11.2 to 36 tricky relationship issue

[liliber]

Hi all... New here, with questions. I've been visiting for a while, looking for deeper ways to interpret readings and finally dared to join and ask myself. Lot's of wisdom here :bows:

I asked: "how should i be/react/feel in this situation with S? should i have hope?" (realise these are many questions at once, probably too many, but they are also interconnected - I TRIED to be specific and keep it about myself in the situation, and not about what S may or may not feel).

I received: 11.2 into 36

The background is: a friendship that became more when the situation seemed right, S did take the lead, but I followed. We both knew the timing was bad (too close to a pending divorce - with which I had nothing to do, it was a mutual decision on their part and not a quick one. I do not know the ex and have lived abroad for many years). It all blew up in our faces, of course. Currently there are hurt feelings everywhere: an ex-partner who may or may not become new partner again thanks to all of this and much guilt and fear on S's part...myself who feels equal parts an idiot and betrayed, and S who I am pretty sure just feels all around awful. We are not speaking. This is perhaps a good thing for now or forever, but I can't quite let go and it feels horribly unfinished. It is also very sad because the love is deep and real, I don't doubt S's sincerity in what happened between us. But I question his actions in what followed, and I realise we may have lost each other in every way.

So, looking for answers and guidance, and some aid in interpreting the reading above. Brutal honesty is always welcome
Thank you so very much for your time and any and all wise words... xoxo

 

[loverofknowledge]

Hi, I see hexagram 36 as the context of your question. Now is a time of adversity and you must guard your inner light (your dignity, your virtue) in the face of a situation that is causing stress and a sense of obscurity, e.g. the obscurity about your relationship with S with whom you are not speaking. You are burying your light within the earth.
However, hexagram 11 is one of peace and prosperity. Line 2 shows somebody who is bold enough to cross a stream without a boat and is warned to remember one's comrades.
This stream: could it be that you are separated by a stream from these ones you care about?
Or: could it relate to the power of what you experienced with S which caused you to forget S's comrades? So that your boldness was misplaced?
Or could it be your inner conviction, that this powerful experience has been valuable, but now you must pull back and be considerate of the feelings of other people?
It sounds like there is a lot of hope, here (hex 11), while now is not the time to assert yourself.

 

[liliber]

Hi loverofknowledge... Your last paragraph resonates the most, and I do believe that to be true. There is no literal 'stream', and I never forgot about S's comrades, but I did believe/trust him to have more of a handle on (or insight into...) his own situation - which, it turned out, he did not. Things has to play out the way they will, without any interference. It is what it is and if it is meant to be, love will find a way. Thank you for your valuable insight! xx lili

 

[Tim K]

I agree with lover,

take a passive position (2nd line, minister/subordinate waiting for orders from up high), the union, the coming together of separate parts is possible (11) but for now as 36 says - keep your ego, logic, desire to change things and to apply force - down. Nothing to do but endure, wait.

 

[MusicianSavant]

Any update?