14.2.5>13 reconnection

[psychonaut613]

Haven't been too lucky in love and after the last devastation, I spent the last year thinking about all these things and alot of lessons from previous situations clicked and I finally came to I need to be happy anyway, if something doesn't work out I can't live in misery anymore and I need to recognize the signs sooner so I can get back to myself sooner and continue my path.

I have been in a position to be around someone I met 5 years ago but nothing happened between us mainly bc of a move. We're spending time together and did spend a night with some fooling around and everything but the actual sex. She was talking about an ex the other day but briefly and now today talking more about him and texting him while we're hanging out, she was open about it not hiding it, however I think I see where this is going and also touchy feely stuff hasn't been happening, and using statements starting with I when talking of the future and not saying anything that includes me, soo.. before I start to distance myself, thought I'd ask the iching and 14.2.5>13.

Then, sitting here realizing my head is spinning with thoughts, which always before happened when it was about to be over before so I asked is it already too late bc even that spinning w thoughts thing alone screwed me up before and 21.1.5>12 so.. well I didn't feel too invested this time so at least I know I will be fine, but I will see what you all think

 

[marybluesky]

Hello,

14.2 shows a valuable possession you may transfer anywhere you want, and 14.3 talks about an offering only great people can make.
The second hexagram is 13- people in harmony but not so close.

Not sure. Maybe 14.3 says she can't do it, so you won't get closer.

21.1.5> 12 there's hardship in this way.

 

[psychonaut613]

Well she has been staying with my brother as she is friends with his wife and in a transitional period, therefore we have been around each other, no way out of it really, I am at my brother's house allot.
And so there was a night she spent at a guy friends house.
On the one hand, we aren't together together and she can do what she wants, on the other hand, if she always really liked me as she has claimed, I don't think spending a night with someone else, whether anything happened or not would be something to risk doing if something she wanted to happen with me for so long finally had a chance...

Is there any other way to see this that is not negative possibly deal breaker? 56.1.3.4>27,
Line 3 I remember seeing somewhere something like once it's burned down, it will never be the same, hmm.. I kinda feel sad for her if she really did like me as much as she let on and then messed it up pretty good like this, but then, that's how it is nowadays, we live in a culture where people self-sabotage and also ruin even good relationships for no apparent reason... Not that this is really a thing as of yet

 

[redoleander]

14.2 contrasted with 14.3 could possibly be that one of you values this connection more than the other, hence the sort of middle ground of friendship or acquaintanceship of 13. 14.2 is more receptive while 14.3 implies needing to give something up. It may simply be that she doesn’t value the connection in the same way or wants to make another choice.

I’m wondering how you phrased the question though?

 

[psychonaut613]

Ahh well, over the past few days I got 44.1.5>14 don't grasp the woman and 52.4>56 leave her alone, Really just another time waster looks like..