16.1->51 regarding a relationship renovation

[Sashamarie]

Hello all

It's bees a long time since my last iching questening.
Well I had a long-distance relationship with this guy for a long time, after we finally met and that looked really good and he seemed so interested, he came back to his city but started to act so distant whenever I contacted him.
Then I asked him directly if he wants this relationship to get more serious or not and he said he should think more... But after a couple of days he said he was sorry and it's better for both of us to have our own lives .

It really broke my heart but I wished him luck and stopped contacting him.

It was a couple of months ago and we didn't have any contact since then, but just deep down in my hear I still have feelings for him. I know he has some family issues but I didn't expect this.

I asked iching if he has any intention of doing something to renovate this relationship with me and I got 16.1-> 51.

What do you think about it?

I will really appreciate your help!
Thanks

 

[taoscopy]

I asked iching if he has any intention of doing something

Don't ask the Yi about other people's intents. Though in your case it does not matter since he told you himself.

I got 16.1-> 51
-> When one starts showing their confidence they come back with embarrassment.

It's a descriptive answer:

he said he was sorry and it's better for both of us to have our own lives

The matching line of 16.1 is 51.1 so an interesting move would be to manage to surprise him in a pleasant way. The matching line often gives you the solution to your problem. However since:

after we finally met and that looked really good and he seemed so interested,

That was already 51.1, and the consequence of that has been 16.1.... You can't play ping pong between 16.1 and 51.1 all your life, so the best would be to ask the Yi what course you should take.

 

[Sashamarie]

Thank you for your answer,
Actually I did ask about me long before I ask this, although it may seem rediculous after he rejected me, I asked "what I should do to get to marry him?!" And the answer was quite surprising:

39.4->31. So that's why I dared to ask about his intention this time!
Also I got hex 5 several times to another question about expecting him back to me!
Once 5.4.5.6->14 and another time 5.5->11, and also 5.2->63 when I asked if he is going to be my future husband.

I just think they are indicating something... they can't be just my fantasy

What do you think of this combination?

Please help me interpret them together

 

[taoscopy]

"what I should do to get to marry him?!" And the answer was quite surprising:

39 - Uncertainty

Facing a difficulty requires a patient study. If one fails, they will receive help after showing that they have done their upmost.

4 - Others are not there so one has to wait for them.
In the making
31 - Impulse

When one helps others, they come.
http://taoscopy.com/en/consultation/887678/

Well you have multiple ways of interpreting this, the pessimistic one which tells you that he's not ready for that, but remember the warning against reading into other people's mind... You can also take this as an advice to make him wait. If you see him regularly for example in a bar then change your habits and stop going to this place. Become rare.

Also I got hex 5 several times to another question about expecting him back to me!
Once 5.4.5.6->14 and another time 5.5->11, and also 5.2->63 when I asked if he is going to be my future husband.

5.2 means a bad start, you'd need to discuss about it. Discuss with the Yi or maybe but you can figure out what he thinks about wedding without asking him too directly. Maybe he's against it or he thinks that he's not ready for that. His opinions may be very different than yours on this subject, so you'd need to either find a compromise or way to persuade him.

The other results are quite good, you need to show patience, keep your calm (5.4), and let him come to you with confidence (5.5). Keep consulting the Yi about how you should proceed, but you'll need a lot of patience to succeed. He might have felt overwhelmed by your enthusiasm.

 

[Tim K]

Richmond, 16.1:
Repose in this tao means awaiting a new cycle of activity with calm confidence, but here in this moving line the life force produces inactivity that we do not like (line 6 is accepting activity).

Because we do not like the inactivity of this moment we become busy about it. The misfortune is that we miss the experience of peace in the present and are ill-prepared for the next movement of the life force

This fits with a series of 5 you've got.
Wait, allow this pause of communication to happen.

"What I should do to get to marry him?!" 39.4 → 31
There is nothing you can do. You don't have a complete picture of the situation, active action will lead to obstruction.

And 5.4.5.6 → 14
Advises to wait for someone else maybe (5.6 surprise), or for a change of situation.
While enjoying what you have now (5.5), don't just sit there and wait - go out with others if you want.

 

[Sashamarie]

Thank you both.
Actually now I think the only thing I should do about this relationship is waiting and being optimistic until he makes up his mind. I know he had feelings for me too but perhaps his issues were more than he could do anything at that time.
So based on lots of iching readings I guess it's all about him deciding to come back and I have already done all in my side

 

[Sashamarie]

Hello taoscopy,
I was wondering if you have any idea about my new consult with iching since you know about my last post.
Thanks a lot

 

[Sashamarie]

Hello ashteroid

Do you have any advice for my new post regarding this course?
Thanks a lot!

 

[Sashamarie]

Hello again after several months!

It has been a long time since my last discussion with iching.
I have had a break up several months ago and my last post was about that.
During this period I was just waiting with no action and there was no connection between us at all, and we are totally unaware of each other.

I just asked iching "what would be my fate and future regarding this guy?" And the answer was:
15.5.6-->53

What do you think?
After several months, any changes?

Your help will be very appreciated:bows:
Thank you!

 

[innertruth]

Hey there.
When I got 15 it was always advising me to be realistic in my expectations..
It's like telling you "to get down to earth", whatever that could mean in your case.
Maybe not to have any expectations. Trying to be as objective and grounded as possible?
53 is something of a longterm nature...could be a long case to wait..

 

[Sashamarie]

Thank you innertruth. Could you please tell me more about 15? Should I be more humble or expecting humiliation? What does it mean really?
And about 53, is it not a hex related to marriage? I am very confused