21.1.2.64 punish or not?

[AnitaS]

Hello all

I loaned almost all the money I have to someone I trust and who has supported me for many years. I needed liquidity and this guy promised me double the interest I was getting from the bank. At first it was ok. First 3 months I got the entire amount. Then they used my money to buy land and the trouble began. I barely get even half of what they were giving me per month. It's my living expenses. And sometimes like now they leave the city and then I can't run to the guys shop to ask for money. The money just trickles in. This time it's been almost a month managing on the small amount he gave me. Never do business with friends they say. The guy says he is awaiting a home loan and when he gets it he will return the money he owes me but that's taking too long. So I asked the Yi what to do in this situation and drew 21 lines 1 and 2 moving to 64. I suppose I should complain to the police. Any thoughts on this? Many thanks!

 

[Freedda]

Any thoughts on this?

What was the actual question you asked? Was it, what should you do about the situation? Or was it, should you try and punish this person for what they're doing? Or something else ... ?

 

[rosada]

What to do in this situation?

21.1 You have felt unable to move forward to bite through this situation. Possibly because you consider this person a friend and so you've been reluctant to take him to court or even to believe he is actually doing this, that is, playing you for a fool.

21.2 You need to actively get involved. Ask questions. Who is giving him a home loan? What is the delay? Is there anything you can do to facilitate movement? And also you should probably find out what are your legal options.

I doubt this is a matter for the police but you might have a case if you take him to court but that would require a lawyer. But mainly it would probably be good for you to investigate all your options as part of the life lesson happening here and by that I mean it appears you have got caught up in some sort of Soul Growth Experience where you are being presented with a situation where you must learn to speak up, ask questions and not assume that just because people/friends have good intentions at the outset that they will prove to be able to withstand the pull of money as time goes by. It's a cruel lesson but a necessary one so congratulations for taking on this tough assignment!

64. Once you start asking questions you will most likely realize none of what you are dealing with here is solid - the agreements were all hopeful, things have changed, new possibilities are on the horizon etc. etc. All shifting ice on water.
Before Completion is that phase in between after you've completed one episode - in this case, the "story" of you loaning your friend money and he paying you back in the agreed upon manner. That "story" didn't work out, he didn't fulfill his contract. So After Completion of that fantasy - it's over, you are no longer living that belief that a good friend can always be trusted to do the right thing, so now it's time to re-negotiate Before Completion of this continuing drama.

I think the over all message here is that you are caught up in a situation that is not going to be quickly resolved quickly. You are going to be in contact with this person for some time, so try to keep things civil. The borrower has promised to pay you when he gets a house loan. I think that's your starting point. Get over any idea that it would be rude to ask questions. But ask with an attitude that you are wanting this to be a win-win for everyone, you want the friendship if not to continue at least not to end with unhealing wounds. After you talk calmly for a bit he may be less defensive and ready to hear your own predicament and needs. You may need to set up a new payment schedule - like you go to his shop every day for $20!

Finally you may also be able to use this experience as an opportunity to recognize and exercise your ability to manifest what you need with or without money. Like read Think and Grow Rich and other books and videos that teach you how to program your brain for abundance.

Best wishes,
rosada

 

[AnitaS]

Thanks a ton Rosada for that very comprehensive reading. Luckily I have the signed agreement plus a recorded conversation too in which they promise to pay me back the principal. Even if they don't do that right away at least they can pay me the interest promised. Even if a little less for now. Believe me I have asked them several times about the loan. It makes sense for them to take the loan because otherwise the land just sits there and doesn't pay them back unless they sell and the selling won't happen anytime soon if they are to profit. So I do believe they have applied for the loan. They are a rather poor family of carpenters who are now earning their living in other ways. The family head used to be a priest and always seems so upright. I did say I want money daily but he says he doesn't have business daily. If I do bring in the police I should not tell them I intend to or they may just vanish.

Once again many thanks Rosada!