18.3.6>7

[goddessliss]

Hi,
Well anyone who has read my previous posts will know I have had to move 8 times in 4 years.
I am now living in a temporary situation which I took up in the hope that it wld give me time to find suitable, definitely loooong term accomodation for my son and I.
Unfortunately the person who is helping us out by allowing us to live here, although I insist on paying rent, is a bit of an emotional, mental abuser and it really is starting to get me down.
We have a number of our possessions here and the rest is in storage in which I cannot fit anymore of my things in.
I asked what action shld I take to find suitable accomodation for my son and I Hex 18.3.6>7
Line 3 talks of the ancestral father and I wondering how that fits in.
We have had a lot of problems with my sons father which are now seemingly to be finally resolved but we have not lived with him for over 18 months now and he is actually travelling in another state so how is this relevant.
thku for your insight yet again
Melissa

 

[ginnie]

Could it be that the son's father is ill -- or that someone else is ill? Sometimes line 18.3 signifies that you might need to interrupt your advance, your plans to move, because someone really needs your attention.

Taking on the task of rectifying someone else's problem means that in the end no one would blame us for neglecting our responsibilities.

Line 6 is interesting, because the person is considered to be outside the affairs of this world and to have no further duties or responsibilities of an ordinary, mundane nature to carry as a burden. 'People in this position have nothing to do other than to attend to their own affairs.'-- Thomas Cleary edition. In today's terminology, perhaps we'd say that such a person is 'working on herself.'

Some translations add to the meaning of 18.6 saying that one still must not look down and criticize other people, who are still engaged in struggle.

Your reading might be setting these two lines as if they were two alternative routes you might follow: either tend to someone else's troubles, or withdraw from the troubles of this world completely and work on yourself, as your own conscience dictates.

But it could just as easily mean that you must interrupt what you want to do, because someone really needs your attention. Only after you have taken care of that person would you be free to pursue your own interests exclusively.

So, the reading seems to be throwing the question back on you to consider well and meditate on. Can you, in good conscience, abandon the needs of someone you know in order to pursue goals that are purely your own?

Does this make sense?

 

[goddessliss]

Thks Ginnie,
All I can offer here is that although I don't personally have contact with my sons father I do know that he is struggling greatly in his life with his own personal issues relevant to the whole marriage and family breakup.
I think a lot of regret and a lot of guilt about what he has actually done in leaving us and the way he left us.
But certainly I have not put my life on hold because of it.
He did try to contact me recently but I still refuse to have any contact with him as I still have not got over the break up and it concerns me that I will fall apart emotionally if I talk to him at this stage. He does have a partner in his life whom he left us for but I believe it is not the best relationship.
But other than that I have gone forward in my life and achieved so many things personally since he left 18 months ago and although still grieving am very happy with the way things in my life are turning out.
But will see what pans out in the next week and see how relevant it is to this reading.
blessings
Melissa

 

[ginnie]

But certainly I have not put my life on hold because of it.
He did try to contact me recently but I still refuse to have any contact with him as I still have not got over the break up and it concerns me that I will fall apart emotionally if I talk to him at this stage.

Maybe you cut him out of your life too drastically. However, nobody would blame you for acting as you did.

Tell you the truth, Melissa, I see quite a number of interpretations of 18.3, not just one. It seems that the gist of it is that when we act energetically as you did, we are bound to feel some regret.

Don't sweep it under the rug, that he's still hurting and you're still so sensitized to all these issues. Some of this still needs to be addressed and tact is needed.

This is 'unfinished business,' making it hard for you to move ahead.

The I Ching advises you to think about all this for three days before doing or not doing anything. After you have decided and acted, think about it again for three days.

 

[ginnie]

I have another thought to add on 18.3:

Karcher's I Ching says: 'Small has cause for sorrow. Without the Great, a mistake.'

By 'the Great,' I think he means the Great Person's capacity to shelter and protect others.

In any case, it might be a good idea for you to ask Yi what is the mistake you are likely to make if you move now, since 18.3 is often associated with the making of a regrettable error. Or you might ask, "How can I avoid making that mistake?"

 

[goddessliss]

Thks ginnie, will do as u have suggested with the 3 days.
I prefer to respond than to react in haste. x

 

[goddessliss]

As it turns out my son was very sick and we couldn't move into our new place for 3 days until he was a lot better.
We lived in our new place for close to 18 months.

 

[deusa]

Thanks for posting what happened. It really help!

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