding the hexagrams I received.
How will my relationship with J evolve and deepen though this winter?
I received
Hex 17 Following Line 3 and Line 5
Changing to Hex 55 Abundance
My former partner and I have been seeing each other since the late spring in a platonic friendship, following a careful step-by-step process, with significant changes and improvement. We presently have a weekly date or activity together. We are moving slowly, letting go of our past form to see what emerges. We both had a lot of personal work to do, emotional baggage that created serious obstacles in our partnership. Lots of individual growth has occurred through the separation and we have both made significant changes.
At present the maintenance of an ongoing friendship, the elimination of many negative patterns, and the healing of past hurt and rebuilding trust is the good that has come from this process. We share good times as friends but maintain an emotional and physical distance. The time has not been right for more than that. We are not dating others at present. The healing has been worth the hard work. J is not seeking a new relationship, and is not ready for a commitment. He wants to see how we evolve over time. In some ways I feel we are now working together as adults, having cleaned up the past influences, but its been a slow process. My hope is that we are able to establish a renewed partnership. I know this may not happen.
My question stems from a desire to know if more intimacy and possible reestablishment a partnership is possible. I have been working with the I Ching though this transition and it has been very helpful in this process of re-establishiing trust and not letting fear or ego run the show. We are making slow, good progress but there are clear limitations.
I appreciate any feedback from the community regarding the hexagrams I received.