edge
April 4th, 2010, 03:24 PM
Hi there,
I've posted before about my relationship, which has some pretty difficult complications but is still good and developing. Because of circumstances (distance, illness, family commitments) we manage to spend very little time together right now, although the will is there on both sides for this to change over time.
I'm really aware that my partner is trying his best to make time for me in very difficult circumstances but I often feel like I can't speak to him about how stressful it feels for me sometimes. I don't want to waste the time we have and also feel that you can only deal with so many challenges at once. If I'm honest I'm also frightened of making things more difficult than they are and that he might decide its too overwhelming (something that has happened before). Unfortunately this leaves me feeling quite isolated and also feeling that I don't have the full picture of what is going on, as he tries to be cheerful and not talk about difficult stuff too sometimes.
I asked "what if I talk to him about how I'm feeling, and what he's really dealing with?"
I received 55:1,2,3 to 40.
With three moving lines which seem either contradictory or developing from auspicious to more and more difficult I'm unsure of how to interpret this. It seems to be saying that honesty and sincerity is the best way to go but not to make a big deal out of the conversation, to maybe discuss as it comes up naturally. I also get the impression that he might find the conversation difficult but that this doesn't indicate its a bad idea. If I see 40 as the context to my question, this seems to imply that things will be made better, that tension and difficulty will be relieved by talking things through, that the hardship cannot last for ever. I'm not at all sure that I have this right though, its an intuitive response to what I'm reading...
I'd really appreciate any thoughts you have on this...I've looked at Blofeld, Huang, and Lise so far but a wider interpretation would be great!
Thanks in advance,
E
p.s. I also asked a few days ago, "what do I need to know about the relationship right now" and got 23 unchanging. I didn't interpret this as 'we are splitting up' as in fact we are getting closer right now, but we are divided by distance and circumstance, and lots of old stuff is 'splitting or peeling off' right now for him in terms of massive changes in different parts of his life. What I took from it is there is nothing I can do to impact this process right now. Anyway, might help as a bit more context... :)
I've posted before about my relationship, which has some pretty difficult complications but is still good and developing. Because of circumstances (distance, illness, family commitments) we manage to spend very little time together right now, although the will is there on both sides for this to change over time.
I'm really aware that my partner is trying his best to make time for me in very difficult circumstances but I often feel like I can't speak to him about how stressful it feels for me sometimes. I don't want to waste the time we have and also feel that you can only deal with so many challenges at once. If I'm honest I'm also frightened of making things more difficult than they are and that he might decide its too overwhelming (something that has happened before). Unfortunately this leaves me feeling quite isolated and also feeling that I don't have the full picture of what is going on, as he tries to be cheerful and not talk about difficult stuff too sometimes.
I asked "what if I talk to him about how I'm feeling, and what he's really dealing with?"
I received 55:1,2,3 to 40.
With three moving lines which seem either contradictory or developing from auspicious to more and more difficult I'm unsure of how to interpret this. It seems to be saying that honesty and sincerity is the best way to go but not to make a big deal out of the conversation, to maybe discuss as it comes up naturally. I also get the impression that he might find the conversation difficult but that this doesn't indicate its a bad idea. If I see 40 as the context to my question, this seems to imply that things will be made better, that tension and difficulty will be relieved by talking things through, that the hardship cannot last for ever. I'm not at all sure that I have this right though, its an intuitive response to what I'm reading...
I'd really appreciate any thoughts you have on this...I've looked at Blofeld, Huang, and Lise so far but a wider interpretation would be great!
Thanks in advance,
E
p.s. I also asked a few days ago, "what do I need to know about the relationship right now" and got 23 unchanging. I didn't interpret this as 'we are splitting up' as in fact we are getting closer right now, but we are divided by distance and circumstance, and lots of old stuff is 'splitting or peeling off' right now for him in terms of massive changes in different parts of his life. What I took from it is there is nothing I can do to impact this process right now. Anyway, might help as a bit more context... :)