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Should I move out? Should I seriously start breaking up with him? 56.5

Owlietta

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I'm 45, he's a few years older. Neither of us have had kids, neither of us have been married. It felt like like we were in love at the end of April. It feels like I am more in love with him than he is with me. He denies that, but has only told me he loved me...once, twice?

It seems like it causes him pain or money to give me a compliment! I'm exaggerating of course. But still... He's cuddly and lovable, fairly good looking. But I don't feel like he appreciates me. When I took it up in a conversation he said some less-than-nice comments, although I admit I have not been in a good mood the past week. The good thing is that we are open and honest with each other.

I said flat out that we shouldn't remain together, like, 15 minutes ago.

56. Lu / The Wanderer

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---- ---- above Li The Clinging, Flame
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---- ---- below K^en Keeping Still, Mountain
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The Judgement

The Wanderer. Success through smallness.
Perseverance brings good fortune
To the wanderer.

The Image

Fire on the mountain:
The image of the Wanderer.
Thus the superior man
Is clear-minded and cautious
In imposing penalties,
And protracts no lawsuits.

The Lines

() Six in the fifth place means:
He shoots a pheasant.
It drops with the first arrow.
In the end this brings both praise and office.


33. Tun / Retreat

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The Judgement

Retreat. Success.
In what is small, perseverance furthers.

The Image

Mountain under heaven: the image of Retreat.
Thus the superior man keeps the inferior man at a distance,
Not angrily but with reserve.
 

Owlietta

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My question was the title.

It's been a few days, and what REALLY is going on is that I've hit a depressive low point (reasons not related to my boyfriend). When I am depressed, I have trouble thinking clearly, and have difficulty seeing reality. I get overly sensitive.

I'm going to just take it easy and not make any decisions until I'm feeling more like myself.
 

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Hi Owlietta,

good decision I think. Hang in there! Things will start to look up eventually (hopefully soon).
Till then, I would not decide anything, or take rash steps.
best wishes

maui
 

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I've heard that in some cases when you get 56 it may mean a passing by idea. An idea that just crossed your mind and will disappear as it has come
 

Owlietta

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Also, I'm away on a literal "retreat" for 4 days, for a work project. I left the next morning after I posted this, and haven't been home yet.
 

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? Just because he didn't say that he loves you?
People have different ways to express love. Maybe with him, being honest with each other, sharing your everyday life is what a couple should be and that's enough. People tend to take that for granted until they are finally alone and lonely for awhile though...
 

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