13.3 Do I need to be scared ?

[two_blueeyes]

Hello all,
I have a blind date on this Sat. I have never been on a blind date before, and really nervous about it. You would think that a woman in here 40's would have enough strengh about all of it. I've been poking around here and trying to learn more about the I ching.
The readings that you have all given me in a relationship problem, was right on.
Now am moving on with my life.

I asked will I be attracted to this date.. ( I know , pretty superficial of me )
I got 13.3 going to 25

It speaks of misstrust, missunderstandings, and someone plotting schemes ??
I think am taking this is that .. I won't be attracted to him..hahah

Or possible that the I ching is telling me that I have already gotten in my mind that this person should be mistrusted.. and I should not be trying to spy on them for asking such a stupid question ?
Any insight would be helpfull, and I will report back on how my date turned out.

 

[Trojina]

You didn't say anything about your last reading 39.4 to 41 given by Dobro and Barbra.

 

[Tohpol]

While you think about your reply to Dobro and Barbara I'll comment on this blind-date.

Scared? Not really. I think it's more like be more open and be more bold. You can always excuse yourself if he's a flake or a fruit-loop. It often wise to be cautious but I don't see it in this case.

Have fun. And yes, remember to report back and let us know. Feedback is really important - it's how we all learn and enrich our understanding.

Topal

 

[bamboo]

she replied to the 39.4 thread back on december 28....!

 

[Trojina]

She didn't even post the 39.4 thread till jan 20th so no she hasn't replied to it, you are looking at another thread of hers.

 

[Trojina]

To clarify I'm not picking on Blue eyes in particular its just I decided I'm not answering people who just get replies, ignore them and move on to the next question. Thats my choice, if it doesn't matter to you fine but I tire of it.

To be fair Blue Eyes generally does acknowlege responses but so many don't. I'm not trying to be 'response police' here but for myself if i see a person never responds to peoples answers and just goes on asking more and more questions I ain't going to answer them.....not that I flatter myself thats any big deal, but thats my choice.

 

[two_blueeyes]

Thank you..
This reading is telling me .. what I keep telling myself
Just do it and be bold.... It's a releif to know that it's not warning me of danger !
I will report back.

Trojan , Your right about 39.4. I checked back , the next day and did not see any responses as yet to my question. I honestly thought I did not get any. I will find it now, as the problem is still going on with my dear friend .
I do appriecate your time and wisdom.
Thank you

 

[Trojina]

Thank you..


Trojan , Your right about 39.4. I checked back , the next day and did not see any responses as yet to my question. I honestly thought I did not get any. I will find it now, as the problem is still going on with my dear friend .
I do appriecate your time and wisdom.
Thank you

Ah I see, sorry to pick on you...then again the upside is you realised you got some responses

 

[two_blueeyes]

Your right Trojan, had you not pointed it out... I would of never known..
Thank you!!

 

[meng]

Hello all,
I have a blind date on this Sat. I have never been on a blind date before, and really nervous about it. You would think that a woman in here 40's would have enough strengh about all of it. I've been poking around here and trying to learn more about the I ching.
The readings that you have all given me in a relationship problem, was right on.
Now am moving on with my life.

I asked will I be attracted to this date.. ( I know , pretty superficial of me )
I got 13.3 going to 25

It speaks of misstrust, missunderstandings, and someone plotting schemes ??
I think am taking this is that .. I won't be attracted to him..hahah

Or possible that the I ching is telling me that I have already gotten in my mind that this person should be mistrusted.. and I should not be trying to spy on them for asking such a stupid question ?
Any insight would be helpfull, and I will report back on how my date turned out.

It speaks of mistrust or being defensive. That sounds only natural to me, considering it's not only a first date but a blind date to boot! So both of you are a bit apprehensive. 25 is natural, and its meaning may extend to the meeting itself, which progresses on its own. Or, maybe Yi is whispering to you: relax and just be yourself.

 

[two_blueeyes]

update

Well, back from by blind date.
I think 13.3 was telling me to shut and and just go. Stop being such a scardy cat..lol

Had a wonderful time ! He was very attactive, fun and easy to talk to... we have a second date early next week.
To cool ... hu !!!

 

[Trojina]

Thanks, great feedback ! To me it tells me more about the nature of 13.3 than all the abstract theorising in the world would tell me...like a picture paints a thousand words...(or something like that). Its valuable too because in future people can access it in the hexagram index archives and learn from it. I wish more people would report back on how things turned out, it would so enrich the archives. As it is theres lots of questions and lots of really good responses....and then thats the end and you never know what happened next. Of course I suppose mostly by the time the issue has resolved the person probably forgot they ever posted, probably done that myself, still its really good to know how things turned out.

Additional footnote to Wilhelm, Karcher etc 13.3 means "stop being such a scardy cat" twoblueeyes 2009

 

[gene]

Blue eyes.

I might suggest another context here. Instead of making the reading outside of yourself, why not read it inside yourself. In other words, who is it that mistrusts and fears? And why do you do so? hexagram 25 speaks of innocence. Nothing better here than the opportunity to be spontaneous and innocent, and just allow to happen whatever will happen. Often if we look at WHY we fear... we learn something very big about ourselves.

Gene

 

[two_blueeyes]

Gene,
The fear comes from within me. I went through a very hard breakup with someone last year. I knew this person for 30 years, so not only did I lose a lover, but more importanly a person I thought was my best friend. He betrayed me. Am trying to get my feet back into the waters, you might say. So far, the men I have met, have been less than desirable, or their hearts are not free yet from their previous breakups. At the time, I recieved this reading, I was thinking about backing out of the date....lol Was feeling.. like why bother.
Glad I went, he is a very nice man , so far. 3rd date tomorrow.

Trojan.... Your right ! You guys take the time to help, I feel we inexperice persons should at least let you guys know the outcome. Sometimes, I read the questions, and have a curious side that wants to know how it turned out.

So.. anyone who is reading this... if your going to ask a question, show some appreciation and let give them feedback !!! Please.

 

[gene]

Hi blueyes.

Yes, I do understand the fear. I am purposely a little abrupt sometimes in order to shock people into looking at things from a different perspective. You probably didn't need it. Fear always comes from within. It is understandable and in a case like this is definitely more understandable for a woman who has more to risk on a blind date than a man would. But life is constantly trying to teach us, though we don't normally listen, to simply allow, and be at peace with whatever happens. Not an easy lesson, not at all. But it is fear more than previous relationships that in the final analysis keeps us locked up and unable to experience life at its deeper levels.

Your fear doesn't sound like the deeper type some would experience, but rather just that of worrying whether it will work or not. Sounds like it is going good. If it doesn't, let it be okay. I know that is hard. I had some hopes for someone recently, and it just suddenly ended with no explanation and no closure. It is hard for me to follow my own advice. And yet, that is what the universe calls upon us to do, and realize the "unreality" of material existence, and the reality of "spiritual" existence.

Good luck.
Gene