22>3

[bambam]

Wow, this is terrifying like being on stage or something.

I used the iching for the first time this week because I am in a peculiar situation and conventional methods (like picking up the phone!) are temporarly out.

My lady interest and I have not spoken in many months, and things were left in a strange place, with lots of unanswered questions. I owe her a in-person conversation, but she lives far away so who knows how long it will be before we can sit down. She is a strong woman, successful, well-rounded and popular, I think. She might have strong feelings for me, that's up in the air, but even if she does, I can't imagine her letting anyone know she's unhappy! I want to know if she's been effected by our lack of relations (on account I sure have!) so I asked just that and got 22.3.5.6>3.

Is this about finding out I'm a good, simple guy? Or is it about her thinking I am not what she's looking for? There have been misunderstandings, and now I feel I might know her better than she knows me, but my intensions were always good and true, I think I could love her.

If anyone has any ideas, that'd be great! I just saw an answer by Mike (I think Mikey Key?). If you're still around, Mike, hope you'll have some tiem for this one. And anyone else is welcome of course. Thanks to anyone!

 

[willowfox]

I want to know if she's been affected by our lack of relations so I asked just that and got 22.3.5.6>3.

To be straight, I don't think she has been unduly affected at all.

 

[rodaki]

hi bambam

seen from a slightly different POV, I think your reading could mean that she leads a life full of charms but she doesn't let herself drown in appearances (22.3). The things she knows abt you maybe little (22.5) but she knows to appreciate them. She sees your honesty and integrity (22.6) but that doesn't cut it. You need to reach out to her to get you both out of the rut of a difficult start if you want healthy growth (3) for the two of you . . .

You know bambam, there is an expression with your name in greek, which means bringing things to completion in the swiftest and most effective way, a very yang way of doing things

lastly, looking into english phrases today I came across sth that I think fits your reading nicely:

Nothing great is lightly won,
Nothing won is lost,
Every good deed, nobly done,
Will repay the cost.
Leave to Heaven, in humble trust,
All you will to do:
But if succeed, you must
Paddle your own canoe.

from http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/paddle-your-own-canoe.html

good luck with your lady!

 

[tigerintheboat]

The Beginnings of Growth and Its Problems

The relationship is at the beginnings of growth and growth always has problems (H3). But you asked how things are affecting her. And the answer was "Adornment", making outward appearance affect internal worth. Is it possible that Yi is saying that your separation and difficulties are adorning her, making you see her internal worth?

The question is whether the lines refer to her or to you. By rights, they should refer to her, as that is what you asked. But Yi doesn't always play fair, and likes to answer the question behind the question, which is "what should I do."

So, not knowing either one of you well enough to make an educated guess, I would say Yi is up to its usual tricks and telling you what you should do.

Line 3: Concentrate on the idea of Adornment, making the outer reflect the value of the inner. Persevere and don't become lazy.

Line 5: Accept that sincerity is more important than material goods.

Line 6: The time for beautification is past. You have nothing to hide. Be sincere and be true to yourself.

These things may occur in sequence, not all at once. And perhaps they are what she is going through, or what you need to know about it, anyway!

Tiger