Hello,

Today I decided to go to a small church in the country, that I have been meaning
to visit for a while as I have this years calander above my computer that
the church put out as a fund raiser. It has nice photos of church, grave yard,
grounds etc.. I like old buildings and there history.
Anyway I'm still coming to terms with a bitter marriage breck-up , (in it for 25 years)
been seperated nearly 5 years now and my two teenage children have chosen not to have
any thing to do with me to date. This has broken my heart as you can imagine!
In the last fews weeks I feel a cloud has finally lifted in my life and that I have the
strenght how to more on.
I found the church and to my amazment there was four graves with my married
surname on them, its not a common name. Anyway no bigger, so drove off down the
road and looked to take another,guess what the road was called my married surname!
OK?! Got home and was looking at calander turned it over to the month of October
and there is a photo of the graves with my married name on!!??
So my question to the Yi was; What does this mean to me?
31, line 5 < 62
Any help I would be grateful with in reading this

In truth
ruthee

what i cannot understand is if a guy a woman marries is considered good enough to have children with his dna above all other men whats the point in getting married to get divorced? after 25 years? was it really worth it? you might have gotten together in your youth teens etc in singles market you are up against women in their 20s early to mid 30s i m more onto mechanics of i ching than philosophy compared to many online clarity members hexagram 31=intercourse men+women have love hate relationships but passion sex love with lust rules & hexagram 62=preponderance of the small petty things is hexagram 62 you are competing with younger women your ex husband was right guy for you regardless of the divorce he aroused your passion you had his children other men you declined you might have had agreeable harmonious soulful connection with them "but bottom line sex+passion=(you had that for your husband) rules" as for graves call it coincidence maybe your ex was guy for you beginning to end like the grave who knows you might get back together? possible meaning

Thank-you for shining your light in reply meerkats64.

Don't get me wrong! I had a very successful marriage.
Passion, I believe, is not just there, you have to put in the work to gain it.
Sometimes I feel love is so bright that I need maybe to walk through
(for a better term) the valley of death, to see it more clearly.

Its finding where to place myself in my Childrens lives that I
struggle with....
in grace
ruthee

Hi Ruthlee

My question to you would be "what do YOU think it means?" Because that is the crux of the matter anyway. The commentary on the fifth line says, "What takes place in the depths of one's being..." In other words, there is an answer within you as to what you are looking for and want that is not readily apparent. You are obviously considering something, what is it? Is it getting back together with your husband? Or a way to get back into your kids life, or both? That is what you need to find out for yourself. What is it you really want, and then how can you go about getting it?

Gene

Thanks Gene,
Thats puts it on the line.
I will take some time out
to think about this.

in grace
ruthee

Hi,
After a bit of research;
The heritage of my marriage name sake,leads to
the first High Station Sheep Farm in New Zealand
(25.000 acres of land, Plus) and the name sake at the graves
in the local grave yard at the church I will honour with putting
flowers at these, when I attend the next service,
for my children.

Thank-you
In Grace
Ruthee

出生时间：年　性别：女　起卦方式：直接指定
起卦时间：2012年09月25日02时38分
起卦农历：壬辰年八月初十日丑时
神煞：天乙—子申　福星—未　日禄—午　羊刃—巳　驿马—亥　桃花—午　华盖—丑
干支：壬辰年　己酉月　己丑日　乙丑时
旬空：午未　　寅卯　　午未　　戌亥


六神　 伏神 　　　兑宫：泽山咸　(31)　　　　　　　　　兑宫：雷山小过（游魂）(5)
　　　　　　　　　【本　卦】　　　　　　　　　　　【变　卦】
勾陈　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丁未土　应　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母庚戌土　　
朱雀　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丁酉金　　○→　▅▅　▅▅　兄弟庚申金　　
青龙　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　子孙丁亥水　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　官鬼庚午火　世
玄武　　　　　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　世　　　▅▅▅▅▅　兄弟丙申金　　
白虎　妻财丁卯木　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　官鬼丙午火　　
滕蛇　　　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土　　　　　▅▅　▅▅　父母丙辰土　应

Line 4: Children have left you. (驿马—亥: 子孙丁亥水). They are not in your change hexagram. Out of mind, out of sight.
Line 2: Your former partner with a woman hidden behind him. No concern of yours.
This hidden line conflict with line 5 brother line. This line 5 may be you. Your life moves on.
Line 5 (hex 31)
Regain a sense of control over your life.

The four grave lines with your former relationship:
line 1 of 31: 父母丙辰土
line 6 of 31: 父母丁未土
Line 1 of 62: 父母丙辰土　
Line 6 of 62: 父母庚戌土
plus day of reading: 己丑日

You see four graves, but this relationship with the last name is over.
Line 5 moves back a step in hexagram 62.
In hexgram 62, there are two characters (former husband - line 2, 4), another person (line 3, 5).

You can continue to drift around and do whatever you want because all your previous connection with your ex is now in the grave.