home schooling

[goddessliss]

Hi,
My 15 your old has never liked school even as a pre-schooler. He is popular, social, reasonable grades, the teachers like him but he says it is so boring. He has suffered from depression over the years from this and has had a lot of time off school. We have tried several different schools but it is always the same outcome.
When he is at home on holidays and weekends etc. he is pretty self sufficient, social etc.
He was actually very excited about going back this year but after 2 days he is almost in tears and not wanting to go back. We have disccussed home schooling which he is interested in and also employing tutors to help with the more difficult subjects.
So I asked this IChing
Is home schooling the right way to educate Kasey at this time?
I received Hex 63.1.3>8
I have read line 3 as learning without the fear of boredom or depression representing the devils and although it will be tiresome etc. he will make it. To finish his high school it wld take 3 years.
have I got this right.
I wld appreciate your insight as it upsets me so much to see him unhappy.
blessings
Melissa

Line 3
Conquering the Dusk – Riding forth into the dusk with no fear of devils, he takes upon a righteous cause and devotes three years to its attainment. It will be tiresome, it will be burdensome, but it will succeed.

[rosada]

My concern would be that he has a tutor and a clear study plan. After going to all the effort to get him set up at home, 63.3 could be warning that you don't want a kid with too much time on his hands getting involved in the wrong sorts of activities.

-rosada

[dobro]

So I asked this IChing
Is home schooling the right way to educate Kasey at this time?
I received Hex 63.1.3>8

63 means things are in their proper place for the time being, and any movement or direction away from that will necessarily take you away from thing being in their proper place.

8 indicates the principle of uniting around something. (In this case, you're wondering whether your son should 'unite' with school or home school.)

So, the overall picture is: things are in their proper place right now; stay united with that.

The details: 63.1 suggests that this isn't your son's fault, despite the problems. 63.3 talks about subduing problematic elements in the situation, but it takes time. However, it takes some real ability to do this - undeveloped or immature people, for instance, aren't capable of it. Put these two lines together, and it seems to indicate growing pains on his part - it isn't his fault, it's just that he hasn't matured to the point where he can deal easily with the pain in the ass that school is for him. Somebody else would just tough it out, but he's not there yet.

He's gotta see something positive in school to be able to get through. He's gotta give something positive to the situation before his experience there will start to reflect that positivity.

[goddessliss]

The details: 63.1 suggests that this isn't your son's fault, despite the problems. 63.3 talks about subduing problematic elements in the situation, but it takes time. However, it takes some real ability to do this - undeveloped or immature people, for instance, aren't capable of it. Put these two lines together, and it seems to indicate growing pains on his part - it isn't his fault, it's just that he hasn't matured to the point where he can deal easily with the pain in the ass that school is for him. Somebody else would just tough it out, but he's not there yet.

The above is exactly what it's about - so it is just a matter of working out what the best thing to do is. He talked about going to his best mates school last nite so I will look at that possibility today.
So thku.
Blessings
Melissa

[tigerintheboat]

My 15 your old has never liked school even as a pre-schooler. He is popular, social, reasonable grades, the teachers like him but he says it is so boring. He has suffered from depression over the years from this and has had a lot of time off school. We have tried several different schools but it is always the same outcome.

He was actually very excited about going back this year but after 2 days he is almost in tears and not wanting to go back. We have disccussed home schooling which he is interested in and also employing tutors to help with the more difficult subjects.
So I asked this IChing
Is home schooling the right way to educate Kasey at this time?
I received Hex 63.1.3>8

Line 3
Conquering the Dusk – Riding forth into the dusk with no fear of devils, he takes upon a righteous cause and devotes three years to its attainment. It will be tiresome, it will be burdensome, but it will succeed.Melissa, line 3 of H63 says that taking on homeschooling is a big job...many demons to conquer, more for you than your son. Oddly enough it mentions three years, which is how long he has to go in high school

I do not tell you that this is a difficult job just due to the reading, although the reading is clear enough. I have home-schooled three children, through many years. (My wife did much of the day to day work, but I was involved and tutoring some subjects). You will escape from the demons in the public school but you will have other problems to deal with. What they will be is different for every child and parent, but there will be some difficulties, and they will not be trivial.

I would interpret the reading to mean that you have problems to conquer either way. Home schooling is, as the reading says, "a righteous cause" and if you proceed, you will "devote three years to its attainment."

Good luck:)

Tiger

[goddessliss]

Thks to all of you who replied to this post.

I have left it to now to tell you the outcome just to see what would happen.
Fortunately he decided to stay with the school he is with and has settled down considerably though still has a whinge about the bordeom.
However his grades and his moods have picked up in a big way.
Makes my life a whole lot easier.

Blessings