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esolo

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I have a strange situation going on with my partner. He told me that he was leaving Monday morning to go work for two weeks in a city about 5 hours driving from here. I assumed that he went. Tuesday morning I woke up, took a shower and went to work. Now, he has this odd and disgusting habit of using the bathtub as a bidet. When he does this he pulls back the shower mat and leaves it there. Whenever I need to take a shower I have to unfold the shower mat back down. This morning (Wednesday) I woke up, pulled back the shower curtain and lo and behold the shower mat was pulled back! Now, I didn't do that and I had taken a shower the morning before. When I left for work yesterday morning the shower mat was in place, not pulled back.

Some more evidence: Monday evening I had a dream in which he told me that he was still here in this city and had not gone to the other city. At the time I dismissed it but when I saw that shower mat I instantly recalled it.

I asked, "Why was the shower mat pulled back?"

24, unchanging.

I think he came back and I think the 24 is trying to tell me that there's a big change going on here. Would really like to hear some input.
 

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I think he came back and I think the 24 is trying to tell me that there's a big change going on here. Would really like to hear some input.

Perhaps the first thing you need to do is communicate. Talk about what's on your mind. If it comes to arguments and accusations - ok. But I think this needs an airing.

Regarding the description of your partner's bathroom habits which are "disgusting" and "odd" I get the impression there's quite a bit of anger and resentment that's been brewing for a while. This, together with your present suspicions suggests something in the relationship needs to change anyhow. Maybe all this is just a way for you to initiate that change and move on from what appears to be an unfulfilling relationship?

Sure, 24 can signify change and a return to the path. Have you strayed by not trusting him? Or does this change mean a return to your true path after some initiated changes in yourself or in the relationship? (It could even mean a literal interpretation of "Yes - he is returning that's why the bath mat is pulled back.") Maybe another consultation is on order. But first - talk it over with him would be my advice. When communication dies then the relationship will quickly follow.

Good luck,

Topal
 
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I asked "What do I need to know about our relationship?" and got

58.1.4 to 29

I have never known what to make of this hexagram. Isn't line 4 about having a good time but feeling that you can't fully enjoy it because of something else that's weighing on you?

I also asked, "What does he want to do about our relationship?"

32.3 to 40

This seems somewhat similar to 58.4. Someone is being tossed about by something and can't stabilize. If they continue there will be humiliation.

I'm somewhat perplexed. Does he have someone on the side, someone in this city? 32.3 gives me the feeling that he is worried about something, about not being consistent.
 

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I asked, "Why was the shower mat pulled back?"

24, unchanging.

The answer is simply telling you that your partner did his dirty deed once again in the bath while you were out, thats it.
 

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That was my first thought. That means that he didn't go to this other city as he had told me. He's still here in town. He lives with me so this is very odd. I've been talking to him on his mobile and he says that he's in this other town :)
 

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Hi esolo
Here's a few thoughts.........
I asked "What do I need to know about our relationship?" and got

58.1.4 to 29


Communication and interaction will open the door for harmony, and there is still some negative emotions that you have to work through. Try to stay positive 29 - Face your fears and address the situation

I also asked, "What does he want to do about our relationship?"

32.3 to 40

He wants to carry on as he is and doesn't realise quite the way that you are starting to feel. He needs a bit of a shake up.

Love and hugs

Mike
 

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My take on 32.3 > 40 is that he wants the relationship but because he is not being open with you on some issue, he loses face and meets with humiliation from you (Wilhelm). The current entanglement and confusion can only be resolved through communication - then liberation/release from the confusion (40) will result.

Laurie
 

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