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dragona

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Greetings, again in need of further clarification.

How to earn more money (in a way that is the best, most suited, etc. for me)? 26.1>18
Did not get hex 26 in a long time, never line 1. Sounds like a clear stop sign to me.
In my situation, kinda does not make sense, except if it is possible to be red as "prepare first"?

What is to be expected in regard to resolving my financial family matter that is to grow in sum and what stand to take? 45.4>8
Hm hm...ok, it looks as if I am coming from the stand that it is a family matter and should be resolved in a way that everyone should offer some financial help. Or I need to consult a lawyer, since I received a lot of judgement and close to none financial help lately?
As short background to this question as possible, my mother is in a private nursing home for 4 months now and in last 2 months, her illness progressed a lot. My income is not of a regular kind, so this situation creates a lot of stress for me as I am responsible for additional costs to the place and mostly everything else and I have no other means of support or any capital. My sister is in a financial bind, but all I get from her is that she has no money, no time and cannot help me in any way and does not know when she will be able to. This is not a fair trade in more ways than I care to share on here.
So in light of this all, "Great fortune, no mistake" in line 4 does not ring many bells....more like, do the best you can, things will resolve on their own...but it does not give me any peace of mind and that is so very much needed. :brickwall:
If there is any interpretation you could offer that would help me get there, I would be glad to read of it.
TY,d.:bows:
 
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Hi Dragona,

I took an extra look at 45.4>8 in regards to your question to see if I could help sort of brainstorm on what advice the yi is giving. I haven't looked at 26.1>18 yet, but will soon. I agree with your interpretation on 45.4>8 so I will just try to add what came to my mind. Consolidation after gathering together. See a great Lord which offers smooth progress? Is it possible you could talk to the chief of staff at the nursing home about the conerns of your mother's stay and financial obligations that can either help or direct you to someone who can help? Financial aid/services available or even church organizations?
45 says persist in righteousness, to worship with a ceremonious sacrifice, that made me think of church organizations or even other organizations that assist people in financial binds. 45 says it is instrumental in going somewhere? To seek great auspiciousness. I read discipline each other? Afyer gathering others follow example because the admire their ro-model? Could the persuasion and example be talking about you and your sister or other family members? You are the ro-model here.

In 8: Bi to build intimate and interdependent relationship (for mutual assistance in a timely manner) again it says persistence in righteousness. Also 8 says to act now, in a timely manner, because if you are late youbwill experience some kind of misfortune. It also says to ask again. Establish sincerity, trust, be friendly, joyful and discreet with your deed,
low profile. Even in fan yao 8.4 says finding someone else who can influence the one you need assistance from. So whoever that would be, if its from your sister, who has the best influence over her? Her husband maybe if she is married, an aunt, someone she is close to that you could discreetly go to in asking for help in influencing help with the financial obligations. If not your sister then maybe its speaking of other family members or like I said head of nursing home/ chief of staff influencing financial aid. It seems to say you need a strategy, a plan and that when you go to whomever it is for assistance that you be joyful not focusing on the burden you have but more on the overall goal that everyone wants mother to be taken care of, and how can we all help each other?

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45 gather together, persuasion,
 
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I wanted to add in consolidation of gathering together, if you and your sister sat down for tea or lunch, maybe you could ask her to help you brainstorm on ways to take of mother? "Sis, I really need to find a way to have the financial means to take care of mother, what do you think we can do? Who could help us?" Because the yi seems to say after gathering together then you are able to consolidate?
 
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So, I looked at 26.1>18 and line 1 really confused me in regards to your question, so I thought, what were you thinking about when you asked the question? What was most important in your mind? Were you frustrated or having a dispute? Just seems to stop, maybe a certain way of thinking, a plan, ? But jist incase I looked at the whole reading to see if anything jumped oit at me in regards to your question. 18 says to fix wat is spoiled, was this talking about your relationship with your sister? Or maybe it could be saying get your mother well enough to take her. Out of the nursing home and hire a nurse aid? Cheaper route=more money. 26 line 1 says exactly what you said, going forth leads to cruelty and sterness, so stop it. But fan yao (and no I don't usually use the fan yao actually ) but 18.1 says stop a bad habit or practice, make it right, something that has been going on for generations, perhaps stemming from your father. Hmmm, how to make money? Still don't see how that ties in. 26 says act with the right timing, store up, reproduce, restrain, silidify. Heaven stays inside the mountain, signifying that which the mountain stores is huge, made me think of mining gold or diamonds. Could you sell jewelry? But it also makes me think of gardening or farming. Could you sell fruits and vegetables or baked goods? It says large storage, and great restraint. This again makes me wonder if you could either put mother in a smaller nursing home/less expensive, then you wont have such a big restraint on finances or get her well enough to bring her out and hire a nurse or aid. The changed hexagram of 26 is 45. That's interesting. It says its important not to eat alone, just makes me think have lunch with sis or someone who can assist you. Or... work part time in a bakery or restaurant? Seems to suggest there are resources available, discipline yourself to prevent perhaps getting upset or doing any wrong. I don't know what any of this could mean for you, if anything at all. Sorry for the misspellings, I'm in a hurry and don't have time to correct. Hope it makes sense.

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A lot of thoughts but sadly not much to use from, even tho some thoughts are logical to me, coming from the symbolical point of hexes.

The place she is now is among affordable ones, not the best tho, while place in state one takes forever to get, and was told in a stern way I have to be punctual with my payments, even tho they know when pensions arrive, they want it sooner...
And to clarify what kind of a social care for elderly we have here-while place in state home takes forever to get-if I declare to state I have put her in a private home, they will take away a small additional allowance she is getting from them because of the complexity of her illness, never mind I am officially unemployed and get no help from the state in finding work or paying my/our bills. Need I say more...:duh:

My sister did not visit or probably even called for over a month, as I counted on that she will at least do THAT, since I was in a financial bind. Did not contact me on the subject either..Need I say more...
She expects me to take care of everything and at the end she gets her share. I am certain that is her strategy. To be fair, she did pay my bit a few times the first time around in a nursing home, but now gives no clues at all...
Her game is a long played one, condescending and playing a victim - if I am sick, she is even more, if I had hard time at my job, hers is even hared, etc...and I am a single weirdo, living off my mothers, so now I suppose I have to pay my debt, as she sees fit....mother favored her and made always a clear distinction of whom she admires...she is too ill to understand the irony now. I did post about this issue before, so I will stop now. Seems hard not to get into details when asking for interpretation help here...
Perhaps this seems bitter, but it comes from experience. I want not to skip my obligations, but to see if I could count on her help in the future, you see....thus the question.

I was quite distressed after contacting her and then casted 26.1, but I did see it as possible potential within myself-needed to get a compliment, I guess :rofl:

As you see, quite hard to get it right for me.
Thank you for your response, I will sleep on it.
 
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How to earn more money (in a way that is the best, most suited, etc. for me)? 26.1>18

Hi,

probably you won't like how I see your readings but I believe that this reading comes to add to your previous one. I do understand and can relate the difficult situation you are in and how tired and fed up you are with all those difficulties.You have every right to feel like that and deserve a more easy life but circumstances are not helpful and you are strongly convinced that nothing of the ideas have been offered in your threads are not going to work. It seems to me that 26.1 refers to that way of seeing things in your effort to 18 your finance.

I have to confront a similar reality and there are many times I feel similar. And my partners feeling the same. However , I can see that this way of thinking is not helpful and I try to concentrate to what can be done. Mind you, It needs a miracle and the cooperation of some people that are not inclined to help at all, yet what I say to my self and my partners is that we have to give a honest try even if we know it difficult to succeed.

The problem is huge and the consequences serious . its like we need to move a mountain but what i try to say to me and them is that the mountain consists of many many rocks so moving a rock today another tomorrow something may happen. I have broke down the problem in small chunks so nowadays we try to ind ways to solve those tiny problems.

Maybe the times are not fertile to solve once and for all your finance, but maybe there are different ways to approach it. Delays in your payment cause you extra anxiety and that puts you down. Was thinking what if you write down all the bills you need to pay for a month or depending how you pay them and sum up. You will come with a specific amount of money that you need to gather so you can be one bill upfront. that way any delay in payment will have to do with a bill is due next month not yesterday.

all your reading ,including your 45.4 talk about help from friends, asking help, accepting to be helped.
you mention your mother's expenses and that there is something she probably owns ( the share your sister expecting) Why don't you think of liquidate that , maybe a laywer can help you. If you can't support fully the expenses tell your sister you can't. What she might see is that you complain but you do it. Why she should bother ? Make it her problem too and if she can't help then you might need to sacrifice some properties to solve the problem.

I feel that your reading suggest you have the power to do it .. use it. I know your are tired and what i say might feel heavy but you have to take care of your self and invite and let others help you too. ...Sorry if I sound harsh.

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Dear anemos, I read you as being nothing but kind.
Uncertainty of it all gets me down, that is the truth.
But I am not dismissing advices.(They are inspirational in all kind of ways sometimes-fan yao even sort of a way:p )
Learned better by now. I just have no energy to act upon what needs to be done, and it got long prolonged into some sort of lethargic state, dunno. IC is perfectly logical to advise 24 un in relation what I need to most focus on-not to flip :freak:
That is why I would need to distance myself, charge the batteries and plunge back in. But life grinds on.
I could be worse off, I am well aware, tho imagining it I have no interest in.
The whole situation is such that I have no power to liquidate and of course I know my expenses but it does not help much when you are always behind.
I will try to make some money on the side, just harder to get moving than it used to be.
Sorry to read you are in the similar situation but take comfort that you are not alone.
Thank you and good luck 2you2 :hug:
 

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yes, hex 24 feels like an oasis; roads are closed, inspectors on bank holiday and what you do is stay home for rest and renewal. :) ahhhhh !!!

I'm on a "no-feelings" mode those days and when I read your wishes my reflex was "oh, don't worry I'm ok" :mischief: which is not true .. I'm not that ok ;) so thank you for your wishes.

take care
 

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