14.1.3 > 64

[maremaria]

Hi ,

I’d like to hear how do you see what I got .

Q: what should I know about him.
A: 14.1.3 > 64

Him, is a relative of mine with whom the relationship is not good. Actually there is no communication between us. It’s a relationship that affects me emotionally in a bad way and I’m trying to solve the whole thing for my own welfare .

14.1.The way I interpret this reading is that is not fault wanting to somehow cut any bonds with him or allow him to affect me emotionally.
14.3 “small people are not able to do” makes me thing that the thing I expect from him maybe he is not able to offer for his own reasons. Brand’s interpretation talks about possessions that one don’t offer but wants to keep for himself and literally is a part of the conflict we have with this person (me and some others too) but this is not the core of the problem.

64. “Thus the superior man is careful
In the differentiation of things,
So that each finds its place”

seems that it speaks about my wish to find solutions or ways to handle that situation and put everything (feelings/actions) in an order.

I’m very emotionally biased about that situation and I’m not pretty sure about my interpretation.

Any insights /ideas ?

Thank you
Maria

 

[meng]

Hiya Maria,

What I'm getting from your answer is that it says "You are bigger than these feelings you are having" and "Don't draw conclusions or make assumptions just yet."

Fire over Heaven: let your understanding rise above it, expand beyond it.

 

[maremaria]

Thanks Meng,

If I have understand you well, its seems that 14 lines maybe talk about my feelings and that maybe the small man inside me is the one who has the control now and doesn't let go /give away those feeling.

what i cannot connect is what you said "Don't draw conclusions or make assumptions just yet."

Maybe if you could say something more ? "not yet" troubles me.

 

[willowfox]

Q: what should I know about him.
A: 14.1.3 > 64

The line says that nothing has happened between you yet but if you wish to start contacting him then expect real problems because he is not a nice person to deal with at all, the words petty and greedy comes to mind.

Hex 64 is warning you that this person is difficult to deal with and one mistake on your part will spell trouble for you, you need to be very cautious if you plan to go ahead with your idea of trying to sort the problem out. Danger, think carefully before you make a move.

 

[maremaria]

Hi Willowfox,

Yes, he is something like what you describe.

about 64. Yes he is a very difficult person to deal with. The danger is something I have in mind too.

Thanks

 

[rosada]

I also see these hexagrams as advising 'Don't draw conclusions," because 64 means It ain't over yet.

14.1
No relationship with what is harmful;
There is no blame in this.

Yeah, this certainly sounds like you needn't feel obligated to have interactions with this person if he is bringing you down. Is he a close relative so you somehow feel you've got to put up with him? In that case the line further advises, "If one becomes conscious of the difficulty, one remains without blame." I see this as meaning you know there is a problem here, but you can dance around it for those occasions when you are required to be with him.

14.3
A prince offers it to the Son of Heaven.
A petty man cannot do this.

Offer it up to Jesus.
That is, although it would have been nice if this person could have played his role better, you do not have have to suffer for it. Don't bear him any grudges and life will provide what he should have from another source. Small minded people cannot understand this concept.

64.
The superior man is careful
In the differentiation of things,
So that each finds it's place.

Recognize what is important here and don't obsess about what is best forgotten.

 

[maremaria]

Hi Rosada,

Thanks for your interpretation.

I assume somethings about what 64 is about but it seems I have to go and read about it again. Most of the times I don't "see" something is because I can't face it.

thanks again

maria

 

[rosada]

I got a real insight into 64 when we were moving my mother into a new senior residence. Some of the boxes were to go to her new residence and some were to go to the garage. It was a confusing job but we got everything done ... except we hadn't clearly labeled the boxes and when we came to unpack we discovered the movers had taken several of them to the wrong place. Auugh, confusion all over again. So now I read Before Completion as meaning be careful, some final important detail at the very end could be overlooked and you'll have to do it all over again. In relationships I have also had this hexagram indicate that just when you think you've resolved your difficulties and are now going to treat each other with respect and even be friendly, wham, they do it to you one more time - so don't let your guard down too soon.
When you are entering a time of new beginnings it is not enough to leave the past behind, you still have to set up the new. Otherwise you will just recreate the old.

64: The job ain't over till the paper work is done.

 

[ben_s]

Hi Maria,

I can empathize with this, I have a similar frustrating/heartbreaking non-relationship issue.

I interpret your reading as:
14 Strength only comes about when there is proper balance and harmony.
14.1 When someone is destructive, it's no shame to not give them another opportunity to be hurtful.
14.3 All you can do about this is to pray. If you do ask a higher power's guidance and help, then:
64 Things seem close to the way they should be, but don't rest too soon. Everything is at least slightly askew. The situation will only become appropriate if all the remaining work is done. And absolutely everything about the situation has to be shuffled before anything is really right.

 

[dobro p]

Q: what should I know about him.
A: 14.1.3 > 64

The 'big having' between him and you hasn't happened yet. (Which implies that it WILL happen some time in the future. Stay tuned. Don't throw him away.

 

[maremaria]

Rosada,
I liked your example with the boxes. Yes , I also see in 64 “it ain't over till is over”. Maybe it has to do with attitudes or actions I intend to follow and thoughts like “no, it won’t work» etc…

Ben
You said : “it's no shame to not give them another opportunity to be hurtful”. I agree.

Dobro,
You said “The 'big having' between him and you hasn't happened yet”
That cross my mind too . Looking at the image’s comments “The noble one by terminating evil raises good, by yielding to Heaven relaxes in fate”(14) and “The noble one is cautious when differentiating things so that each finds its place” 64 make me think what i consider as a “big having” and from where I can get it. In other words which is a “wishful thinking-big-having” and which the “reality-big-having”

still thinking about it ....

Thank you all for your insights.
Maria