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Intresting would be the question: Are we talking about someone new in your life or is it your actual, long year lasting relationship (you don`t need to answer me if this is too private, but keep in mind) because that changes things a little bit. If you trust the person, forget what I said.
Thank you Yvonne, can you just clarify - did you see somewhere in the hexagram I cast the instruction of what is the right way to look for this right guy?
I see it in one of the "derivated" hexagrams at 58.4.5. This means to hopefully get not attracted by the "wrong" things. But if you like it rather if I look for it at 28.1.3.4.5. I could also do.
Hexagram 28:
line 1: Being very, very carefully (I already told you a couple of days ago ;-)), (Yin on Yang position/place = fortune)
line 3: The sh.. happens = The preponderance of the great happen. So I would highly recommend to avoid changing this line. All lines which quality is different to position have fortune. All lines which have same quality as position have misfortune because this will cause the preponderance of the great. Line 3 is Yang line on Yang position so the misfortune happen. So the solution is being soft on strong position = being Yin on Yang place or being strong on soft position = being Yang on Yin place.
line 4: Looks much better. Fortune because Yang is on a Yin position. So it can mean that you find the right way at this stage, but it seems not to stop at this stage because you also had:
line 5: Not good. Yang on Yang position = misfortune. Is this guy younger than you? If "Yes" then I would take it literally.
If you have got more than one line at a hexagram you need to read it from the bottom to the top and that means that the lower lines happen first. So you see also here a developement.
Best wishes Yvonne
I am not sure how to avoid changing this line when it is already changed??
yes, he is a lot younger than me, so that applies literally. Bradford's take on this line is not as negative as in some other texts, personally, I can never figure out what the original meaning of the line is - rejuvenation of something that was thought long dead OR combining things that shouldn't naturally be combined. (or both which would make it a line of a zombie or a vampire hahaha)
I can't figure out what are the wrong things I am being attracted by.. or rather, why are they wrong. If I am attracted to kindness in someone, how can that be a wrong thing?!
Is it? Already changed? If "yes" you can`t do anything than just to go on trying get back balance as quickly as possible. If I stumble because I lost balance, I try to get back to balance as fast as possible. Same here for the case if the line has already changed. Yi tells me often: "Oh Yvonne what have you done here?" Then I`m scared and asking:"What can I do to fix it, what can I do to fix it??" Yi tells me and I do. It is that simple.
I want to say: There is always a way to correct mistakes in just trying to get back on right track again as fast as possible, getting back to balance. Misfortune happens if one does the same mistakes again, and again, and again. If you change quickly into a better direction you can avoid misfortune IN TIME or at least the big misfortune and hopefully only get smashed by a "little" misfortune
I agree.I only know 2 meanings of this line (28.5) the literally one and the political: (source: I Ching 3rd Book the Commentaries): Applied to politics, the metaphor means that if in times of insecurity we give up alliance with those below us and keep up only the relationships we have with people of higher rank, an unstable situation is created.
All in all it probably means: You can get this guy if you really want but it won`t make you happy for long. Maybe a quick adventure or something like that. You produce emotions for something which probably won`t last and so it costs you energy you should save up for a better relationship. That`s how I understand line 5 in this case. There is no blame and no praise because it is not important, a bit useless.
Maybe he`s a liar? Or maybe he doesn`t know what he is talking? Today this, tomorrow that? Maybe it is simply passion and has nothing to do with real love? This all could be wrong things. It is wrong enough if he doesn`t suit to you (in the long run). And it is wrong if passion leads you, because it is a feeling which can`t be trust.
You should never get into a relationship because of passion. If there is love AND passion it is right but, to be honesty: How often we exchange passion with love, hm? Haha. I don`t know how old you are but probably you had already a couple of relationships. How often have you thought it would be love and then recognized: Passion had lead you into the trouble?
By the way: R.L Wing says about 28.5 that one should not ignore reality and keep himself to his basics/fundamentals in other words: Reality. For me it sounds like a warning not to build up a castle in the air.
Best wishes Yvonne
I am confused. If the hexagram comes up with a changing line, that isn't that line already 'changed'? Or perhaps you see it as a warning - if you continue with this, this line will change and therefore you will get...whatever. Does that work even if you don't view the resulting hexagram as a result rather than the background? Do you think line 3 is warning of what will happen, not what has already happened?
I am not as young as I sound and have a fair few heartbreaks behind me, but I can honestly say that I have never been led by passion. I have far too much Aquarius in my chart for that to happen. If passion had any way to over-rule my head, this guy and I would have happened a long time ago
But good point about reality. I have been aware for some time that I have extrapolated the qualities I like in this guy and made up a fantasy guy in my head. This is why I am always taken aback whenever we actually meet because it's never like I imagine it in my head.
I have also learned to listen and accept "The Signs" so as not to make same mistakes over and over again.
Much gratitude for your time and energy :bows:
I looked for ALL information I have got about 28.5 and found something in addition. Hubert Geurts a german Author and Psychologist has written an I Ching Interpretation and he says about 28.5:
While being in an unstable situation we try to start something new (!), this will lead to a short blossom out, which burns up our little resources even more. Progress, like we wished, is it NOT.
Georg Zimmermann said about the fith line that the husband she gets is line 6 at the hexagram so I would be quite curious: Is he a gentle one? Yin man? Sorry for asking it is just I`m really curious if Georg Zimmermann is right here. You can pm me if it is too private.
Hi precision grace,
many thanks We will prove this and ask everybody who will change (or have the chance to change) this line the next 2 years here at the forum *lol*. No I don`t mean with yin man that he is effeminate, not like a gay. I mean just a soft man, maybe someone to whom you can talk, a man who is able to SPEAK *lol*. For example. Normally men doesn`t like talking much. Yin man is different, he likes to talk. Yin man is more flexible than stubborn. Yang man are mostly stubborn and don`t like talking much because they rather like acting.
Yang woman: Oh. Okay. I know this "problem" very well Because I`m a real yang machine too, lol. But I try to change at the moment because this yang overweight causes a lot of problems concerning relationships. Either I am dominant in the relationship (when I am together with a yin man) or I look for someone who is not only a Yang machine, but something like a Yang Atombomb you know? Means MORE Yang than me so that I can feel as a female, but the second one, the Yang Atombomb is normally beyond all bearing, means: The relationship is nothing but WAR. Have you made similar experiances?
So for the moment I try to find out for myself, what Yin is. I practise Yin, no joke. I hope it helps me to get more balanced. Maybe when I get it to be more balanced, I can hopefully find a suitable partner who is also well balanced in Yin/Yang.
About seeing the other one not as he is.....that`s why it is better to WAIT. After a while your inner "eye" becomes clear, you know? Do you remember about my 44 seduction I talked about a while ago? The contact started this year in January. Since 10 months I have got the chance to start something with him but I didn`t. I waited until my inner eye is clear again (not confused by feelings) and what shall I say: Now that I have got my feelings under control it is possible to see him like he is and I`m definitely NOT interested, so I`m free
Took me approximatly 8 months for to find out *aaaargh*. It is not that Yi didn`t tell me (that was the reason for being reserved) it was just I couldn`t SEE it clear, because I didn`t know enough about him and because some feelings confused me.
People often start relationships too fast, you know? A couple of weeks or 3 or 4 months are not enough time for to find out (really) who he or she is and if it would really suit. Feelings are confusing your mind, wishes makes you see him/her as the partner of your dreams and so on. The solution is: Wait until the madness ends, until you are clear in mind again and then look at the other.
I wish you all the best Yvonne
Aaaah now I understand. Yes, he very much likes talking, in fact, that's the main attraction for me - I can talk to him. Apparently all the other women think this too because he doesn't know where to turn, they are all after him lol. Not big in the modesty department While he is an action man, so to speak, he also likes to get involved in the lives of others, trying to help them fix their problems. Reminds me of my mother that way. In other ways, reminds me of my father. It's like a nice package of archetypes in one person.
Are you talking about the excess of Yang or excess of Ego? Or are they the same thing?
I am glad you didn't let yourself get caught in the wrong relationship.
I think the one's where you get the sense that "maybe it could almost work" are the worst, because they really aren't the right ones but are so tempting in the absence of the "this is definitely it, the one" ones.
I wish you all the very best too and again much thanks for your conversation
Clarity,
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