Clarity,
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Your difficulty is the consequence of ignoring hexagram 23's warning not to go ahead. Simple as that. Now you know. You are now in a morass of confusion and you cannot understand what the oracle is saying to you. This outcome is what I would have expected. There is nothing you can do now, you will just have to weather the changes as best you can. But I do advise you to put the I Ching away for at least a week, otherwise you are only going to plunge yourself further into a dilemma that need not be.
I don't doubt the confusion was there before the call, but was it there before you got the idea to call, consulted the I Ching, got 23>19? Before the idea forms, is before confusion forms when it is the wrong idea. The oracle advised you to back away, you didn't, so you ended up compounding your confusion. You should aim to get back to the state of mind when you accepted the friendship was over, before you felt some responsibility to call, as if it was on your shoulders. The oracle gave you a timely warning to desist in this direction. But you didn't, so everything you are now experiencing is to do with that decision.
Confusion is often just an excuse we give ourselves for acting erratically. But actually the real reason is that we have not sat down and tried to understand the situation clearly, we are in fact avoiding doing precisely that, because some part of us doesn't want to face the truth of it. We would rather push and shove the situation than learn the value of waiting. We would rather be certain now and be wrong, than simply live with not knowing. It is amazing how we deceive ourselves. I often find the real turning point in the kind of situation you describe comes when you are prepared to accept the worst-case scenario: that it is over. That doesn't necessarily mean that it is over, but you can be sure that that's the point at which you can stop confusing yourself. Ironically, this is often the trigger of a change, such as the other person contacting us. But really, if we are to get anywhere with the I Ching, we must learn to be a whole lot less bothered, no matter what.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).