20.6 Ending

[becalm]

Further to this thread https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/index.php?threads/the-dead-wifes-spirit-46-3-4.32875/

I decided it was just too much so I ended things. I did have strong feelings for him but it was just too much to deal with.
Now I need to find a way to move on because I'm hurting even though it was me that instigated the break.

Please show me the way to move on from this Hex 20.6>8

Looks like it's saying - remember the bigger picture and not just how I feel.

 

[rosada]

View the big picture and recognize there are a gillion other opportunities for Union out there!

 

[redoleander]

I think this is gently and lovingly affirming your choice. Your perception of the situation and relationship is correct. You’ve witnessed what you can witness and now you can move on. Maybe the way to move on is to write down the darkest and most painful feelings this connection brings up for you and the ways you weren’t satisfied or received so you can read them over if or when you forget. Not to cling to bad memories but to also just hold them with equanimity so that you don’t get confused in your choice and can know you made the right one.

You’re seeking union and this wasn’t the union that could meet you in that.

 

[becalm]

I think this is gently and lovingly affirming your choice. Your perception of the situation and relationship is correct. You’ve witnessed what you can witness and now you can move on. Maybe the way to move on is to write down the darkest and most painful feelings this connection brings up for you and the ways you weren’t satisfied or received so you can read them over if or when you forget. Not to cling to bad memories but to also just hold them with equanimity so that you don’t get confused in your choice and can know you made the right one.

You’re seeking union and this wasn’t the union that could meet you in that.

Thank you redoleander. I know I made the right choice but you're right it's good to write down the reasons why because desire v sensibility doesn't always match.

 

[redoleander]

Thank you redoleander. I know I made the right choice but you're right it's good to write down the reasons why because desire v sensibility doesn't always match.

I’m sorry the relationship couldn’t offer what you might have wanted. I feel that there is much more for you out there, definitely. It doesn’t make the feelings any easier but sometimes a person being SO difficult is actually a gift because if they were just minorly difficult you might end up settling and just managing the problems. It’s disappointing but at least you don’t have to settle and you can think about what you really want for the future.

 

[becalm]

I’m sorry the relationship couldn’t offer what you might have wanted. I feel that there is much more for you out there, definitely. It doesn’t make the feelings any easier but sometimes a person being SO difficult is actually a gift because if they were just minorly difficult you might end up settling and just managing the problems. It’s disappointing but at least you don’t have to settle and you can think about what you really want for the future.

Oh wow I never thought of it like that. I am renowned for tolerating BS in relationships and letting them go on and on but these last 2 didn't even make it past the 2 week mark. Still doesn't make it easy to let go of what I was hoping for especially when they themselves gave every indication they were super interested.
I'm finding it a bit of a heart/mind field because I can see 100% the awful place he's dwelling in, the place he calls an easy going life.....granted it's not my stuff which is why I've called it but I still wish I could get him to see.
At this point I can't imagine investing in any kind of relationship for quite some time. Not jaded, just need some time out. I learned lots about myself and where I'm at so yes you're absolutely right no need to settle for anything less. Thanks for your perspective it helps a lot.

 

[becalm]

He's been in touch and asked if we could talk things over.
We started this relationship in lockdown so it was quite intense and we only got to see a small part of each other.
We couldn't go out and experience each other in the wider World in a more relaxed way so I'm wondering if this reading is saying we need to do that and give ourselves a chance.

 

[becalm]

At this point we're going to try and work things out.

 

[steve]

Hi

When I receive this result, I tend to receive 20.5 as well. Its happened many times.
Just thought it might help

Steve

 

[redoleander]

Hi

When I receive this result, I tend to receive 20.5 as well. Its happened many times.
Just thought it might help

Steve

I've received 20.5.6 a lot too.

 

[becalm]

I'm not sure why you're both saying that but I do understand my reading a lot now we've talked things out.

 

[redoleander]

I'm not sure why you're both saying that but I do understand my reading a lot now we've talked things out.

Yeah maybe it's not helpful! If not, sorry. When I get both lines I take it as a call to observe myself and to observe others. With line six alone, it's usually having open awareness and objectivity around others' behavior and/or what I can learn from it

 

[becalm]

Yeah maybe it's not helpful! If not, sorry. When I get both lines I take it as a call to observe myself and to observe others. With line six alone, it's usually having open awareness and objectivity around others' behavior and/or what I can learn from it

You nailed it, that's exactly what's going on! Interestingly it's made him also do the same about himself.....I guess you behave like you do unless someone calls you on it and then you can be aware etc. and change or not. He does feel grateful I've given us a 2nd chance.

 

[steve]

Sorry, but thanks I sometimes get confused with the two lines, that's helped clarify it better.

Steve

 

[becalm]

Sadly but not surprising things went downhill again pretty fast.
I had my counselling session on Monday and Kinesiology yesterday and made the decision to let the relationship go once and for all..
I'm not happy about it but I'm comfortable with my decision.

 

[redoleander]

Sadly but not surprising things went downhill again pretty fast.
I had my counselling session on Monday and Kinesiology yesterday and made the decision to let the relationship go once and for all..
I'm not happy about it but I'm comfortable with my decision.

I’m glad you came to a decision that feels good to you although sorry it wasn’t the one you wanted. That 21.5 > 25 and the 41.6 line you had seem to affirm this so I think you can have confidence you’re in alignment with what’s being shown too. Wish you much peace and healing.