Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
57.5 Gentle/Penetrating Wind --> 18 Work on What Has Been Spoiled+
Hi Everyone,
I've been seeing a man for about 4 months and am uncertain whether to continue with the relationship. In a nutshell, we have extremely strong chemistry in all the key ways (physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual) and I like him more than I've like someone in a very long time. However, he's in the midst of dealing with a serious betrayal by his father and some subsequent financial trouble (he will probably have to file for bankruptcy), and he's expressed that he feels like he's in limbo and not sure he wants a serious relationship right now. He's very hurt, wounded and uncertain at the moment, and still figuring out how to piece his life back together.
At the same time, we seem to be slowly getting closer despite his stated resistance to a relationship. The last time I saw him we had a long talk about it (again), and he said he has realized that he's just so happy when he's around me and could totally see us together under better circumstances, that he's now really confused about whether he should hold off or proceed with me. However, that was a week ago and aside from some light texting this week, he hasn't tried to make plans with me or anything. So, although I'm sympathetic to his situation I also am getting frustrated with the waiting, and am wondering if it's better to just cut my losses at this point and move on.
I asked the I Ching to paint me a picture of:
What is the best relationship arrangement for X and I? (e.g friends, romantic partners, etc)?
39.4.5 Obstruction --> 62 Preponderance of the Small
-and-
How much longer should I stay involved with X romantically/sexually?
57.5 Gentle/Penetrating Wind --> 18 Work on What Has Been Spoiled
I'd love to hear anyone's thoughts on what I should do. Thanks!
We may lose and we may win though
we will never be here again
so open up, I'm climbin' in,
so take it easy - Eagles
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).