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In my attempt to prepare to quit smoking, I have come up with a list of things I call "Defensive Quitting". Can you guys think of things to add to the list? I need all of the help I can get.

:: Smoking Background ::
Started when I was 18.
At age 21 I made a promise to myself that the day I turned 26 I would quit.
Quit the day I turned 26 (yay me).
Didn't have ONE for 3 years.
Went to Vegas in October of 2010.
Had a cigarette.
Still smoking.

I do not smoke all day until after work. Some days I only have 4. Weekends I have like 20 a day. I don't drink very much. I can go weeks without even thinking about alcohol. But if I do drink, cigarettes are the counterpart for me. I have some friends who do smoke and some who do not. I go outside to smoke, even in the snow because I don't like my place smokie. So I have an addiction also to stepping outside and going to the front porch. Also, I have always had a 27 problem with food. So when I have tried to quit in the past, I have been discouraged because I start gaining weight from shoving my face full of food.

When I quit at age 26, I knew it was coming. I told everyone about it. I didn't want to dissapoint people and that was part of the reason I think it worked. For years, 5 to be exact, I told people. I also had a lot of time to mentally prepare. I don't feel like I can do that again. I can't wait a long period of time. The cigarette's are EVIL:mad:. But I also cannot just STOP. I want to know things like what exactly will happen in my body when I quit. What to expect. And I want to be ready and have things to combat the urge. Here's the list. There is really no rhyme or reason to it.

:demon::: Defensive Quitting :::demon:
Use the color green for the lungs and heart chakra, red for stability, and turquoise for the throat.
Bust out the electric tempura and set to the key of F for the heart, the key of E for the will, and the key of G for the throat.
Vocalize the sound 'Ay' for the heart, 'Oh' for stability, and 'Ee' for the throat.
Do Jumping jacks, jog etc to get cardio going.
Play the wood flute for positive and creative breath.
Use different breathing techniques to stimulate lungs.
Call friends and talk to them.
Go down to the coffee shop and get on the computer there instead.
Use the Bronchial mudra and New Light mudra.
Take short walks/hikes.
Practice my Tai Chi form.
Practice dan tian breathing.
Ponder Yijing reading 44.2.4 > 53. http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=14397
Recite Changing Energy Pattern mantra.
Drink lots of water.

THROW OUT SOME IDEAS PEOPLE!! ANYTHING!!
 

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Reward yourself for giving up cigarettes by increasing the flavors in your life. Like most people, I suppose, I was basically addicted to salt, and I had to suddenly stop using it. I repaced the salt with pepper and paprika, and other flavors. My reward has been lower blood pressure and fewer medications with their horrible side effects. I think a more flavorful life would compensate you for giving up cigarettes. My first spice to carry me over salt withdrawal was Mrs. Dash Original Blend, but I no longer use it. I grow leeks, and my sister gives me all the rosemary I can use. Last week I got Italian seasoning (basil, oregano, marjorum, thyme) inexpensively at a local discount store. It will be in supper tonight.
 
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Iams girl - I will be posting. It helps to talk it out. Thanks for the link and encouragement.

Pocossin, I wonder what 'flavors' I should give myself. When you say flavors and I apply that to my situation, I think 'eat'. That scares me. I will eat and eat and eat and explode, but will be smoke free upon bursting. I do like cinnamon a lot, maybe I can get some cinnamon sticks and suck on them like a cigarette. Hrm.
 

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Pocossin, I wonder what 'flavors' I should give myself. When you say flavors and I apply that to my situation, I think 'eat'. That scares me. I will eat and eat and eat and explode, but will be smoke free upon bursting. I do like cinnamon a lot, maybe I can get some cinnamon sticks and suck on them like a cigarette. Hrm.

Spices themselves have practically no calories and, I think, make low calory foods taste better. But you could cultivate the other senses too -- fragrances, textures, sound, exercise, brain activity of the I Ching -- anything that will compensate for cigarettes. I confess, my family's welfare depended on growing tobacco. It was the only crop that paid, and I have handled tons of it. It's sticky when green and dusty when dry. I remember the fragrance of a barn of tobacco with pleasure. When I smoked I grew my own pipe tobacco. Actually, very small amounts of nicotine are good for brain health. I now grow eggplant for that purpose:

"Eggplant is richer in nicotine than any other edible plant, with a concentration of 100 ng/g (or 0.01 mg/100g). However, the amount of nicotine from eggplant or any other food is negligible compared to passive smoking. On average, 20 lbs (9 kg) of eggplant contains about the same amount of nicotine as a cigarette."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eggplant

I remember friends and relatives who died from smoking. Please give it up.
 
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You sure are helpful Pocossin. This is very true about the spices. I love spices. I have a sort of medicine rack full of them. One time I made dinner for a friend who didn't like vegetables. A hard task in my mind. I had an array of greens, kale, spanish zucchini etc, cooked them with a little oil and a bunch of spices and said, just try it. His eyes grew as he tried them and he ate the entire thing saying that he couldn't believe the taste. I will have to make sure that at my first stages of quitting I keep the carbs out of reach and go for the good stuff. And to dress them up fancy with spices. I think a lot of color might help too. Bright veggies and turmeric for yellow.

I had no clue that nocotine was in other things than tobacco! I must have been under a rock. That is very weird to think about. I have heard that a little does you good, but in my case, the little cannot occur without a downward spiral if it is delivered in the form of smoke. It's sad to say but true.

My dad quit about 7 years ago and he still chews the nicotine gum. Much better than smoking. My friend quit with the gum. She said it was like a diet pill. It made her stay up etc. Not sure about that option, but for sure pills are out.

I am adding "Get Spicy" and "Grab a Cinnastick" to the list.

Oh, and when I was little both my parents smoked. When I smelt the actual pack of smokes, it always smelled just like raisins to me.
 
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...almost forgot, on the topic of flavors, hot tea and coffee still kind of replace that need for me too - something about that lovely burning sensation (what's up with that, anyway :)!) I know going to the coffee shop is on your list, and maybe you've already done this, but maybe supplement what's on-hand with some special new ones too. Sometimes I like a good strong black tea, sometimes herbal lemon or spearmint, sometimes just a 1/2 of a teaspoon instant coffee (trying to cut down on that too!) caffeinated or decaf. A few sips, then I'm good to go, onto other things...
 
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Lobelia is an herb that may reduce the craving for cigarettes. Can be smoked, and if you smoke tobacco while you are using it, you'll become very sick. Nauseous I think. Can also get a homeopathic lobelia, which will not cause that side effect of illness if you slip up.I like licorice and cinammon. Both seem to help with cravings for people I've known. Something to support a calm mood. Like gaba or valerian. I think you can get herbs in gum that delivers the active constituents transdermally. Might take the edge off. Coffee, low caffeine though, unless you associate it with smoking already. Or tea. Caffeine has helped me with that in the past. Go onto the CDC website, and check out some pics of people who have have smoking related illness, or visit some at the local hospital. I'd be shocked if you could smoke after that! Real torturous nightmare some of these people go through. I've known of people younger than you who have become life threateningly ill from smoking. Try to find a story like that, and keep a pic of that person with you. I've heard good things about lobelia, and I like the herb gum idea a lot too.:).
 
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I had an especially nasty habit, smoked for 25 years, and by the end of that was up to 2-1/2 packs a day.
For me quitting involved three large doses of psychedelics over a one week period, supervised by a shaman, while contemplating the notion that in almost every language there is a word for spirit that also means breath. It was extreme, but it was that or start coughing blood instead of just brown stuff. That was the initial impetus, but the bottom line was in the follow through, and there the words of Master Yoda really did the trick: "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try."
That was sixteen years ago and I don't even think about them anymore. Then there's the fifty thousand dollars since then that I didn't have to spend.
 
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ATQ, i've been thinking many days about your issue here. i can't help you in any way, for i have got the same problem you have.

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DFW, thanks for all of the different ideas. You have brought to my attention a number of things. One is about 'mood'. I know that quitting will give me a fuzzy mind. When I quit before, one of the hardest things for me was just feeling like there was something I should be doing. A sort of restlessness that was hard to shake. I am going to look into gaba and valerian root and some others to see which one I might keep handy.

Also, about imagining the lungs of a smoker, I think could be some good arsenal. But it made me think about my Grandpa. He has passed on now, it has been since 2001. He was taken by lung cancer. Maybe I will keep a picture of him in my purse or just even in my mind. It is not hard to remember wonderful memories of him. I can also hear him telling me to quit. Very powerful.

I am going to look into lobelia. I have not heard of it. I was just introduced to a homeopathic specialist through my Tai Chi teacher. Good timing.

Adding to the list! (Thank you!):

Grandpa Bill
Homeopathy
Herbs for mood and calming
 
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the words of Master Yoda really did the trick: "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try."


Thanks for sharing your experience Bradford and happy that you are smoke free. Something very important to think about is: I am not trying to quit, I am quitting!

The idea of using quotes also might be good. I could gather up inspiriation from them. This also makes me think of a song I listened to while quitting last time. It held the perfect imagery for quitting in my mind (for sharing purposes, the song is The Spark that Bled by The Flaming Lips). I am sure there are some other songs that I could find and make a "soundtrack to quitting". I could pop it in the CD player in my car. Driving is going to be a hurdle. The CD and a large glass of water will do the trick.

To the list:
Quotes for Quitting.
Soundtrack to Quitting.
"I AM Quitting"
 
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ATQ, i've been thinking many days about your issue here. i can't help you in any way, for i have got the same problem you have.

:)

Neegula, Quit. Quit with me. Make this Clarity thread your own. We can do it together with all of the wonderful advice here and the support.

This makes me think of situations where couples are trying to quit together. I have heard this works really well to go through it with someone.

I could hold you in my mind Neegula when quitting. From Italy to Ohio, we could be strengths for each other.
 

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strength meets resistance

Cravings only last (on average for most people) less than 10 minutes. They peak and ebb. It might be helpful to time a craving, noting every minute or two how intense the sensation is on a scale of 0 to 10. Watch it without becoming judgmental of yourself and without trying to control the feelings. This is called "urge surfing". It helps you experience the reality that you will not drown in the wave of the craving as it washes over you, and also experience the reality that you do have a choice in the present moment as you live in it through the wave as it passes.

After timing your craving cycle you will have a good idea how long you will need to distract yourself. You can do anything for 15 minutes. Every time you succeed in avoiding smoking a cigarette you weaken the power of the addiction. Every time you give in you strengthen it. As i imaging Bruce might say, there is a black wolf and a white wolf - one on each shoulder. Which will win? The one you feed.

If you try to fight cravings directly you will be giving them attention and strength. There are many good suggestions in the posts above, and you have already thought of many yourself. Use them by giving your attention to something healthy as a replacement. When awareness of the craving intrudes, notice it, bless it, and then gently move your attention back to the task at hand.

You can do your T'ai Chi, focusing on balancing the energy flow in your body when the time and place is good for that. If that's awkward in a given situation, you can imagine the sensation of doing the first centering stance anywhere. As you imagine your arms floating up and down with that first breath you can take a real-world cleansing breath, re-balance your energy and then re-focus on the task at hand.

Having a needlework project or manicure kit handy is good when you are not actively involved in something requiring the use of your hands, or make a personal ritual of pouring a lovely cup of tea in your best china or favorite mug and enjoying it while watching the birds out your favorite window.

Let us know how it's going. The average number of attempts before someone succeeds for good is something like 15 - bet you can do better than that! - if not, well then, welcome to the human race!
 

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Haven't read all this thread....but for me I was a heavy smoker for about 30 years maybe 20-30 a day. I did stop for a year or so in that time, longest time being 2 years I think.

However I haven't smoked now for 7 years. I'd say all the gimmicky things are not much use...all you need is a real decision

each time I'd given up before I'd still unknowingly thought of cigs as a pleasure others wanted to deprive me of by their nagging etc. I hadn't really owned it as something I wanted to give up. One night I woke up with the blinding understanding it was not a pleasure...it was an act of self hatred...and heck theres enough stuff out in the world out to get you, diminsh you you, hurt you without doing it to yourself !

As soon as I conceptualised it as an act of self hatred I had a huge amount of will at my disposal. I was not going to hurt myself ! How dare I even think of it !!!!

The power of the decision was worth more than any gimmicky things to distract me...a real decision can be unbreakable. I still have the pack that I had on the day I stopped. I left them in the drawer as I know if I feel I can't do somehting I may want to...by leaving them there I knew my decision was the most powerful thing...because I had left them there easy to smoke if I wanted.

I did use nicotine gum for a while which helped enormously and yes I ate a bit more.....but that is so much better than lung cancer and I have seen my dad die of that and its horrible !!


I also stopped gradually ...easier for me psychologically. I was cutting down each day...the night revelation pushed me on till I got lower and lower then stopped.

I don't believe you need to stop with other people or need helplines or any of all that gimmicky stuff...once you have got in touch with the actual real decision...its incredibly powerful.

Would you let someone walk up to you each day and give you a black eye ! Of course not ! So why the heck are you crucifying your own life !!! :rant: Get mad with those fags !!!! Take back your power....!!!



ETA theres a real difference between your own real decision and taking on board other peoples nagging that its bad for you.....giving up has to be rooted in your own real beliefs. Infact I think its best to leave other people out of it. I didn't even tell anyone I was giving up...it was between me and my soul...I think its that important, its between you and your soul.....afterall it comes down to a choice between life and death basically and which you are choosing for yourself...I think chatting about it dilutes personal decision. It is hard to give up, it is a battle like with any drug so your inner conviction must be very strong
 
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I thank Trojan for the beautiful post, but I don't agree with it. For most of us, willpower is just another gimmicky concept. It isn't just a likely painful death, though Death is a great persuader. You are losing the enjoyment of life now. A little grandfatherly advice: A smoking woman stinks and is repulsive to any man who doesn't smoke. Twice I have had women who smoked offer themselves to me, and I refused. Who wants to marry an ashtray? In spite of your youth, beauty, and great mentality, smoking turns off most men you are likely to meet. I guarantee you that if you stop smoking, you will find greater happiness in life.
 
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Cravings only last (on average for most people) less than 10 minutes. They peak and ebb. It might be helpful to time a craving, noting every minute or two how intense the sensation is on a scale of 0 to 10. Watch it without becoming judgmental of yourself and without trying to control the feelings. This is called "urge surfing". It helps you experience the reality that you will not drown in the wave of the craving as it washes over you, and also experience the reality that you do have a choice in the present moment as you live in it through the wave as it passes.
This is very helpful Rinda, thank you so much. I like this idea so much. Part of the reason of being scared of something is the unknown factors about it. The things that are left in the dark and so what a great idea to understand the timing of cravings. Then I will know what to expect. The idea of it being like a wave makes much sense. And it is positive to be surfing on this wave. Knowing that I will come back to shore.
After timing your craving cycle you will have a good idea how long you will need to distract yourself. You can do anything for 15 minutes. Every time you succeed in avoiding smoking a cigarette you weaken the power of the addiction. Every time you give in you strengthen it. As i imaging Bruce might say, there is a black wolf and a white wolf - one on each shoulder. Which will win? The one you feed.
I think Hilary mentioned something similar to this and she credits 'Knot' as saying it. Also a good way of looking at the bigger picture. It's very 27.
When awareness of the craving intrudes, notice it, bless it, and then gently move your attention back to the task at hand.
This seems hard but I can do it.
Having a needlework project or manicure kit handy is good when you are not actively involved in something requiring the use of your hands, or make a personal ritual of pouring a lovely cup of tea in your best china or favorite mug and enjoying it while watching the birds out your favorite window.
Such wonderful ideas. I have some stitching and wood burnings to work on. Also just bought an Etch A Sketch. I think my hands will want to be busy at a time during a wave.

To the list::demon:
"Urge Surf"
-Add to Quote Quitting- Bruce might say, "there is a black wolf and a white wolf - one on each shoulder. Which will win? The one you feed"
Stitch
Etch A Sketch
Wood Burning
 
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However I haven't smoked now for 7 years. I'd say all the gimmicky things are not much use...all you need is a real decision

I am glad you have quit Trojan. There is definitely something to be said about the decision to quit. It can not be half a$$. I must honestly and thoroughly want to quit. And what you said about bringing other people into it, I partly agree with and partly don't.

Someone once told me that cigarette's give me "an edge". I want to vomit at the thought of their comment even though they were simply pointing out that the rest of my personality does not have this "bad girl" vibe to it, and the cigarettes do, the fact that they said something like that made the cigarette seem positive. Also, there are people whom smoke that just don't want to go outside alone etc. So, people in general can have a large impact on your willpower and how you perceive smoking. So it would seem to leave people out of it. Especially because I cannot be doing it for anyone else. I have to do this for myself and treating myself with respect. I have to feed the good wolf, not the bad. This all makes sense.

On the flip side, I thnk it might just be about which people you leave out of it. last time I quit for 3 years successfully, I didn't have one smoke in that time. And when I was going through the really hard beggining times (the craving waves), I would think about how I had told everyone that I was going to quit. I told my friends, family and people at work, all that I was going to quit. I remember having really bad cravings and something that personally worked for me, was to think of them being proud and not dissapointed in me. Also, I added to the list "Grandpa Bill" and even though he is not alive, I still think of what he would want me to do. In this respect, keeping people in the mix helps me. A lot of my close girlfriends don't smoke, but they used to. Talking with them I think would be a positive thing to do.

Still, the decision is important. A full on commitment. I would say that the things on the list, they are things to help with distracting me from going insane. Because dispite having the desire to quit and making an agreement with myself to see it through, there are going to be those fuzzy moments for me that are going to want to push me over the edge. This is just me personally because I can be weak in this regard.

As soon as I conceptualised it as an act of self hatred I had a huge amount of will at my disposal. I was not going to hurt myself ! How dare I even think of it !!!!
I don't often think of the act of smoking like you have described. I like that you are pointing this out to me.

I also stopped gradually ...easier for me psychologically. I was cutting down each day...the night revelation pushed me on till I got lower and lower then stopped.
I am going to set a date. A goal to be down to 5 on weekend days and 2 on weekdays and go from there.

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"I have decided to quit and I will" - Trojan inspiration

Thank you Trojan
 
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I thank Trojan for the beautiful post, but I don't agree with it. For most of us, willpower is just another gimmicky concept. It isn't just a likely painful death, though Death is a great persuader. You are losing the enjoyment of life now. A little grandfatherly advice: A smoking woman stinks and is repulsive to any man who doesn't smoke. Twice I have had women who smoked offer themselves to me, and I refused. Who wants to marry an ashtray? In spite of your youth, beauty, and great mentality, smoking turns off most men you are likely to meet. I guarantee you that if you stop smoking, you will find greater happiness in life.


I was talking about a real decision more than willpower which is not a gimmicky concept....its the decider about what you will and won't have into your body or your life. It hex 43 isn't it !

One thing that never worried me was how I smelled as a smoker... I mean thats just the superficial bit. I never found it turned any men off, they may complain a bit...but if they did they could always go away...its a consideration I always found completley irrelevant. I can directly through extensive experience deny the underlined. When I smoked I still had trouble keeping them away :flirt:


One cannot base ones true decisions about ones body on others feelings or perceptions, that decentres a person.


There was some genuine concern to me from others when I smoked, for health reasons...and I guess sometimes when they really seemed to urge me to stop it made me think ....but I didn't call on them to help me give up and I didn't give up because of them.



but thats just me....everyones different. For me if I can locate the point deep inside me that has made the decision then I am much more strengthened than if i placed the impetus for that decision outside of me.
 

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BTW AQ I also feel its important how you handle your lapses if you have them...and its also why I kept the packet of cigs with me...but didn't use them. I determined I wasn't going to beat myself up if I lapsed. This helped me not to lapse....maybe thats perverse but thats my psychology

if you lapse don't curse yourself....forgive yourself and move forward. Sometimes guilt at lapsing can make you smoke twice as much as you would have done
 
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I thank Trojan for the beautiful post, but I don't agree with it. For most of us, willpower is just another gimmicky concept. It isn't just a likely painful death, though Death is a great persuader. You are losing the enjoyment of life now. A little grandfatherly advice: A smoking woman stinks and is repulsive to any man who doesn't smoke. Twice I have had women who smoked offer themselves to me, and I refused. Who wants to marry an ashtray? In spite of your youth, beauty, and great mentality, smoking turns off most men you are likely to meet. I guarantee you that if you stop smoking, you will find greater happiness in life.

Surely Luis will spot this ? Women have thrown themselves at Tom, offered themselves...you've kept this gift quiet Tom !
 

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One thing that never worried me was how I smelled as a smoker

And that, dear Trojan, is part of the problem. You should have worried, but others -- I suppose -- were too intimidated to complain. Your hair smelled. Your clothes smelled. If you rode in a non-smoker's car and smoked, the car smelled for months. If you smoked in their home, draperies smelled for months. Your fingers and teeth were yellow with nicotine. The skin of your face began to wrinkle years earlier than it would have. Plus, you were a continual fire hazard, because smokers think they have a god-given right to smoke wherever they please. Anyone who lights up in my home now will be invited outside.
 

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Surely Luis will spot this ? Women have thrown themselves at Tom, offered themselves...you've kept this gift quiet Tom !

I must have a little charm, Trojan, else why after annoying you so much repeatedly as I have done these last two years, would you continue to apologize to me? (I'm hoping for another, shortly :) ) Luis is a gentleman and a scholar but isn't my type.Still, I hope Luis doesn't smoke.
 

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And that, dear Trojan, is part of the problem. You should have worried, but others -- I suppose -- were too enchanted to complain. Your hair shone Your clothes were elegant. If you rode in a non-smoker's car and smoked, the car smelled delicious for months. If you smoked in their home, draperies smelled delicious for months. Your fingers and teeth were sensual delights.The skin of your face looked years younger than it would have. Plus, you were a continual fire hazard, because you were so hot. Anyone who lights up in my home now will be invited inside.

I think you mean too enchanted etc Tom so I have edited your quote for you :D otherwise its a personal comment isn't it ! I never had a boyfriend/partner who was intimidated by me since afterall if they were intimidated by me we wouldn't be having a relationship . I'm wondering why in a thread where I have described stopping smoking you are badgering me about how I should have worried in the past about smelling !:confused:

My face hardly has any lines and those who never smoked have more lines than I but I think thats a genetic thing all my family are young looking even when they are old....my fingers and teeth aren't yellow at all

:flirt:


my dad looked pretty good even when he had lung cancer and he smoked very very heavily...infact i grew up with cigarettes as the smell of home, and he smelled of them always. Having grown up in a heavy smoking environment and everyone else smoking all through my youth how one smelled really wasn't so much of an issue then


Er I'm not saying smoking doesn't ruin your skin and make you smell etc etc it certainly doesn't help it but its not the main reason for stopping especially since people vary so much


Perhaps for some it is the main reason for stopping....thats fine
 

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I must have a little charm, Trojan, else why after annoying you so much repeatedly as I have done these last two years, would you continue to apologize to me? (I'm hoping for another, shortly :) ) Luis is a gentleman and a scholar but isn't my type.Still, I hope Luis doesn't smoke.

I've apologised to you when I see I have been unfair or unkind to you...but thats not often...I mean I doubt you'd get another apology from me within the next ten years so you better just save the last one and read it often



now theres tempting fate :rofl:
 

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I've apologised to you when I see I have been unfair or unkind to you...

Yes, and thank you, but among my other good qualities, I never asked you for an apology, did I? And thank you for giving up smoking, for which I, in part, may be to blame. I estimated last night that over the years I participated in growing at least 50 tons of tobacco.
 

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You might ask Yi how best to proceed...
 
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I am quitting for you Trojan.. I didn't tell you this, but my quitting is going to be in your honor. I just decided it.
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I was trying to think of what would peeve you the most - Did it work?:D

But in all seriousness, there is a difference in why I want to quit and simply quitting. Why I want to quit is because it is destroying me a little bit at a time. Slowly killing me and making myself weaker physically as well as in other ways. It is good fuel to think that I smell bad and my teeth are yellow. I also know that because I smoke my senses are dulled and the act of smelling isn't as good for me, and so I cannot smell the lingering smoke as well as non-smokers. I remember getting to a point when I quit before, and instead of liking the cigarette smell, I actually thought it was disgusting again. It was a breakthru! I should have never had that cig in Vegas. I also remember my voice changing. It became clearer and a little higher pitched. Someone on the phone long distance pointed it out to me. And my hair became softer.

This is all fuel to think about, to aid, sort of as filler. But it really does come down to a respect for myself. No one else matters in this regard. On the flip, I would be a liar if I said that what other people think of me doesn't matter.
 

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