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spica

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Daughter finds relationship with mother very difficult.
Sometimes she thinks her mum is a hidden enemy.
She asks, does mother love her?
23.2.6>7.

23.2 looks like the relationship between them must end, yet, line 6 shows a redemption?
What does the hexagram advise?

Daughter is thinking of moving from mother. She asks how will her mother feel about her moving?
10.2.5>21
 
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Splitting Apart, Move Out With A New Cart

It does look like you are splitting apart, and that persevering with the relationship will not work. You should prepare to be without her. "Quietly move to avoid the danger." (Balkin) You have lost your resting place, and are going to uncharted areas.

Line 6 is not a line of redemption, but probably a future state where the chaos subsides and you move out.

WikiWing has it as follows: "Noble one gets a cart and moves on decisively into the new, open field. Picks up his whole life and moves. Small people can’t conceive of that, or just can’t afford a cart, and so they make superficial changes – re-arrange the furniture – and end up damaging their own homes. Small person's motivation is often to hold onto what's theirs, or get back something from the past. Problems: it's past, unviable, and the efforts made to hold on are destructive in themselves.

Often a choice line: will you be noble one or small person? If others are already playing 'small person' role, can you still get the cart and move on?"

Tiger
 

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Hi Spica

I secondthat explanation by Tiger. Let me say this, I get the feeling, though not a definite knowing, that the problem with your mother is not whether she likes you or not, but rather she can handle you in the house. As bad as things may be, hexagram 7 says, "there is no question of preference here." the idea of the army though is that action must be taken.

Hexagram 10 line two's commentary says, "...He(she) remains free of entanglements." And perhpas that is the problem, there is too much of an entanglement. Leave, and things may quickly resolve themselves.

Gene
 
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She asks, does mother love her? 23.2.6>7.

It suggests that you are certainly in a bad situation as regards to your relationship with your mother but it advises you not to fight and argue with her, as her point of view has become quite extreme and inflexible.
But as to the question about love, there is something there but it appears to be very small these days as she has become rather tyrannical and controlling.

Daughter is thinking of moving from mother. She asks how will her mother feel about her moving?
10.2.5>21

Line 10.2 suggests that for your own peace of mind, you should indeed move, while line 10.5 suggests that there most likely will be some fallout when you tell her the news but you just need to remain unfazed by her antics and just do it.
The mother will mostly likely feel hurt, she will feel that you are punishing her by leaving but the feelings won't last.
 

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Thank you everyone. Truth be told daughter would like a better relationship with her mother but sometimes things get really bad. Much appreciated for your answers.
 

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