Clarity,
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United Kingdom
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I am still coping with issues regarding my boss...I feel we have some misunderstandings which could be cleared by an honest talk; I would like to openly tell him how I feel, I also believe he might have some wrong impressions about me.
Hi its my view that both your answers show this is a kind of a lost cause as in that whilst you may be sincere and wanting to make peace with the boss or whatever he doesn't appear to even see you as someone to consider. He doesn't see you you for who you are, to him you are just an employee. Whats making me say this is in 54.6 theres , just insincere gestures, empty gestures, no real communication or giving. Should you have an open conversation with him was your question. Well i think the answer is no, don't bother, it would be an exersize in futility. Perhaps even search your own heart and ask yourself would you really want to do this anyway. 54.6 changes to 38, you don't see things from the same perspective, obviously, hes the boss your're the employee. Apparently in any relationship where status and power play a part the one who is subordinate spends much more time thinking about what the higher status one is thinking, for obvious reasons I guess, you need to know what he wants and so on. The point I'm getting at is i think he is thinking about you waaaay less than you are about him, he might wonder hwere on earth this 'in depth talk' was coming from if he doesn't consider you in any depth. I think that was a really clear NO answer to your question.
Anyway you asked virtually the same question rephrased and got 36.4. This isn't about going deep its about hiding your true face and getting away without harm. I'd say the very last thing to do here is to go and present yourself to 'expose' it all 'from the heart'. i think 36.4 counsels the very opposite of that and my experience of the line is its lucky if you can sort of get out of the way undetected, thats the best scenario...not do your best to get detected lol.
Now I'm not sure when you say you care for your boss if you have a crush on him or if you mean hes like a friend but either way you need to consider he doesn't see things how you do and exposing your feelings may be more troublesome to you in your relationship with him than being discrete and just doing your job.
In my experience most bosses just want you to do your job rather than reveal your feelings lol.(unless they give direct indication they want your feelings lol)
Wondering why, though you don't need to say of course, why this person is making it so you can't sleep or eat ? Sounds pretty extreme, this is what lovers do to you not bosses. Well okay sometimes work scenarios make it like that but then I don't think any job is worth losing your health for.
in a nutshell I'd say don't reveal anything or have an honest talk. Maybe it would help more to try and work out these strong feelings within you, I mean so you can find some peace about it, rather than risk more upset by talking to him
I asked Yi Jing: should I have an honest conversation with my boss?
I got 54.6->38
No! It will be a waste of time.
as an after thought, I wanted to say especially re the 36 answer that you may need to be aware that this person doesn't have your interests at heart. In 36 one hides ones true feelings because those in power are not sympathetic, one is safer hidden. In 36.4 one is in the midst of danger and can see it quite clearly but may escape undetected. It sounds like you feel problems between you are due to misunderstandings you can clear up.. i think both answers say this isn't the case...it may simply be he is not much on your side right now so it doesn't pay to be too trusting. I noticed your previous thread about him where you said he wants someone subserviant..well yes with 54 that does come into his attitude to you and that isn't something you can clear up through discussion here i don't think.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).