21.1.6 to 16 and 59.5 to 4 Please help!

[val75]

Hello,

I feel like I am at cross roads in regards to a love interest. I met this guy a couple of months ago, we went out twice but i felt a very strong connection. He appeared to be very keen also, except that he was very slow at maintaining contact, his excuse was that he was very keen but just busy with settling into this new city and busy with work, etc. We lost touch for a little while but then he contacted me again a couple of weeks ago but I wasn't able to pick up. He didn't leave a message and when i called him back he didn't pick up, I didn't leave a message either, hoping he'd see my missed call and phone me again. I haven't heard from him again though, and now after two weeks I'm wondering whether to let it go or send him a text…

I asked the Iching:

'will he make contact again?' and I received 21.1.6 which to means getting to the truth of the matter. However, I'm not sure if it is advising that I should get to the truth of the matter or whether he will make contact again and thus the truth will come out? any thoughts?
Line 6 is a bit worrying though ‘Shouldering a cangue so your ears disappear – pitfall.’

I also asked:

'what is the best action for me to take in regards to this situation/relationship?' and received 59.5 to 4.

I take that as meaning to contact him...However, I feel quite reluctant to contact him as I don't like to chase men and I feel I've already let him know that I am interested…however I do not want to have any regrets either... Any thoughts please?

 

[Tim K]

Just reading about your situation, i thought "why not contact him? it's so easy, call or text. Nothing to lose here".

Now the answers from IC:

'will he make contact again?'

21.1.6(Biting through) -> 16 (Enthusiasm)
Hex 21 represents two lips that cannot meet because of obstruction. Taking into account that it is a yes or no question, and the fact that the resulting hexagram is positive
(This begins a movement that meets with devotion and therefore inspires enthusiasm, carrying all with it)
I would say the oracle is acting as a mirror of you:
line 1 - your feet are blocked
line 6 - your Ears dissapear
He tried contacting, but you weren't there(line 6) and don't want to take initiative(line 1).

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'what is the best action for me to take in regards to this situation/relationship?'

59.5(Dispersion [Dissolution]) -> 4 (Immaturity)
The wind drives over the water:
Thus the kings of old sacrificed to the Lord
And built temples.

In the autumn and winter, water begins to freeze into ice. When the warm breezes of spring come, the rigidity is dissolved, and the elements that have been dispersed in ice floes are reunited. It is the same with the minds of the people. Through hardness and selfishness the heart grows rigid, and this rigidity leads to separation from all others.
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Line 5: His loud cries are as dissolving as sweat. Dissolution! A king abides without blame.
Just as an illness reaches its crisis in a dissolving sweat, so a great stimulating idea is a true salvation in times of general deadlock. It gives the people a rallying point-a man in a ruling position who can dispel misunderstandings.

Of course, go and dissolve this rigidity already, this deadlock. Take a lead, take a ruling position.

I don't like to chase men

Resulting Hex 4 - Be innocent like a child, learn a lesson, take a new approach for once.

A spring wells up at the foot of the mountain:
The image of YOUTH.
Thus the superior man fosters his character
By thoroughness in all that he does.

A spring succeeds in flowing on and escapes stagnation by filling up all the hollow places in its path. In the same way character is developed by thoroughness that skips nothing but, like water, gradually and steadily fills up all gaps and so flows onward.

 

[val75]

Funny enough soon after I posted the thread he made contact again…

Thanks so much ashteroid, for your insight:

21.1.6(Biting through) -> 16 (Enthusiasm)
Hex 21 represents two lips that cannot meet because of obstruction. Taking into account that it is a yes or no question, and the fact that the resulting hexagram is positive
"This begins a movement that meets with devotion and therefore inspires enthusiasm, carrying all with it"

In retrospect 21.1.6(Biting through) -> 16 (Enthusiasm) was reflective of a positive outcome to the question asked.

and..

59.5(Dispersion [Dissolution]) -> 4 (Immaturity)
The wind drives over the water:


Of course, go and dissolve this rigidity already, this deadlock. Take a lead, take a ruling position.


I'm working on this now…I love how the Yi is so wise!

 

[Tim K]

Funny enough soon after I posted this thread he made contact again…

Interesting, as trojan likes to point out: when you have lines 1 and 6, the resulting hexagram just bursts through the primary one.

Thanks for the update :bows:


I just can't get enough of them Hex 4 for you