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I don't think there is any answer to your question outside of what he told you and what you feel. No answer is going to be able to confirm what you're asking. I feel 7 is an underlying intent....which makes sense as you say between conflict and union. It's Shadow (explanation in ED sticky here) is 58, one might think this is something to be openly expressed, to find out through open exchange, but what you need to focus on is the sense of intent. Look at his intentions and whether he carried them through. If you mean something you will have an intent about itSo I asked: was our relationship really special to him as he told me? 7 unchanging
I read 7 uc could mean to be in between conflict and union. And this is correct, but didn't really answer my question. Or was it and advice?
It's not the best way to get the insight you want by asking from his point of view. Who can speak for him. I think this answer might show you are in rocky territory in heading this way but you can fall back on what you feel to be true inside (61). Yes it does look like taking a risk for the sake of what one feels to be true.I then asked what I represented to him > 29.1.6>61
Sometimes, when I ask about him, Yi answers to me anyways with advice and I don't understand if this is the case. It could mean I know he's a danger to me, but also that I know he sacrificed intimacy because of fear? That he was afraid of me, of us?
It looks like in line 5 you perhaps manage to maintain ann occasional friendly, measured kind of interaction? 24 can be return of something/someone but most often it is return to one's usual state of life, it's like coming back in to yourself. 60.2 clearly shows someone not making a move. You have 29/30 change patterns here too. Where 29 is there are quite treacherous emotional waters. But this looks to be quite a calm cast eventually, a way through that (30 yin pattern) It might feel okay and you may get over it better if you can fall into a friendship kind of pattern. I like 60.5 it's respectful of boundaries, both parties can be happy with how things are set up. I think if you could establish a kind of routine of friendship it would help. Most relationships do rely on some kind of pattern of routine otherwise one can not be at peace with it. Like if my friend calls me every 3 weeks I don't worry if I haven't heard from her after 2 weeks. By keeping you hanging, never really knowing what to expect he's actually made you addicted to him. If he withdrew fully or if he were fully there you wouldn't be preoccupied with him, but he's fed you a bit of sugar, you give up then he feeds you a bit more. You got hooked.I asked if he would come back to me (my brain hopes not, but my pride, in a certain way, hopes so) > 60.2.5>24
Line two show someone close in his gate. I don't really understand line 5. 24 always puzzles me because I don't understand if it means return to someone or to ourselves.
This is where you catch deceptions that have held you and confused you and you get free of them. So that could be in the relationship you both destroy the deceptions and so on but from from what you've said it's already gone and it was never really there to start with. I suggest you have been deceived/manipulated but not necessarily deliberately, or even by him. Two people can act out highly manipulative behaviours without even knowing they are doing so. So I am not saying he didn't love you but you are asking all these questions because deep down you know somewhere you haven't known the truth about what happened for you. 40.2 is a great answer for getting to the truth that really releases you from bondage to thinking about him. It certainly looks like he was acting out h is own patterns of insecure attachments and you were on the receiving end wondering what was going on and becoming more addicted and more helpless.What's the situation between us? 40.2>16
Could it mean I should free myself from him?
Reading through I think the answers to your questions might be also be more fully addressed through research online so you get to understand the dynamics of what was happening. Was this love or limerence? Useful to look up limerence, useful to look up what his behaviour was saying, if you got addicted to his 'no show' look up 'The crappy childhood fairy' and things like that. These are all well known patterns, it's not just something that happened between you and him. It sounds like a dance, which could also be said to be a 7/58 thing. He needed to know you were there but when you were there he felt free to go off which makes me think it's worth you researching attachment patterns. I heard someone talking last night about the more secure a toddler feels the more she will feel free to wander off and explore. He made me think of that a bit.
It's not the best way to get the insight you want by asking from his point of view. Who can speak for him. I think this answer might show you are in rocky territory in heading this way but you can fall back on what you feel to be true inside (61). Yes it does look like taking a risk for the sake of what one feels to be true.
It looks like in line 5 you perhaps manage to maintain ann occasional friendly, measured kind of interaction? 24 can be return of something/someone but most often it is return to one's usual state of life, it's like coming back in to yourself. 60.2 clearly shows someone not making a move. You have 29/30 change patterns here too. Where 29 is there are quite treacherous emotional waters. But this looks to be quite a calm cast eventually, a way through that (30 yin pattern) It might feel okay and you may get over it better if you can fall into a friendship kind of pattern. I like 60.5 it's respectful of boundaries, both parties can be happy with how things are set up. I think if you could establish a kind of routine of friendship it would help. Most relationships do rely on some kind of pattern of routine otherwise one can not be at peace with it. Like if my friend calls me every 3 weeks I don't worry if I haven't heard from her after 2 weeks. By keeping you hanging, never really knowing what to expect he's actually made you addicted to him. If he withdrew fully or if he were fully there you wouldn't be preoccupied with him, but he's fed you a bit of sugar, you give up then he feeds you a bit more. You got hooked.
It’s not silly at all. You have strong feelings for this person and, regardless of their behavior, you still need to process and resolve things.
40.2 > 16 as your connection is, in my opinion, not positive. I received this line a lot to describe my marriage. Obviously that’s just one experience but I don’t think anyone wants to be in a relationship as tricky as this line. There is evasion, or half-truths, here I think. Whether it’s intentional lying or just not being direct or lying by omission, it’s like you’ll constantly need to be on the hunt to get at what’s really going on because it’s not direct. I think the challenge is that this line comes with positives too, of course, there’s something alluring about the situation.
It’s normal to go deeper into obsession when someone won’t give you real answers, it’s part of the dynamic. I think, though, that overall Yi doesn’t place the same importance on him that you do and is more interested in you returning to your own truth. I don’t know if these casts tell us much about what he thinks but they do let us know that you have a lot of your own answers and maybe those are most important. And, again, this will take time. This type of relationship makes you think the person is more than they really are because unavailability creates an addictive patterning somewhat. It’s going to make you feel all these things no matter if your mind says you should know better.
So your questions for 29 >61, 60 > 24, 40 > 16 are all leading me towards him having a disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) attachment style. Maybe look it up and see if it resonates with you. 40>16 is saying your intuition of this being about fear of intimacy is right. 29 > 61 is his subjective experience of the situation. Terrifying, overwhelming.
60 >24 importantly, is counseling you to protect your heart. I have a disorganized attachment style. It's almost impossible to fix without professional help. He is going to keep hurting you, not because he's evil or mean but because he can't help himself, he can't be what you need him to be. Be careful.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
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+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).