i made a gesture of good will toward someone, then had two separate dreams that reflected a dynamic of increased intimacy between us, like watching a gap bridged, change from estrangement to closeness.

i asked what this reflected and received 45.1 to 17.

any help with 45.1 is greatly appreciated.

I did find this from Hilary:

"Gathering Following…
We call these meetings ‘I Ching Gatherings’, so this much is clear. There is also the double meaning of placing a lot of heavy demands in one place. And Following suggests things running smoothly, though not necessarily in the way I would plan."

- Hilary B.

so, 'll meditate on that.

okay, so i asked for some clarification - what is hexagram 45 line 1 changing telling me? - and was happy to receive an unchanging hexagram, as i'd hoped.

31.

And this was quite helpful as applied context:

http://onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/2008/02/09/holism-hexagram-31-and-marriage/

thank you.

45.1 to 17 ...

"“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. "Pooh?" he whispered.
"Yes, Piglet?"
"Nothing," said Piglet, taking Pooh's hand. "I just wanted to be sure of you.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh"

one of my favorite quotes from Winnie the Pooh!

45.1 indicates indecision. There would be no cause of anxiety if one would extend his hand to the other ...