18 uc / 14.2.4.5.6 - 63 / 34.1.3 - 40 V. surprised

[looking4]

Hi to all,I've been Reading you for a long, long, long time, but never got in until today. By the way, thanks to all, as your thoughts and insights have helped me a lot through all these years with Yi.As I said, I'm not new with Yi, I have been reading and learning since I came accross it many years ago.The thing is that my closest Friends know it, so sometimes they come to me to cast for them and share my thoughts.I write you exactly because of that. A friend of mine has a big crush on a married man. She has been with this "thing" for over two years now, and although they have this extremely close relationship and almost constant communication, nothing has happened, and when I say nothing, is a big fat zero, nothing physical at all. So I have always told her that this was absurd and that she should let go even the "friendship". Her reasons not to were that he really liked her, but that he had never found himself in this situation before, so he doesn't know hat to do.Well, as I'm a bit more pragmatic, for the way the guy behaves with my friend, I always thought he was a player, he "knew" how to do things, never thought of him as naive in this sense at all. So she asked me to cast if he had been "playing behind" his woman before. I told her (as usual) that yes/no will not work very well, but anyway somehow she Managed to convince me and I did. Result 18 uc. For me, a big YES. He knows the game. My friend was not v. happy, obviously, as the "naive prince charming", apparently, was not naive after all, but then, she asked I question I didn't expect, that was "Why has he then not made a pass on me?" I did the question for her and result was 14.2.4.5.6 - 63, which was hard for me, as I hardly ever get so many changing lines. However, now, I was shoked, as I got to the conclusion that he, with those changing lines, hadn't "acted" because what started as a normal, light, fling with her, he has found that is something important for him? He actually wants MORE tan a fling???At this point, it was me who was curious, as I more or less believe that an old dog does not learn new tricks, so it was me who proposed to cast the last question: "Hasn't Y acted because he is in love with X" And I got 34.1.3 - 40 Sooooooooooooo... Could it really be a sort of yes? So much "vigour" going to "release"? She is a dear friend of mine, so I said I was not very clear at that point and I will go through the last to casts and told her in time. I would really would like to now your insights on this, as maybe I'm seeing "pink" because I really want it to be right for her (after so much time), so maybe I have a biased view for my appreciation of her.Thanks a lot in advance, and sorry for the long post.

 

[diamanda]

Hi looking4 and welcome.

Here's my view on these readings.

if he had been "playing behind" his woman before - 18 unchanging
Yes I'll agree with you, he has. A can of worms, obsession, sickness, etc etc. Long-standing corruption.

Why has he then not made a pass on me? 14.2.4.5.6 > 63
Because if she did pack up and go see him (14.2) by travelling to a different place (14.4), then the "relationship" would have to move towards an honest one, a real one (14.5) and your friend would probably expect the world from him (14.6) and a proper interaction between male/female (63). He has probably promised her lots of stuff, he has probably made her believe that he wants something more from her? So he doesn't make a real pass, because then he would have to follow up on his (obviously empty) promises, and he doesn't want things to go that way.

Hasn't Y acted because he is in love with X? 34.1.3 > 40
A clear no, to me. 34 = raw male power, and 40 = release (ahem...).
34.1 says that advance will bring misfortune, so, no advance, not even of the toes.
34.3 speaks of a guy who uses "deception", "a net" (the internet?).
Actually this answer, in combination with the 18, gives me the impression that the guy doesn't physically cheat on his wife (IF there is indeed a wife... I can't see a third party anywhere in the readings), but that his obsession is finding "release" online.

I mean, even if it was true that he has a wife, and he has fallen in love with someone else... he still can't figure out what to do, after two years? Really sorry to hear that your friend is in such a sad situation.

 

[looking4]

Hi Diamanda, Thanks a lot for your answer and welcome. First, I would like to apologise for my spelling and way of writing, but I'm having some difficulties here with spaces and caps, they seem to "disappear" and "appear" randomly.I agree with you that the story is sad indeed, but also would like to explain my interpretations further, so we can share views, but first, I want to know how to "write" properly here to articulate correctly. Can you please advise on the spaces issue? It's due to my browser? Anyone with this problem can help me to fix it before I give my reply? Thanks a million!!

 

[looking4]

In fact, I erased my account and reopened it again to check if problem solved, but, obviously, it didn't :-( Please help if you can in order to go further into these questions. Thanks!