Suggested I Ching questions

Most popular questions

Here are ten of the questions my clients most often find useful:

  1. What if I...?
  2. How can I...?
  3. What's happening? (Please show me a picture of my situation.)
  4. Help! How can I cope?
  5. What do I need to know now?
  6. What's the best attitude to take to this?
  7. Why is this happening?
  8. If I make a full and whole-hearted commitment, what's the most likely result?
  9. What effect would it have on _______ if I...?
  10. How can I help?

(You might've noticed that not one of these questions asks 'What is going to happen?' Of course, you can ask the I Ching this kind of question, but be warned that in the real world, what happens depends in large measure on your choices and the I Ching is very much an oracle of the real world! So you can expect an answer that says something like 'well, you'll face these choices, and if you can manage this, and avoid this danger, then…')

Relationship questions

Parents and Children

  • How can I get through to them?
  • What stops them understanding?
  • How can I help them understand?
  • How can I persuade them?
  • Why do they respond to me like this?
  • Why does she react with such hostility?
  • Why does he lie to us?
  • What's at the root of her behaviour?
  • How can I help him do better?
  • What influence does ______ really have on her?
  • How does he really see me?
  • How can we build a positive relationship?

Relationship questions

Understanding your Relationship

  • What role do I play in _____'s life?
  • What lies at the root of that reaction?
  • How do we keep getting back into this pattern?
  • What is most important to _____?
  • What does _____ most want from me now?
  • What does _____ most need from me now?
  • What does marriage mean to ______ ?
  • What forces are at work in this relationship?
  • What am I searching for here?

Relationship questions

Finding a partner

  • What should I look for in a companion?
  • How do I recognise a soulmate?
  • How do I need to change in order to attract my soulmate?
  • What could _____ mean for me?
  • What effect would getting married have on our relationship?
  • what about moving in together?
  • What if I tell _____ how I feel?
  • How can I improve our communication?
  • What can I do to help move this to the next level?
  • What does _____ see in me?
  • What does ______ want from me?

Relationship questions

Helping

  • How can I make this easier for _____?
  • What can I do to help him through this?
  • How can I support her?
  • How can I cope when she's ill?
  • What is my role in this process?
  • What if I try encouraging him to talk?
  • What about distraction, humour, changing the subject?
  • Why does he react that way?

Relationship questions

Working relationships

  • How can I garner some support for this?
  • What does _______ want from this?
  • How can I keep _________ happy?
  • How can I build up a better working relationship with ______?
  • How can I win _________ over to my side?

Relationship questions

Confrontations

  • What will resolve this conflict?
  • How did things get the way they are?
  • What to expect if I 'win' this one?
  • What to expect if I 'lose' this one?
  • What is at the heart of this conflict?
  • What is the real issue here?

Relationship questions

Friendship and community

  • How can I bond with others?
  • How do I usually appear to others?
  • How can I build stronger friendships?
  • Where do I fit in?
  • How can I best be of service?
  • What role do I play in _____?

Personal Growth

Self-understanding

  • Please show me something of myself
  • What are my unique gifts?
  • What are my gifts for?
  • What did that dream mean?
  • Why did I do that?
  • Why do I feel this way?

Personal Growth

Where are you now?

  • Please show me an image of my situation
  • What's the purpose of this?
  • How am I doing in my efforts?
  • What forces are at work in my life?
  • What's influencing this situation?
  • How can I position myself in the flow of things?
  • What's at the root of this?
  • How is this situation likely to develop if I just let it be?
  • What am I looking for?
  • What do I need to understand?

Personal Growth

Where are you going?

  • This path I'm on - where does it lead?
  • What can I expect?
  • What is all this leading up to?
  • What should I hold in mind for the coming year?
  • What can I achieve this Spring?
  • How can I realise this dream?
  • How can I become more attractive to good fortune?
  • What should I be aiming for?

Personal Growth

Emotions and the past

  • What am I meant to learn from this?
  • What am I meant to gain from this?
  • How can I transcend my past?
  • How can I control my anger?
  • How can I overcome my fears?
  • How is that experience affecting me now?
  • What's at the root of this unease?
  • How can I overcome this compulsion?
  • How can I start to change this set of reactions?
  • How can I best handle the effects of past experience?

Personal Growth

Evaluating teachers and resources

  • What do _____'s ideas mean for me?
  • If I committed myself to following this book's advice, where would it lead me?
  • What about going on this course?
  • Why am I so drawn to _____?
  • What's at the core of _____'s popularity?
  • What's at the core of _____'s teachings?
  • What about following my intuition and being selective with this?
  • What effect would it have on our relationship for me to pursue this?

Decision making and planning

Decision making is an area where we can get a tremendous amount of help from the I Ching with just a couple of simple questions. Note: don't ask, "Should I do this or that?" That kind of question makes it very hard to understand the answers. Instead ask about one option at a time:
"What if I choose option a?"
"What if I choose option b?"
and start with whichever represents the largest change or biggest unknown.

And if you're in need of an overview, it's fine to ask for general advice on the best approach to a decision, or what you need to bear in mind.

Some sample questions for decisions and planning:

Decision making and planning

Decision making is an area where we can get a tremendous amount of help from the I Ching with just a couple of simple questions. Note: don't ask, "Should I do this or that?" That kind of question makes it very hard to understand the answers. Instead ask about one option at a time:
"What if I choose option a?"
"What if I choose option b?"
and start with whichever represents the largest change or biggest unknown.

And if you're in need of an overview, it's fine to ask for general advice on the best approach to a decision, or what you need to bear in mind.

Some sample questions for decisions and planning:

Buying a house: the decision

  • What about buying this one?
  • What would it be like to live in this area?
  • What would it be like to live in this house?
  • What would living here mean for us?
  • What is the spirit and character of this house?
  • What if I try to improve the house's character and atmosphere?
  • What are the short-term implications of this move?
  • What are the long-term implications of this move?
  • What effect would moving here have on my career?
  • What effect would this move have on the children?
  • What effect would this move have on my relations with my parents?

Decision making and planning

Decision making is an area where we can get a tremendous amount of help from the I Ching with just a couple of simple questions. Note: don't ask, "Should I do this or that?" That kind of question makes it very hard to understand the answers. Instead ask about one option at a time:
"What if I choose option a?"
"What if I choose option b?"
and start with whichever represents the largest change or biggest unknown.

And if you're in need of an overview, it's fine to ask for general advice on the best approach to a decision, or what you need to bear in mind.

Some sample questions for decisions and planning:

Buying a house: the negotiations

  • What approach should we take to these negotiations?
  • How can I get the seller/buyer to see my point of view?
  • What about lowering our offer to $_____ in response to this survey?
  • What about accepting this offer?
  • What attitude should I take to this buyer?

Decision making and planning

Decision making is an area where we can get a tremendous amount of help from the I Ching with just a couple of simple questions. Note: don't ask, "Should I do this or that?" That kind of question makes it very hard to understand the answers. Instead ask about one option at a time:
"What if I choose option a?"
"What if I choose option b?"
and start with whichever represents the largest change or biggest unknown.

And if you're in need of an overview, it's fine to ask for general advice on the best approach to a decision, or what you need to bear in mind.

Some sample questions for decisions and planning:

Attaining goals

  • What is the most likely outcome of this approach?
  • What if I leave well alone?
  • What if I try …? (suggest a strategy you have in mind)
  • What approach should I take?
  • What can I do to…? (insert a goal of your own)
  • What should be my first priority in all this?
  • What position should I take?
  • How should I go about this?
  • Where should I start?
  • What is the path of least resistance?
  • How do I get there from here?

Decision making and planning

Decision making is an area where we can get a tremendous amount of help from the I Ching with just a couple of simple questions. Note: don't ask, "Should I do this or that?" That kind of question makes it very hard to understand the answers. Instead ask about one option at a time:
"What if I choose option a?"
"What if I choose option b?"
and start with whichever represents the largest change or biggest unknown.

And if you're in need of an overview, it's fine to ask for general advice on the best approach to a decision, or what you need to bear in mind.

Some sample questions for decisions and planning:

Foresight

  • What sort of opportunity is this?
  • What if I go ahead now?
  • What is possible at present?
  • What changes lie ahead?
  • What unseen factors must be taken into account?
  • Where will problems come from?
  • What are the snags?
  • What do I stand to gain?
  • What do I have to lose?

Business and Career

Projects & ventures

  • How will this venture turn out?
  • Please comment on the wisdom of this decision.
  • How should I handle this latest development?
  • What influences are at work here?
  • What am I not seeing?
  • What can I expect from this meeting?
  • How can I best prepare for this meeting?
  • If I invest all this time and energy, what will come of it?

Business and Career

Customer relations

  • What do my customers really want from me?
  • What's the core problem that my prospects want to solve?
  • How should I market this?
  • What would be a good PR angle?
  • Please give me some ideas for the new advertising campaign.
  • How can we attract new customers?
  • What real needs does this product/ service meet?
  • What else can I give my customers?

Business and Career

Career development

  • What is my true vocation?
  • What direction is my career headed?
  • What about changing my career?
  • What to aim for next?
  • What about trying for a pay rise or promotion?
  • What changes should I expect at work?
  • How can I attract success?
  • What are my options?
  • What could help me here?
  • What is my role in this?
  • What can I contribute?
  • Where do I stand at work?

Business and Career

Partnerships and JVs

  • What are the prospects for this partnership?
  • What about a joint venture with _______?
  • What are _______'s aims in this?
  • How should I approach these negotiations?
  • What could I offer _____ that would be of the greatest value to him?

Once you've found a question you like

You're ready to cast your hexagram.

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