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When I first moved here about a month ago there was a little angst towards me from neighbour A because I unintentionally cut back his passion fruit vine. Neighbour B said I should beg A's forgiveness and buy him some more plants to replace the vine. I said no, the vine is fine as you can see and to be honest if A wants to get his knickers in a knot and not talk to me I couldn't care less, actually if noone talks to me I'm fine, I'm just doing my thing and not here for anyone else.
A month later A's got over it and now talks to me no problem whilst neighbour B is suddenly shunning me. Incidentally they are great mates.

Personally I find it all highly amusing but for sake of learning and insight I asked

Why is neighbour B shunning me

Hex 10.1>6

Huh - not aware of any argument we've had but Line 1 seems to be a reflection of how I am and would come across to others, particularly him as he is right next door. Just doing my own thing.

I have to admit this is the second time this sort of thing has happened. A couple of years ago I was renting a garden flat and the landlord lived in his house on the property. He wanted me to interact with him more but I was just doing my own thing and he would get quite angsty about it at times. When I gave notice I was leaving he got most upset about it. - Liss
 

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Do you thnk 10.1 could be describing your neighbor, maybe saying that he is just doing his own thing? Maybe his not talking to you is only that, and it's not him purposely shunning you?

Then maybe hex 6 as the relating hexagram could mean that you're seeing it in the context of the argument you had with neighbor A, which neighbor B was a bit involved with - you're relating the not talking to that - but maybe 10.1 says no, it's just B treading through his own life?
 

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Why is neighbour B shunning me?
10.1 > 6


Neighbor B doesn't want to acknowledge that your conduct in the affair of the passion fruit vine was correct and feels defeated (6). I believe in killing with kindness. Wave to B when you see them. Some years ago I was harshly reproved by a funeral home director for a late delivery. The family had arrived for a viewing and were present in the room. I nodded but said nothing. The reality was that the family were country people who had no sense of time. They had made an additional order just a short time earlier, and it was only by luck that I was able to deliver it as quickly as I did. There was no way I was going to defend myself by blaming the grieving family. The funeral director realized that he had overreacted and has since gone out of his way to be generous to me.
 
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Thanks for responding Lisa - Mr B is someone who loves to socialise and talk and include you in whatever he's doing and I could just sense a shift in 'attitude' towards me.

Pocossin - you've summed him up exactly - he appears to be very dogmatic and I've found he's a bit like if you don't do things my way you are WRONG!

thanks for the clarification - Liss
 

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A month later A's got over it and now talks to me no problem whilst neighbour B is suddenly shunning me. Incidentally they are great mates.

Personally I find it all highly amusing but for sake of learning and insight I asked

For heaven's sake, people are strange sometimes! :rolleyes: :rofl:

It took B a whole month to decide to 'suddenly' feel awkward about the previous incident, and in the meantime his good buddy A is fine with you.

Maybe if you do what Pocossin says, EVERYONE will get over it and life can go on normally (10.1). Actually, doing what Pocossin says sounds 10.1-ish too - going on with B as usual, waving and smiling, as if you don't even notice he's shunning you. Oy, people! :rofl:
 
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Oy indeed - I've heard a couple of stories already about his behaviour towards others and I'd sensed he was bit :eek: when I first met him - but he's alright, nice enough person blah blah - it's a funny place

I think Mr Passionfruit loves the drama of conflict and worked out I wasn't buying into it so must a thought oh well may as well just talk to her hahahahaha

where I'm living, you've no idea :freak:
 

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I half woke in the night thinking how wrong this thread was going....oh dear I need a break.

Now, I am going to say something since it seems important enough to my subconscious...in no way can this answer be seen to mean he is unhappy that you are getting on with other guy and didn't follow his advice. At least not if we go by what the I Ching says.

You cannot get a more peaceful, 'I mind my own business and go my own way' answer. Look at what Yi says

From Hilary's book ;

'Plain treading going on.
No mistake.'

This is about someone just doing things the simple way...no cunning schemes here whatsoever. Lisa was right. If the answer is about him he is just simply minding his business, he intends no harm, he isn't mad because you didn't take his advice :confused: Well it's a theory one could take if not using the Yi here, that is it's a theory that that is what he's thinking. But actually none of us know what he's thinking and I don't think it at all fair to attribute motives to him that are not in this answer at all !

Anyway the advice boils down to the same thing, just be nice to him. Neighbours are important people. They are the ones who help when no one else is around. I mean I think neighbours can be a huge factor in how happy you are in a place.


You asked why he shunned you and this answer shows he had no dubious motive. Sometimes we just don't see others, that's happened to me.

If the answer was about you it's the same too, just go your way simply. I really don't agree that this answer in any way suggests all these complex motives attributed to him. It is not what the I Ching says anyway

Also I don't get this you said '

Hex 10.1>6

Huh - not aware of any argument we've had but Line 1 seems to be a reflection of how I am and would come across to others, particularly him as he is right next door. Just doing my own thing.


why would you think on getting 10.1 this was about an argument ? With one line moving that line is pretty central and if you look at the fan yao 6.1 that's about dropping argument. Perhaps that is a mirror image of 10.1 since in 10.1 there is a no argument because one is taking simple steps, quietly doing one's own thing, not even remotely interested in conflict.

10.1 says he wasn't even shunning you !
 

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I suppose, thinking about it, if you asked 'why is he shunning me' then the image of you minding your own business in 10.1 could indicate that that is why he shuns you, because you do your own thing and don't listen to him. But it seems a bit far fetched still. I'd think it described him
 
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I suppose, thinking about it, if you asked 'why is he shunning me' then the image of you minding your own business in 10.1 could indicate that that is why he shuns you, because you do your own thing and don't listen to him. But it seems a bit far fetched still. I'd think it described him

Thank you for your insight as usual it's always interesting and helpful for me to think about.

I think you know enough of my history to understand I would have a pretty good gage on people's attitudes, moods etc.
What you've said here may be weird to you and me but it's not the first time I've come across it. A lot of men particularly in our age group and older don't understand independent women They want to be needed and have the need to be in control and Mr B has all the signs of that also the disapproval in his voice, face and other non-verbal communicator. Mr Charmer, seemingly one of the nicest people you could hope to meet but for me actions speak louder than words.
I've been in enough abusive relationships intimate or otherwise to be able to see the truth. I feel proud of myself that I can now see it clearly enough to keep myself out of 'danger' and to be the subject of this abuse.- Liss
 

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Yes, I wasn't doubting your judgment, just saying how 10.1 looked harmless, so by itself, the reading wouldn't say he was mad about you not taking his advice (IMO). If it's your view and you have evidence it's another matter, but the reading alone is pretty benign I think.
 
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so, so funny the electricity people are here to clear the overhead wires of trees haha off goes the passionfruit vine hahahahahahahahaha
 

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