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Lost my best friend and possibley made a big booboo :( damn it, damn it, damn it!

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get nice and comfy and get ready to read, this is a fairly long one :eek:

:hug: My best friend and I had a huge falling out! We use to be lovers and friends but he wasn’t ready for settling down/commitment so then we became friends and after 5 years best friends. We’ve had a rough struggle especially going from lovers to friends. But the rewards have been worth it, from my perspective its built a strong bond. Last year we fell out, about 5 months ago I made the first step and went around to see him to reconcile and we hugged and made up, talked about what happened. He gave me his mobile number again as I had deleted it during the falling out. After this day I went to call him thinking all was on the mend to be well again and he didn‘t return my calls. In these past 5 months I’ve rang him twice and sent a couple of texts and had no replies- my texts were loving and kind letting him know I was there and I really wanted him to get in touch.

So I here I am right now with this. I got so unhappy waiting (possibly a big boo-boo Hehe) I sent him a kind but firm a text saying that I loved him very much but ignoring me was unkind and that I was letting go if I didn’t hear from him this weekend because I‘d waited for all these months with no word. I don’t feel I had much choice in this as I’ve had no contact I can only assume he no longer cares for me- which doesn’t seem right somehow, but I convinced myself of this so it felt easier if it has ended indefinitely! Giggling at myself. I‘m not really sure what to think. I’m not angry that he has ignored me, I’m just concerned as to the reason, and worried for his wellbeing &I missed him.

I’m in the process of letting go, or at least that’s what I said I was doing? I realised I’m wish washing. I’m worried it was a little premature, my decision wasn’t rash, I have thought about just letting go I.e. as in forgetting about this. Letting go will be difficult as I feel a strong connection/bond. I’m just trying to find balance for myself- I felt it unfair that I wait for him to get in touch, what if he never did/does ha-ha- you get the picture I’m sure. Its strange us not communicating, and it feels silly that we‘re not? A little bit of fear/anxiety, apprehension on my part. How long do you wait in these sorts of situations? The eternal question. If I listened to my heart the door would be open unconditionally and it still is. I really believe that he needs to create a bridge and its not my responsibility as I have done all I feel it was best to do. Also I don’t want to pester my friend, he may just not want contact, I don’t know the circumstance, I’ve not been too sure how far to push this. Do I need to try and undo my last action urghh.

I thought I’d ask the I-ching some questions to try and see the situation clearly or from a different perspective. I’m a little nervous of what the I-ching will say, what if its really bad news! I’m hoping I ask the right questions to in order to get a clear picture.

Thanks for reading all that or if you just skimmed I suppose thats ok too :rofl: Any insights would be greatly appreciated . I’ve written what I think it could mean, but I could be way off.

A clear picture of this relationship presently.
42.1.2.4--6 That’s increase changing into conflict.

A picture of me in this relationship presently.
24.4.6--21 Return changing into cutting through. The last line, does that mean I’ve missed the return and made a big mistake?! It can’t be repaired?! I acted too prematurely?

A picture of him in this relationship presently.
28.1--43 Excess pressure changing into breakthrough

How I see our bond.
51.1.4--2 Shock changing into the receptive. I think this shows me feeling apprehensive- like I already said above and that I feel as if I’m bogged down or stuck in the mud? Not sure about the shock though?

How he see’s our bond?
4.5-- 59 I don’t think he’s use to close bonds like this with women, he usually had either casual friendships- I.e. not really close or sexual relationships- ours has been quite a ride! it’s a lot deeper than he is use to and he said it scared him. He is a few years older than me and he’s had more experience sexually and relationship wise yet I’ve found myself being a teacher! You know he boasts about his past relationships, but when it came to giving me a real commitment of any sort he was well out of his depths! He comes across as confident but when it comes to this he’s quaking in his boots! He was the typical jack the lad when I met him- but once you get past the frontage he’s very sensitive and still is ha-ha by the looks of this? I taught him about bonds- and shared with him why I thought ours was so close. I have seen him mature quite a bit. A lot of learning & compassion has been involved especially for me! So if I do lose him at least I have this wealth of learning. We’ve had A lot of forgiveness and going over hurdles!! Or is this just my opinion and he’s just ignorant to the whole thing?!

His feelings for me.
64.3--50 Not yet complete changing into the Cauldron. Does this mean he’s trying to move on? Possibly. Or he feels things are incomplete? Not sure on this one. A transformation that’s not yet complete? Just guessing now.:D

My feelings for him.
62.1.5.6--13 That I’ve busied myself in trivial matters? only been able to create a small influence and I’ve lost him. Or perhaps I’m feeling the worst.

How does he feel about my last text?
63.1.2.6--57 After completion and the gentle. A completion that was gentle?

Am I making the correct decision in letting go?
21.2---38 Biting through changing into estrangement. The line talks about getting stuck in, I think its saying I am making the correct decision or perhaps it means I’ve gone too far into trying to get through this obstacle (not communicating) between us. Have I created or helped keep the estrangement?

Will he get in touch despite my last text?
15.1.5--63 Humility changing into after completion.

What does he want from our relationship?
4.1.2.3--22 Youthful folly changing into grace.

What does he want from me now?
26.5--9 possibly not to come on too strong? To be gentle?

Does he still love me?
56.4.5- 53 Taking a guess I think its saying he doesn‘t- shooting the pheasant that could mean he‘s letting any feelings go? Or is that my mindset on the whole issue? I never feel I’m getting enough insight or depth in to the answers.:duh:

What is he deciding to do about this relationship now?
27.2--41 seeking nourishment changing into reduction.

What is the best attitude for me to assume in this situation?
60.6--61 It talks about enacting severe limitations,:brickwall: now is it saying that enacting these limitations on the situation is not the best attitude or that it is?

What is the best step for me to take now?
28- excess pressure unchanging. I’m just not sure what this is saying. Perhaps I need to step back and chill out a little now. Or should I take further action as it talks about extraordinary measures in extraordinary circumstance- does that apply here?
 
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Focus yourself in the last answer (hex 28 unchanging). Avoid an emotional colapse, by moving forward.

Blessings
 
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thanks :)

Thanks for your reply :) I don't feel I will emotionally collapse, I've gotten over the worst pain now, I feel relaxed and happy, I'm just making sure I'm reading the situation correctly :D & moving on is the best step for me.
 

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hi Trish,

from where I'm standing I can only tackle your 21>38 and 60>61 readings, hope it helps!

21.2 to 38: you are trying to solve the situation but missing an aspect of it. 38 says to me that you come into this from very different points of view, there's only a small place where you can see eye to eye . .

60.6 to 61: you've set the limitations you needed but don't be too absolute in keeping them just for the sake of them, you've said already that deep down he still is important to you; keep this in mind

as a sidenote, friends-lovers-friends situations always makes for a lot of shaky ground to my experience . . some issues may never be resolved for good

good luck! :)

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I agree :)

21.2 to 38: you are trying to solve the situation but missing an aspect of it. 38 says to me that you come into this from very different points of view, there's only a small place where you can see eye to eye . .
I'm not sure I understand this, but I think your saying that we aren't agreeing on something? We do have different backgrounds, he had a rough life, been a bad boy etc when he was younger- and mine a sheltered one- miss goody two shoes- spiritual etc ;) yes I am definetly missing something- thats the feeling I have like I'm not quite seeing the full picture here, perhaps we will get more insights.

60.6 to 61: you've set the limitations you needed but don't be too absolute in keeping them just for the sake of them, you've said already that deep down he still is important to you; keep this in mind
Yes, I needed to set the boundaries I believe & I'm trying to stay open & flexable in my approach, he will always be important to me, I understand how this ties with the resulting hexagram now of inner truth- thanks for this insight.

as a sidenote, friends-lovers-friends situations always makes for a lot of shaky ground to my experience . . some issues may never be resolved for good.
Yes i agree with this, I'm thinking perhaps I'm just wasting my time, maybe its just too difficult. Yet its Come so far, maybe calling it quits is for the best.
 

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A clear picture of this relationship presently. 42.1.2.4--6

Lines 42.1,2 seem to show the past when things were really sweet between you but line 42.6 suggests the recent events, where he has failed to communicate with you, even though he should have, and thus finds himself alone and under attack. But Hex 6 is quite clearly indicating the situation now, a state of conflict, and therefore an obstruction now exist between yous.
There is a solution, you both have to meet halfway, otherwise this situation will never end.
 
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Hmmmm...

I thought of two questions I really wanted to know, was brave and asked them. Perhaps this will tell me what I'm missing. Appologies on my readings hehe a novice and just learning! I have already asked loads, I hope there's not a limit :eek:

I asked Has he abandoned me?
8.1.2.5--19 Holding together changing into approach.

Having a good go at answering this one myself. Holding togther says perhaps he hasn't. line 1 talks about sincerity? line 2 talks about holding inwardly and line 5 I'm not sure what its saying- they speak of seeking or being attached. The relating hexagram- 19 approach. This is the approach he's taking?

Why has ignored me?
22.2--26 Grace changing into taming power of the great. Does this mean he's being shallow in some way. Worried about his apperance in this hmm. Maybe he's grown a beard so long he's entangled in it and trapped and can't reach his phone? Where is Lassie? or maybe we need a hairdressor :D reading the i-ching to me feels like i'm dancing with two left feet hahaha :rofl: This is probably not a time for silly humour, i'm trying to stay positive.

I think all the answers are here, its just bringing them together into some sort of conclusion.
 

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A picture of me in this relationship presently. 24.4.6--21

Line 24.4 says that you are very much alone but still thinking about your close "friend" . While line 24.6 suggests that you screwed up by waiting far too long, 5 months is a long time, your stubbornness in waiting has now caused things to go totally s*** between you.
So, Hex 21 says that at present you are now fighting to get through, you are finally making the effort but it all looks too little and too late.
 

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A picture of him in this relationship presently. 28.1--43

He is being supremely cautious, so he ain't going to make any move until he feels 100% sure of what you are up to, it seems that he doesn't trust you at all. I think he maybe considering calling you soon to let you know how he feels.

Considering this man was supposed to be your best friend at one time and you would like him back, you seem to act like it is all some big joke or something which I for one find very disconcerting. I have learnt in life that true friends are very rare indeed.
 
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I am heartbroken over this, the 28 unchanging coming true now, I just haven't known what to do, humour is my way of coping, i'm not taking it lightly I have felt suicidal over this. if i lose him it will be like losing my heart. I'm sorry If i have offended you, or if I have not showed my sincerety- I appreciate your perspective.

I asked if I should approach him again?
7.1.3.4.6 changing into 14

Right now I feel like doing everything i can to try and talk to him, I truely am just afraid, I find myself in a situation thats new to me.

maybe I need to be completely honest with him on how I truely feel.

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I feel as though I've been kicked in the stomach. Drowning right now, I felt finally at ease with accepting this, now I feel overwhelmed. Just feel like ending it, he thinks I am untrustworthy- I have been honest and caring to the best of my ability. I Wish I knew what todo. Perhaps I shouldn't have consulted the I-ching. I'm sorry if I've caused any offence with my humour. I'll try and sort this out on my own...

Take care
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I don't have time to answer your post as there are so many questions and answers..but I must say there is no possible reason for any 'reader' here to ascribe any fault to you and i can see you are not treating this as a joke...sometimes we laugh over things that hurt the most. You haven't caused any offence here that I can see.


Though I'm sure you realise this no one here can with any certainty say what another thinks or feels particularly in anothers reading and I certainly would not see 28.1 as suggesting he finds you untrustworthy , that is just one 'readers' view.

My general impression including the 28.1 is that he may want to change the pace or terms of the friendship...that doesn't mean you did anything wrong, friendships do run their course...I don't feel you should despair here, there obviously is something happening with him, perhaps in his own time you will learn what it is but i think you have to let him come to you in his own time, meanwhile be kind to yourself :)

You are already under pressure with this, you had 28 for next best step to take..you don't need to take any more pressure upon yourself through self blame etc..as Enmedio said , move forward and way from the pressure
 
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Thankyou

:eek:Thanks trojan, you have come in with the voice of reason & sanity :) I just sent him a message saying how I was feeling- distressed, that I couldn't survive without him etc. my humour has gone out of the window. Now I've made a fool of myself. I am a true friend. I hope I haven't made it worse now :( my intial feeling was to do just that wait. I've gone off on a tangent about willowfoxes opinion as my worst fear was that trust has been broken between us :( oh dear. When your overwhelmed you take a time out- which is my usual approach now i've made things worse, i'm usually so careful.
 

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:eek:Thanks trojan, you have come in with the voice of reason & sanity :) I just sent him a message saying how I was feeling- distressed, that I couldn't survive without him etc. my humour has gone out of the window. Now I've made a fool of myself. I am a true friend. I hope I haven't made it worse now :( my intial feeling was to do just that wait. I've gone off on a tangent about willowfoxes opinion as my worst fear was that trust has been broken between us :( oh dear. When your overwhelmed you take a time out- which is my usual approach now i've made things worse, i'm usually so careful.

Well you may feel you made a fool out of yourself but he isn't really behaving so cleverly is he..or rather he could behave better in that he could return your call now that you have rung several times. Could be he is being very careful about what he says or doesn't know what to say (28.1) because he wants distance but perhaps it would be better if he could be a little more direct and not leave you hanging and wondering. Not that I'm in any position to judge him..but it is very hard when someone just doesn't return calls, it leaves one with all sorts of feelings, not sure what to think, its easier for the one who doesn't call back because they don't have to explain, harder for the one who is left not knowing, very painful. But in time you may well know. Your 42>6 answer suggests a compromise of some kind is really necessary for the condition of increase (42) and that may mean not pressing your case now, not calling him. I think your priority now is your own peace of mind. Wilhlem says in the Image in 28 "The lake rises above the trees:...Thus the superior man, when he stands alone, Is unconcerned, And if he has to renounce the world, He is undaunted" So i think this acknowledges what an extreme this situation places you in emotionally, and it will help you to recognise that, to treat yourself almost as if you were injured, to move away from that place of over burden and injury in your own mind. Let him do as he pleases for now, its you you need to take care of right now
 
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Thanks for this, I'm going to go off to bed now, relax, light my candles and chill. I'm only human and making mistakes, so kindness for myself right now is the best medicine :) I've compromised as much I can I think. I also think if i'm very honest that he has in a way been cruel- he was my friend, before we fell out he told me he loved me and he cared, and now he has ignored me after reconciling, I personally would not treat my friends like this. We did fall out over a very serious matter, I don't really want to go into it. Your fine for judging, sometimes a little judgment helps. Whats done is done. I'm going to back off emotionally like I planned- letting go. I said I'd ring him when I had credit- I'll just let this go.

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I hope you are feeling better.

The only boo=boo you made, if any, is to fall in love with someone who is obviously not worth the angst you are putting yourself through. You certainly did not "wait too long" or anything like that. Be good to yourself.
 

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I certainly would not see 28.1 as suggesting he finds you untrustworthy , that is just one 'readers' view.

My general impression including the 28.1 is that he may want to change the pace or terms of the friendship...that doesn't mean you did anything wrong, friendships do run their course...

Well, the person who wrote the above statement just disagrees with every answer that I give lately, not that I care but it only serves to confuse the querent. Last time she said my answers were to sweet pandering to the dreams of the querent, today she says my answers are too harsh, upsetting the querent. Are none of my answers ever right for her? :confused:

Now, go look for yourself at line 28.1, it is all about caution and certainly not about "changing the pace or terms of the relationship" at all. Now, ask yourself why he needs to be so very cautious about this relationship? As it takes two to make a relationship work then the problem in his head lies with you. Relationships work because people trust each other, they have to, but here the relationship is broken because the trust is gone.
 
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Why has ignored me? 22.2--26

Basically he is looking out for himself here as he remembers what went down between you as regards the fighting and separation, it would appear that he does not want history to repeat itself, hence his solution to the problem, to just ignore you.
Now as you see this answer ties in with the other, with line 28.1 in it saying that he is being super cautious about having any further dealings with you.

I see you clearly to be part or the main reason why the relationship is in the state that it is in today. You said yourself you did nothing to repair the damage for 5 months, and the question I answered above clearly states that you missed a good opportunity to repair the damage done but you idly sat around waiting instead. Now you are all sorrowful but I tell you straight, if it was my best friend, I would have only waited a few days to a week before I got my ass around to their house. You screwed up and you know it, so it is down to you to make the effort to do something about it but the whole situation looks like it is way past its sell by date. I say what needs to be said, so up to you to believe what you chose to believe. And, I was rather offended by your flippant approach on here, about a situation that was meant to be so very close to your heart, I see no funny side to this story, in fact I find it very sad that such a true friendship gets destroyed by stubbornness, willfulness and laziness.
 

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let me say, I do not wish to get into a fight with anyone here, but I feel compelled to say this . .

Trish obviously you're in upheaval, try to stay calm and centered
no use for big or harsh words here, mistakes we all make, this is how we learn to be.
and times of mistakes can really be great if we put aside being judgemental both to ourselves and to others

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Well, the person who wrote the above statement just disagrees with every answer that I give lately, not that I care but it only serves to confuse the querent. Last time she said my answers were to sweet pandering to the dreams of the querent, today she says my answers are too harsh, upsetting the querent. Are none of my answers ever right for her? :confused:

Now, go look for yourself at line 28.1, it is all about caution and certainly not about "changing the pace or terms of the relationship" at all. Now, ask yourself why he needs to be so very cautious about this relationship? As it takes two to make a relationship work then the problem in his head lies with you. Relationships work because people trust each other, they have to, but here the relationship is broken because the trust is gone.

Thats just not true, many answers you give I would agree with. Its not a personal vendetta Willowfox I genuinely have concerns sometimes over the degree of certainty with which you tell querants what their friends and lovers are thinking, when you lay blame at their door...and it worries me very much when they appear to believe you, as if you knew and they end up feeling awful when they were already in a fairly distressed state. As for critisizing you for 'sweet pandering' again its not about me setting out to be spiteful to you, it really is genuine concern that you raise peoples hopes with such certainty... a certainty i don't think anyone has. I know its unavoidable to make certain statements that raise or deny hope in our interpretations I just think we have to bear in mind we don't know how the person is on the other end of this communication...what if you promise x that y will call or come back and he never does, then that is even more painful for them than it would have been isn't it ?

I guess its their choice and responsibility who to believe, on the other hand I wonder how much responsibilty as a kind of advice giving forum we really do have and i have persistent unease about this area of the forum which doesn't go away..because not only is it the area people meet the Yi for the first time, its become something i don't thinkit was ever meant to be..a place where people come to be told what to do and if we don't adhere to certain cautions in our predictions we may leave some people feeling a helluva lot worse than they ever did to start with which isn't what the I Ching is all about.


So to emphasise, this really isn't personal. Mostly i can agree with your answers or see where your're coming from...its just sometimes my conscience really does prod me to contradict you..as I don't think you can say with such great certainty what someone else thinks or feels.

28.1 might mean he has lost trust in her but theres no good reason to think so..if it were in a very negative sense i don't think 28.1 would have come since 28.1 has a degree of care and sensitivity, keeping something safe...a total breakdown of trust I'd expect the lines in 23 or something.

The fact remains you don't know for sure whats happened in the relationship, you can only get an impression from the answers which even then are open to interpretation... I wonder why you make out you know for sure ?

Anyway the responsibilty does not rest with you but Hilary as its her forum so if i had so much of an issue with it I'd put it to her rather than argue with you, but shes not bothered about it so theres no point so it stays as it is...but i am still bothered about it so all I do is sometimes contradict you because to me that seems the right thing to do but it is not because I dislike you or think your interpretations are always wrong...so lets not get ito a personal fight over this. I'm not setting out to prove you wrong or anything my motive in contradiction is more concern for the querant than interest in upsetting or annoying you.
 
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I just got a message from Trish asking me to delete her account because of Willowfox's last post.

Trojan - yes, a lot is my responsibility, and yes, I'm concerned. I would say more if I had an instant solution to suggest; at present I'm just relying on the mix of people here to create a balanced perspective overall, while I work on improving the free membership as a whole. I'm aware that this isn't ideal.

Willowfox - you have poured out a lot of personal abuse on Trish's head that was utterly unjustified by your limited knowledge of the situation, and you've reached the point where your personal grudge against her is wildly distorting your interpretation. You owe her an apology. I'd be happy to forward one to her on your behalf.
 
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Thanks everyone for your help in this. I'm feeling a lot better this afternoon, I've had a lot of love, advice and caring support from my friends and family. They reminded me of my strengths and how everytime they have been in trouble I've been there with compassion and now I need to apply it to myself in this situation. I have decided not to leave but to let it go for my own peace of mind. I don't want an apology, I've just blocked willowfox. Water under the bridge as the expression goes.

I read tarot myself so I know all about reading for others and I was willing to hear all interpretations of the i-ching. You never attack or break a querant down, to other readers being sensitive and compassionate with your readings is an utmost quality! readings should be objective and never personal! unless you wish to share your own experience! I'm also a spiritual healer/reiki teacher so luckily I had lots of healing at hand lastnight. Its easy to be vunerable especially when your on a site asking for help with interpretations, our guards are naturally down in order to accept help. I am usually very discerning where it comes to accepting advice as i like to follow my own tao :) my heart. I am very open minded about anything thats said and this will not hurt my feelings, of course within reason- no personal assaults :)

This situation with my friend, I will tell you a little about why we fell out. I didn't feel it nessisary to include it- plus my post was already a long one ;) it is a delicate matter and I was alittle weary of sharing it online, of course this is my privacy. But my friend hurt me, he did something unforgiveable to me and I took a course of action for my own safety to end the friendship. One night we got drunk, he came on a little strong, he bit my neck, frightened me half to death and out of panic I had him arrested the next morning. he behaved in a way that shocked and scared me and was out of character. I'd known him for such a long time. He was locked up for a few hours then i dropped the charge. It is the most difficult position I've ever found myself in. I heard that my friend had gone through a terrible time because of the counter measure I had to taken, I am very sensitive and loving and could not leave the friendship in that state of unhappiness, for my own peace of mind. Also I loved him very much so I attempted to reconcile. I have done all I can to bring healing and forgiveness into this relationship. I feel a overdid it a little to be honest, I'm worried that i pursued and i shouldn't have. so you see my feelings are a mixture of guilt and uncertainty. I am sincerely unsure about what to think of my friend- hence my hesitation in contacting him. What happened between us was a shock and unexpected. Now I look at the I-ching reading, I imagine thats what the shock line meant.

I hope you will be sensitive to this issue as its taken a lot of courage to share it with you.

if anyone has any help or advice about the I-ching

Kindest regards x

Ps. i'm only 27! so as to making mistakes I think I may be allowed a few :) only just out of pampers ;)

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Thank you for staying on! :)

Nobody needs to block me anymore, you have achieved your deepest desire to get rid of me, as I am now totally fed up with the whole show. In actual fact I am disgusted by the way that some of you have acted towards me.

What's the bloody point of trying to even explain anymore, I'm tired.
 

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The whole scenario was a bit confusing to read and follow. Originally, you seemed to feel you made a mistake by telling him that if he wasnt going to respond to our texts, etc, then you were going to forget about it. I dont think that was a mistake at all, fwiw. You did try, and you were not overdoing it, but he failed to respond.

I was completely confused when Wf said you waited too long, or were willful or stubborn. I didnt see anywhere that you said you waited five months! It said you tried, intermittently, for five months to contact him, to no avail. So I think WF misinterpreted the post.

I dont think you made mistakes. You were not saying that your original action ( calling police ) was a mistake, but imo, that didnt seem a mistake either. You were fearful. Perhaps he truly was being irrational.

But to get back to your readings, I never felt they indicated anything about making a mistake in waiting too long. Your 24.4.6 reading seemed to me to indicate exactly what was going on....you were attempting to make a return/reconciliation , but you were coming back alone (no response) and perhaps trying to reconcile a relationship that , for now, had reached the point of no return. It didnt have to be anyone's fault, it just wasnt an energy that could be reactivated ( at the time).

and the best attitude to have: 60.6 ....ease up, give yourself a break, it doesnt do any good to beat a dead horse. you did all you could.

as for the 28.1 and him, I saw that he was finding a soft place to rest. the events took their toll, and he had a large responsibility in the events. a lot to think about for him.

The future is still the future. changing as we speak! Who knows? if you had a sincere and worthwhile friendship, it may well re-activate itself in the future. It isnt unusual or odd that you got impatient to hear from him and gave him an ultimatum. It was human. Some day he may surprise you and call you out of the blue, and a new chapter could begin.

I dont thnk there is any reason at all to be regretful.

PS Maybe your friend was reading too much of the Twilight series and imagined himself to be Edward. Stranger things have happened! PPS: It's okay to make jokes. When we cant laugh at ourselves, we are really in trouble:eek:
 

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In these past 5 months I’ve rang him twice and sent a couple of texts and had no replies

To Bamboo,

The above quote speaks volumes about her true feelings for the guy. In 5 months she ONLY sent 2 texts! And then gave up! They were supposed to be the best of friends for 5 years, but she can't be even bothered to make regular check ups on the guy or even just pop around to pay him a visit. She made absolutely no effort at all and now she is crying for help on this forum.

Best of friends? Who is she kidding!

Like I said before if it had been my best friend I would have been around his house promptly, at least within 7 days, forget about texting, you need to always be face to face when a friendship gets a bit rocky. 5 months absence between true friends would seem like an eternity but not to this young girl.

I have not misinterpreted anything that she has said mistakenly.
 

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This child and Trojan are both reasons I no longer want to participate on this forum any longer, I say something that is deemed harsh to this child and people say that I am talking way out of line, and I include Hilary amongst the guilty. Hilary quickly ran to the defense of this child without even reading what she had written and without looking at her questions and seeing what the answers that she was getting were.
Read, understand, and stop having sympathy for people who admit that they are guilty one minute then later repudiate what they originally said, and thereby seek a shoulder to cry on.
As I don't play games, I get slagged off as per usual on this site, then Hilary wants an apology but for what may I ask, what did I do wrong, I told the truth but the child didn't like it so went crying to Hilary who automatically found me guilty.
Justice? Don't make me sick.

Yes, I was being stern in my replies to this child but I did see her and still see her as being part of the reason for her predicament that she is in, she ONLY made a half hearted attempt to contact him. Did he even receive the text I wonder? She never tried to find out did she? Why didn't she talk to him? Because this whole stupid story is a childish game and to all readers, rest assured nothing is clouding my vision or interpretation.

Read this before Hilary deletes it!
 
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Everybody is guilty, but Willowfox. Can anyone doubt it? ;)

The Yijing says: Water on the mountain.Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself and molds his character.

But not everyone is a noble one, I guess.
 
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Everybody is guilty, but Willowfox. Can anyone doubt it? ;)

The Yijing says: Water on the mountain.Thus the superior man turns his attention to himself and molds his character.

But not everyone is a noble one, I guess.

Another maggot crawls out of the wood work!
 

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