22 Unchanging - Please give me insight into myself and this person

[skittalion]

This person and I had a fight a long time ago and they will not speak to me nor go anywhere I am. Gets mad even if someone contacts them on my behalf. They have a very bad impression of me. However, I believe this impression is false and based on a series of misunderstandings.

22 Grace
Unchanging.


Thanks

 

[Trojina]

is this about the same issue as this http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...into-myself-and-my-friend&p=174561#post174561 ?

 

[skittalion]

No, it's not the same

The Hex's are about two different people. But we all fought about the same thing. Hex 54 is about my best friend who is a guy, hex 22 is about another guy who is friends with him that I have strong feelings for.

Last year I both fell into a depression and fell out with both of them. Hex 22 person seemed to think I was engineering meetings for the purpose of dating him when I wasn't, and someone told him I said stuff about him I didn't. But mostly just a series of bad adventures leading to a very bad impression. His level of attraction to me remains uncertain, but I'm more interested in simply communicating like normal people.

My friend Hex 54. Sort of watched from the sidelines, but then we both ended up filling his ears about it. And I got mad at him so he chose his other friend. There also seems to be some confusion about how this friend likes me, if it is as a friend or more.

Both men hurt me a great deal but I'm ready to forgive in and forget for the sake of happy relations, or at least I hope so.

 

[meng]

this impression is false and based on a series of misunderstandings.

Then change the impression (22) you make. But you then must also decide whether it's more important to make a good impression or to be candid. Sometimes it's a compromise (54).

 

[bradford]

Hard to interpret without knowing what your question was.
People should stop using the word grace for 22.
It's more about the spectrum from nearsightedness to shortsightedness,
certainly not seeing the bigger picture. Not all that bad if there are no
important decisions to make, but still very little perspective.

 

[skittalion]

K. The man in question has a bad impression of me to the point of not speaking to me or going anywhere I am. I want him to change his mind about me. I just asked for insight and got 22 unchanging. I can't make a better impression on him if he's not here. I haven't seen his face in over six months, nor had any contact with him. So any ideas?

54 is about a different person

 

[meng]

Yes, but they both emerge from your readings regarding similar matters, no? Think it's possible the readings both pertain to you or your circumstance(s)? To me, it appears as though you can either kiss up in an effort to improve the situation (pretty 54ish), or you can stand your ground and be you, take it or leave it. Clearly you can't change someone elses perception of you unless you adapt and appear to be what they want to see - even if that brings you out of your own element. It's actually not always a bad compromise; sometimes it can lead to self discovery and personal improvement.

Besides this, I've found Yi to choose what it answers to, and what not to. If I ask a question, and Yi's answers appear to answer another question, I stop and ponder that possibility. I know it doesn't always answer to what we ask; more to what we need to know.

While I like Brad's image of nearsightedness, and see ways it can apply, I don't share his overview of 22's essential meaning. I still lean much more toward LiSe's life showing or flourishing itself in specific forms. Here I see the the essential question asking, what form will you choose?